People can be very mean to each other. They tend to not think before they speak and say something that changes a person forever. We all have accidentally said something hurtful but for these people they never can take back what they said because it's that life-changing.
Coming in Last
“‘We ranked all the guys in the class by how attractive they are. You came last, but don’t worry we still think you’re nice’. Years later and I still have self-esteem issues” (Source).
A Lonely Drinker
“‘Do you get drunk on your own? You seem like the type of guy that drinks alone’. To be honest it probably hurt so much because she was 100% correct” (Source).
How to Ruin a Massage
“I was pretty overweight in high school. I had a friend, let’s call him Joe. I had baked Joe some cookies for his birthday and as he was trying one, he tells me that he pulled a muscle mowing his lawn. I ask to have a look at it and try a little shoulder massage to make it feel better. He then says to me ‘Wow, Dukali… cookies and a massage? I would totally marry you if I never had to turn around.’ It broke my heart a little bit. I took my hands off him and took a step back. One of his other friends overhears this and says something like ‘Man, what the heck is wrong with you?’. Not a good day” (Source).
After 16 Years, It All Comes Out
“My now ex wife. ‘I’m tired being a wife, I’m tired of being a mother, I’m tired of playing house. I never loved you,I just wanted out of my parents house’. That was after 16 years of marriage. What was a really good 16 years, or so I thought. So I raised my kids from that point by myself. Because I love my kids” (Source).
A Mother’s Love
“‘I hope I die soon because I’m tired of taking care of you.’ – My mom. She said that after I got injured and got sent to the hospital for the nth time” (Source).
One of the Guys
“Not intentionally hurtful, but there were a multitude of guys during junior high and high school that saw me as a sister, or ‘just one of the guys’, and although it was cool to have guy friends and have them all feel super comfortable around me, it sucked to hear that from one of my crushes, especially when it would be immediately followed by talking to me about the girls they liked. A few choice sentiments: ‘I mean, you’re just not really the ‘girlfriend’ type, you know?’ ‘You’re not ugly, but you’re not really pretty either, you know what I mean? Like, I don’t even really think of you as a girl.’ ‘I wish more girls could be like you. Like, your personality and sense of humor, but also like, hot, you know?’ The late 90s and early 2000s were a wonderful time” (Source).
Who Deserves a Valentine?
“Grade 5, everyone in class got a valentine’s card from the most popular girl in class except me. She told me, ‘you’re too fat to get a valentine’s.’ I still think about it. F–k you Margaret” (Source).
“Girl found out I’m gay and said, ‘Wow, I wouldn’t have guessed because all the gay guys I know are hot’. She wasn’t trying to be mean, she was just incredibly dumb” (Source).
Some Painful Consolation
“‘Don’t worry, you’re not pretty enough to get raped’. I was going to meet up with a person I didn’t know in a place I’d never been to before, and was flagging my concerns with my friend. I think I was 14 or 15 at the time” (Source).
“‘It happened more than once, and I didn’t feel bad about it’. We were together roughly 6 years, engaged the last year and a half. We had a lot of good times, she joined the reserves too, I mailed her in basic training, I proposed at her graduation and was the only one who even came to see it. About a year later, around October I went off for a couple weeks of army Reserve duty in another state, came back and I could tell something was up. Always sat and texted in such a way that I couldn’t see her phone, she became distant. I asked about it and we decided to put a pin in it until after the holidays. Finally around March I really asked her and she said we needed a break, and I don’t do breaks but I figured I’d stay with a friend for a week or so. About that time I noticed some… symptoms… and got tested. Found out I had chlamydia, lucky it was something easy to cure. I immediately called her when I found out and met her at the house. I just came in and asked ‘why?’ She acted like she didn’t know at first but I pressed on and she eventually admitted sleeping with some guy while I was gone in October because she needed someone to talk to, went home with a guy friend from work and one thing led to another. I was like ‘Well was it a 1 time thing? Was it just a mistake? Do you feel bad? I understand people make mistakes…’ that’s when she hit me with that line, ‘it was more than once and I didn’t feel bad about it’ at that point I wiped my tears away and said ‘That’s fine, I guess we are done here’ I got a Uhaul and was out less than 4 days later. 6 months pass and she gets married to this guy and they buy a house together” (Source).
Too Good to Be True?
“After 2 1/2 years she came with that: ‘we really have a perfect relationship but that’s not what I want right now’ – I’m still confused after 4 month and really don’t know why the hell she decided to end it. Luckily I am half way over it” (Source).
Stabbed in the Back
“In 3rd grade, I was bullied by my entire class. The school administration had done nothing about it. One particular kid convinced everyone that I was weird. Everyone would ignore me and tell me to go away if I tried to talk to them. My only friend was a Somali girl who helped me with the bullying. One day, I was sitting with her in lunch when she turned to me and said, ‘Dartheinstein, people would actually like you if you weren’t so weird’. I was so crushed by this betrayal that I burst into tears and ran out of the room. My mom was called and I never went back to that school” (Source).
Fallen Out of Love
“‘I haven’t been in love with you for a while’, as my ex so succinctly put it. Thank god my current girl is a better partner in every way, but sh-t that hurt as hell” (Source).
Not Cause for Celebration
“My ex told me on our eight year anniversary ‘Don’t come over today. Being with you for eight years isn’t something I want to celebrate.’ I definitely cried. It was an incredibly abusive relationship. He would choke me and push me around and call me names and tell me how stupid or ugly or fat I was (at 5’2 and 110lbs). He cheated on me almost monthly and groomed me to just come to accept everything that was happening. It can happen to the best of us, unfortunately. But the past is the past and it’s over now!” (Source).
Words Really Can Hurt
“My then boyfriend had been having stomach problems and was throwing up a lot. I’m chronically ill, so I understand how it feels to be sick all the time. One day, he said to me, ‘I know why I’m throwing up so much; it’s you. It’s because I can see the true you. You’re weak. You’re a waste of beauty. You’re a shell of a human being. It’s disgusting’. I broke it off soon after, but he continued to emotionally abuse me” (Source).
“If you were more attractive, I’d date you. (After I sang her heart to a puddle in 7th grade)” (Source).
“‘You don’t actually think I like you, right?’ Right after sex when we were 17” (Source).
A Well-Deserved Comeback
“I was a fat kid in seventh grade and had just transferred to a new middle school in our new city. The first response I got from a girl after I said hi and introduced myself was a snarky laugh and her asking, ‘What size bra do you wear?’ I’m not very proud of this but my response was, ‘I could ask you the same thing but we can all see you’re still in a training bra’. Now I’m a nice, considerate person but unprovoked aggression and bullying really pisses me off” (Source).
“‘Mixing races never works.’ I don’t think I’ve ever been more crushed” (Source).
All in the Numbers
“When my ex, who was my husband at the time, told me I was 4 / 10 because I’m overweight but his best friends wife is 7 . I know I’m overweight and I know I’m not a ten but he was my husband at the time ya know?” (Source).
Karma for Bullies
“Grew up in a small town that I was not originally from but moved there when I was 6. There were roughly 350 people altogether and the school was K-12. Since I was an outsider I was bullied regularly but there were three girls in particular who were total f–king b–ches. Before I’d never say anything to them but after one incident I had enough. I quite literally was two words into a totally harmless sentence when the dumb blonde of the three looked at me and said: ‘Shut the f–k up. We have no time for a waste of f–king space like you. Nobody will love you, nobody will ever want to be with you, you’re going to die alone because you’re f–king weird and we all hate you. Every last one of us hates you and we couldn’t care if you dropped off the face of the earth’. I remember why I never spoke in school at all for the duration of grade 10. It was a big newsflash for me because I knew she was right. It had some negative long-term effects but after that moment I didn’t waste any time calling them out on their bullsh-t. Oh and she’s knocked up for some skeet who’s like almost 20 years older than her, lives with his parents, and does nothing but loiter and endlessly do drugs. Karma does come full circle” (Source).
The Truth Hurts
“In high school a girl called me skinny virgin nerd. It only hurt so much because it was true” (Source).
“I am a 16 year old boy and over the past year I have really been struggling with how I look and about 9 months ago I decided to lose a lot of weight. Over a period of 5 months, I lost over 50 pounds and went from being 6’1 and 208lbs to 150lbs. At that point I recognized that I was getting too skinny and was starting to struggle with that and on a particularly bad day, a girl in my science class decided it would be a good idea to turn to me and say ‘You look like a drug addict because of all the weight loss’. Having my insecurities validated by someone I thought was a friend really screwed me up” (Source).
One Ugly Nose
“Why does your nose look like a penis?” (Source).
Finding Out Too Late
“‘I knew you wouldn’t be comfortable with it if I told you we weren’t gonna be exclusive, so I lied!’ My ‘girlfriend’ was apparently only 1/6th mine” (Source).
“‘I only asked you out because I didn’t want people to think I was gay.’ Having dated her for a few months, I thought things were all fine and dandy. Well, I go over to her place one day and she comes out to me and tells me that. I felt so deceived, so confused. This happened 2 days ago” (Source).
The Beginning of the End
“My ex wife told me she wanted our kids to look like her and be white and not Asian like me. That’s the moment I realized how big of a mistake I had made marrying her. She said it like it was not a big deal and said it was unfair for me to be upset and hurt about what she had just told me” (Source).
Can’t Measure Up
“As a dude 5’5″ and very insecure and lonely in high school ‘You’d be so hot if you weren’t so short’. I have so many come backs for that now but damn that hurt. Something you can’t physically change” (Source).
A True Friend
“We were at a club one evening and one of my buddies hooked up with a girl. His ‘girl’ has 2 friends with her and we were 2 guys. His ‘girl’ said to him, ‘Don’t you have any better looking friends?’ My buddy then immediately said ‘wow, f–k off’, and left the girl. We then went for pizza and I paid for his food” (Source).
“You were a really nice starter boyfriend.” (Source).