15 People Whose Marriage Lasted Less Than A Year Explain What Happened

Marriage is supposed to mean forever... but for some people it can only mean a few months.

A Whole New Kind Of Online Dating

“We expedited the marriage because she was pregnant, and I loved her already, so wasn’t concerned about it. I was working crazy hours so she could stay home with the baby, and our schedule started shifting so we didn’t spend as much time together. She had postpartum, and started playing online role playing games all night, and met a guy who didn’t work, and lived off of his mother, so he had all the time to talk to her. Long story short, she kissed our daughter, gave her to me, and ran off with him. Fast forward over a decade, and we’re fine as friends now, and my daughter is with me. The karma is time and lifestyle haven’t been kind to her, and our daughter would rather be with me, and trust me more.”

(Source)

Wait Til After The Wedding

“College roommate. He met a girl junior year that our ENTIRE group though was wrong for him. But love is blind. Fast forward to summer after graduation and they are to get married in the fall. I am in the wedding. They were apart for most of the summer as he was working and she was finishing school and putting the wedding together. We converge on her home town in Colorado, wedding goes down, big reception, LOTS of money dropped on this one!! We see them off to the honeymoon and I return back home. Seven days later, I get a call from him asking if he can come stay with me. Sure. ???? I pick him up at the airport – single. At his insistence we hit the nearest bar, and I get to hear all about how she cheated on him over the summer but went ahead with the marriage because she felt pressured by how much her parents were paying. She told him pretty much as soon as they were alone AFTER the ceremony. Not at any time during the 7-10 days they were together BEFORE the wedding. She insists they go on the honeymoon to ‘work things out.’ But refuses to be intimate as she still has feelings for the other guy. So he never returns to her. Gets checked for all the STDs – negative, and has the marriage annulled within 6 months.”

(Source)

Is It Worth It?

“My ex was previously engaged to a man with a terminal illness. They were together for many years, but he broke it off ‘for her own good.’ She was also sexually abused by her father and there was a lot of baggage that came with that too. We were very good friends in high school and reconnected over 10 years later. She was completely open with me about everything, so I knew was I was getting into. With a broken heart, and broken family, she found comfort in an old friend, and what I feel happened was she mistook safety and normalcy for love. She was way out of my league by many standards, so I tried to give her everything she needed to make her happy. But she was dealing with a lot of mixed emotions. Because of her abuse, she very rarely enjoyed sex and thought she was letting me down as a wife, even though I told her I knew this going in and never expected anything and never pressured her one bit. When she needed space, I gave her space. But when she needed somebody to talk to at first it was me, but I didn’t have the history that her and her ex-fiancé had. She would call him in the middle of the night at his third shift job. At first I tried to be understanding of it, but it hurt. I knew she still loved him. We struggled, tried separating, it was a roller coaster. Things were back on the way up while lying in bed one night she asked me ‘Is it worth it?’ meaning all of the ups and downs over the past year. I said ‘Of course it is, I love you. As long as we love each other enough, it’s worth it.’ She look back at me with a look of guilt, and that’s when I realized, she didn’t. Not another word was said, I got up and slept on the couch. Left for the final time the next morning. That was 8 years ago. I’ve been in a few relationships since, but ever remarried.”

(Source)

A Beautiful End

“My mom’s marriage to her first husband was only a year, year and a half at most. He was diagnosed with cancer and he said that he wanted to marry her before he died, so they got married and took a honeymoon to Hawaii, because he’d always wanted to go there too.”

(Source)

Second Choice

“She had another boyfriend when I proposed and kept him around while planning our wedding. They got married after our divorce. Don’t get married while you’re in the military. Listen to the signs.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddq6jt/])

Relationship Status Update

“We were deployed to Okinawa. My friend married his girl prior to deployment. He found out mid deployment that she cheated on him. But the way he found out was kind of messed up. He checked his FB one day and saw a message from some dude he didn’t know. The guy straight up told him that he slept with his wife. She didn’t say she was married and when he checked her FB he saw she was married to my friend. He felt guilty and had to message him. My friend wasted no time and divorced her in Oki. I’m not sure if that was possible. I just remember him doing some kind of legal work the following day.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/ddds1oe/])

Shouldn’t You Have Talked About This Earlier?

“My cousin was married for eighteen hours, or something ridiculous like that. To hear her tell it, there was a really apocalyptic argument on their wedding night over where they went from there. The moral of the story appears to be that before you get married, you and your spouse should have roughly compatible ideas of what you’re looking for out of a marriage: how many kids, when to have them, where you live, whether you both work, money issues, etc. That’s not stuff that just works itself out magically over time.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddsfdd/])

Got The Wedding In Just In Time

“Dated for a few years and decided to move in together with her roommates. The same year we did that, she gets diagnosed with ovarian cancer which is why I am very angry at the sexist attitudes doctors have when it comes to women. If they allowed her to get her tubes tied like she wanted years ago, they might have found it at an earlier stage. But there’s no good symptoms or signs of early stage ovarian cancer. We were going to get married this summer but her oncologist said to move it up, so we got married this past September. She died in December.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddzp92/])

What A Catch

“Husband decided to start an affair within 3 months of marriage, found about 6 months after. Still maintains there was nothing wrong, just thought it would have been over before I found out…oh and our baby was only 6 months old. What a catch of a man….started divorce proceedings after waiting the year minimum.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddkoys/])

Bad Circumstances, But A Great Result

“Mine lasted just a little over a year, but close enough. Married my girlfriend of 4 years right before getting deployed. She didn’t have anything to keep herself busy while I was gone (job, hobby, etc.). Ended up getting into drugs while I was gone, then I got her pregnant during my 2 week leave in the middle of the deployment. She felt so trapped that she had talked me into agreeing to give our child up for adoption once she was born (I was so blindly in love with her that I would have agreed to darn near anything she suggested). She ended up leaving me a week after our daughter was born, and cancelling the adoption, taking her back from the adopting parents. Long story cut short, she got back into drugs (pretty sure she wasn’t on them while pregnant with my daughter), had 2 more kids with whoever was her dealer at the time, and CPS ended up stepping in, which gave me full custody of my daughter. Not a day goes by when I look at my daughter and wonder what the fuck I was thinking, and I’m so glad to have this wonderful, crazy, little girl in my life.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dde0caj/])

A Whole Lotta Love To Give

“She started feeling ‘trapped’ as in, my expectation of monogamy was too much. So she discovered polyamory, decided she wanted to be polyamorous with her boss, and that it was worth opening the marriage no matter what. She was pretty surprised when I divorced her.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddopsj/])

More Roommates Than Spouses

“Nothing really… went wrong? Nothing really went at all. We had been dating for seven years so we thought it was a safe bet. Realized a year into our marriage that we were better as separate people. And it sucked. There were a ton of tears, a whole lot of begging not to let it end, a whole bunch of ‘trying new things (living separately, splitting money, etc)’ so that we could be apart together but it just didn’t work. We were just live-in friends when it came down to it. And I think, too, that if we hadn’t gotten married, we never would have seen it. It was sort of the impetus for us both to move on, as shitty as that might sound. It was a shake-up in our otherwise completely hum-drum stable life, and it ended up working out for the best, but it sucked for a long time…”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddjyd4/])

Location, Location, Location

“Friend of mine bought a house in a small town with his new wife, and he continued to commute one hour each way to work in our city. She worked part-time in the small town. Around the 10 month mark of their marriage she cheated on him with a mechanic in that small town. That was five years ago, and she’s still with the mechanic but he won’t commit.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddop8l/])

No Money, Mo’ Problems

“My ex wife and I lasted about 7 years, but her first marriage ended pretty much right at the year mark. They were both 19, she got pregnant, they got married and tried to make their life work on one $8/hour income, with her as a stay at home mom with no money, no car, and no friends in the same place in life she was. Day in and day out stress drove them apart.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddpo3m/])

Abuse Is No Joke

“Shouldn’t have ever walked down the aisle in the first place, but abusive relationships mess with your head. When I think back now about the ‘cold feet’ I had, I realize that they were warning bells, not cold feet. The final straw was him cheating on me. Hurt like hell but I am ultimately thankful because THAT woke me up, and then I could finally realize ‘Oh holy shit, all those times he hit me or choked me…yea, that’s pretty fucked up too.’ The mental game abusers play can seriously mess with your perception of reality.”

([Source][https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5sah9t/redditors_whose_marriage_lasted_less_than_a_year/dddogd9/])