There are a number of red flags that point to the fact that a guy might be a bit off his rocker, as these girls have, learning the hard way, found out. Read on to hear the horror stories of girls who've dated some real weirdos, and the red flags they've discovered in the process.
The Soldier Who Never Was.
“When he claims to have PTSD from Afghanistan, has nightmares so real he chokes you in his sleep, is violently racist towards anyone vaguely middle eastern looking, yet it turns out he never made it past week two of basic training.” (Source)
Guy Goes From Infatuated to Illegal Immigration Over a Girl.
“I spoke to him once on the phone. He was at a mutual friend’s house. I said ‘Hi, how are you?’ He made a high pitched giggle and handed the phone back to my friend. She gave him my address (she was in Germany, I’m in Australia) and he started sending me letters and little gifts. I start getting calls from customs because he’s apparently sending me jewelry without paying the right amount of tax on it. I tell them to send it back. On the ‘one year anniversary’ of our phone conversation, he sends me a floral arrangement that’s as tall as me with 18 red and white roses (white for my youth and purity, red for blood and 18 because that was my age, though he was a lot older). This is when I got the police involved. He continued to send me messages, telling me that he loved me, forgave me for involving police, that he didn’t mind that I had a boyfriend (who I was with before I even knew this nutter existed) because my boyfriend would understand that he and I were meant to be together, we were meant to be because we had the same blood type. He followed my favorite band around Europe, getting his photos taken with them in a t-shirt bearing my name. He said that he was coming to steal me away. Customs called me after intercepting more packages from him: they contained blood. The police blocked him from entry to the country and I didn’t think about it until about a year later. I was watching ‘Border Patrol’ and saw him arriving at Sydney airport and being detained by police before being deported. My heart froze.” (Source)
Perfume Isn’t the Problem Here.
“Had a guy get upset because I wore perfume to work once. He was all pouty about it and I asked what his problem was. He had some f–ked up theory that happy women in relationships don’t wear perfume since it’s something we use to attract men. ‘With the pheromones they put in that s–t, that’s the only thing it’s for! You can’t lie to me, you’re going to cheat on me.'” (Source)
Must Love Dogs and Other Four-Legged Friends.
“First date. He’s driving. I’m in passenger seat. Rabbit runs across the road. He aims for it. And misses it. And he is cursing himself out because he missed squishing the rabbit. Like road rage style cussing. My spidey sense goes OFF. I tell him that I don’t like this. Probably too loudly. He gives me the most cold lizard-eyed look and says, ‘Dumb animals don’t have feelings. Animals don’t feel pain.’ I say, ‘PULL OVER THE F–KING CAR!!! LET ME OUT, NOW!!!’ He pulled over but at first refused to let me leave. I inform him that that is the kind of s–t that serial killers think as kids. Animals definitely feel pain, and this date is OVER. Eventually he called me a psycho b—h and let me out of the car. I happily walked the mile and a half home. It was daylight and I knew the walk well. My mom always told me to watch out for guys who got off on hurting animals, because they’re the kind of guy to beat up their own kids. I just never thought I’d get the ultimate deal breaker less than 20 minutes into the date like that.” (Source)
Beauty Is Only Nose Deep.
“You know he’s crazy when he offers to pay for your nose job or boob job for your birthday, after you’ve been dating for 3 months, and you’ve never mentioned wanting either. You’re ‘not allowed’ to wear anything that shows your legs because you’re ‘too pale’ and ‘no one wants to see that.’ He threatens to shoot anyone who comes over, including your family, best friend, etc. He calls all of his exes sluts, but keeps folders of naked pictures of them on his computer and boxes of pictures and panties and wants you to look at them. At 28, lets his parents make all of his decisions/won’t do anything without consulting his parents first.” (Source)
You Can Never Have Too Many Bayonets.
“Asked if he could bring his rifle with a bayonet attached into my home. I said no. Sneaks it in anyways, and I find out he had ammunition in his backpack.” (Source)
I See the Future, and It Doesn’t Include You.
“I had been chatting with a guy a couple of years back. We had set a date to see each other but a week before I politely cancelled. Before I could even say ‘let’s meet up the week after!’ he started screaming over the phone that he had expected me to bail and that he was so disappointed but he should have known since I was ‘so pretty.’ My personality must be terrible, he continued saying he saw a future with me but now it was all ruined! After only two weeks of knowing this guy I was pretty shocked and very glad he showed his true colors that fast. Big red flag.” (Source)
Sniffles Spell Trouble.
“The Cokehead Alcoholic: This guy I knew from before she started seeing him. I’d been a bouncer at a local sports pub and had to eject him from the premises on more than one ocassion. When he arrived, he didn’t recognize me. He came over to watch a movie with us, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt at first. Then he disappeared into the bathroom, came out with the sniffles. Twenty minutes later, he went back in, came back out. My roommate and I were on the same page about drugs. Plant matter is fine. Powder is not. We both caught on to his frequent bathroom trips, sniffles and lack of a flushing toilet every time he went in. He then spent ten minutes extolling the virtues of alcohol, how it makes him a better man, and how powerful he is (not even joking. He went off about how much he LOVES to fight, because he ALWAYS wins). After checking the bathroom out and finding coke residue on the top of the toilet, I confronted him and told him to leave. He got aggressive, but he was a small guy. Even coked-out and feeling brave, I still didn’t perceive him as a challenge. I raised my voice and he punched the wall, putting a small dent in the drywall. I went into bouncer-mode and ejected him from the apartment, down the hall and out the front door of the building. He spent a few minutes yelling obscenities from outside before I went back out, and then he took off like a bat out of hell.” (Source)
Bathroom Business Belongs in the Bathroom.
“Piss Guy: This one was weird, there’s no other way to explain it. She’d brought him home from the bar one night when I was working. The three of us went back to the apartment together and he seemed normal. They went into her room to hook-up, and about twenty minutes later, I hear my roommate screaming, ‘What the F–K are you doing?’ She then called my name, and I came in to the most god-awful smell of piss I’ve ever smelled in my life. She was in the corner of the room, frantically trying to get dressed while Piss Guy was just finishing taking a leak, standing up, on her bed. Right where she had been, with him, only a few moments before. They’d already finished having sex, and he decided it was time to ‘mark his territory’ and he just pissed on her. The weirdest part was his reaction. We were both angry and disgusted, but it didn’t phase him. He simply calmly got dressed, and actually WHISTLED HAPPILY to himself as he walked out the door. Neither of us saw him again.” (Source)
Mama’s Boy Alert.
“Now I’ve been through the ringer when it comes to crazy abusive manipulative boyfriends, but someone I was never warned about was the SEVERE MAMA’S BOY. He lives in her basement for free and doesn’t help with bills. She does his laundry, folds and puts it away. Cleans the piles of dirty dishes out of his room. Doesn’t expect him to have a job. Uses the money from her car that he smashed to get him another. She cleans his basement bathroom, pubes and all. He never does chores. His collection of comics and models and action figures is bigger than your kid’s. He goes for dinner with her more than YOU. All the while HE IS TWENTY NINE GOING ON THIRTY. I wish I had known sooner…” (Source)
Sometimes Rejection Should Hurt.
“When a guy tries being manipulative and wants you to pity him. Some guy I went to school with messaged me on Facebook for the first time asking if I believed in the paranormal. Odd much? Over the course of a week he told me he had multiple personality disorder (yes I obviously want I date you now), how girls would always leave him, his mother beat him and would pretend to be two different people sometimes. He’d get SUPER angry at any hint of rejection and blame it on his other personality. Then one day after class he followed behind me and pulled my backpack and said he wanted to tell me something. And then leaned in to kiss me in front of everyone and I rejected it, and walked away. Afterwards he told me he took a bunch of pills and that he was going to kill himself or cut himself because of me and I never responded. I’ve lived with a manipulative person all my life and know you can’t feed these people. He’s still alive btw, and has used this technique to make girls feel bad or him. But what the actual f–k.” (Source)
Look for Those Who Live the Golden Rule.
“If they’re mean to waiters (or cashiers or ticket takers or whoever). If you think you get to be mean to people because you, in all likelihood, make more money or deserve more respect than them, I’m out. Also applies to homeless people. You don’t have to give them the coat off your back necessarily, but if you heckle them or respond rudely to anything they say, I’m out.” (Source)
The Meek Shall Inherit the Earth, or Win the Woman.
“I was once dating a guy who was a bit shy and very sweet, but lacked self-confidence. After four very fun dates he suddenly became distant, seemed down and we stopped dating. Cut to seven weeks later, I’m dating some other guy. After 3 dates he suddenly asks, out of nowhere, ‘How does it feel that I won you over?’ Confused, I asked what he meant. He explained he ‘took down,’ as he called it, the guy I was dating earlier by feeding him lies about me just dating him out of pity, so that his self-confidence would be crushed and he would stop dating me. He said this as if he was proud of it and I should be impressed. He then claimed to have the right for his ‘first time’ as a reward. No ‘first times’ were had that evening. After the date with Mr. Douchebag, I went back to the guy I dated first. I told him I knew what happened and we stated dating again. Lets just say that this time a ‘first time’ did happen a few days afterwards. We are together for 5.5 years now.” (Source)