Men Share The Most Hurtful Thing A Woman Has Said To Them

Just because women are the fairer gender, that doesn't mean they're always sugar, spice, and everything nice. Sometimes, they can be downright vicious. These men thought back to the cruelest thing a woman has ever said to them, and boy are they a doozy! Content has been edited for clarity.

He Uprooted His Life For Her

>>> “‘I’m numb to you.’

I moved across the country for a girl. We did the long-distance thing for a while, and she even lived with me for several months in my home state. After having dated awhile and living together we were still very in love and thought we were pretty compatible. Once we got to her home turf, everything changed. After two days of me being there, she left to go on a family trip for the weekend. The next night, after she left, she had been acting weird/wouldn’t say she loved me, basically dumped me over the phone. I waited for her for two days to come home as she promised we could talk and try to work things out. She finally got home, said almost nothing, then told me, ‘I’m numb to you,’ that she doesn’t love me anymore and had no intention of trying to make things work. I was still really blindsided by everything, it really was out of the blue. I slept on the couch that night, she watched me pack my car while drinking tea on the porch the next morning. Before this, I was living in a house and got rid of all my furniture and a lot of the stuff I owned, so I had to move back in with my parents while I figured things out and got my life back on track.”

When He Came Back Home, She Was So Distant

>>> “We were together roughly six years, engaged the last year and a half. We had a lot of good times, she joined the reserves too, I mailed her in basic training. I proposed at her graduation and was the only one who even came to see it. About a year later, around October, I went off for a couple weeks of Army Reserve duty in another state, came back and I could tell something was up. She always sat and texted in such a way that I couldn’t see her phone, she became distant. I asked about it and we decided to put a pin in it until after the holidays. Finally, around March, I really asked her and she said we needed a break. I don’t do breaks, but I figured I’d stay with a friend for a week or so. About that time I noticed some…symptoms. I got tested, found out I had the clap, luckily it was something easy to cure. I immediately called her when I found out and met her at the house. I just came in and asked, ‘Why?’ She acted like she didn’t know at first, but I pressed on. She eventually admitted sleeping with some guy while I was gone in October because she needed someone to talk to. She went home with a guy friend from work and one thing led to another. I was like, ‘Well was it a one-time thing? Was it just a mistake? Do you feel bad? I understand people make mistakes…’

That’s when she hit me with, ‘It was more than once and I didn’t feel bad about it.’

At that point, I wiped my tears away and said, ‘That’s fine, I guess we are done here.’ I got a U-haul and was out less than four days later.

Six months passed and she gets married to this guy and they bought a house together.”

She Was Always Belittling Him, But That Was The Last Straw

>>> “We had been dating for eight months at the time and she constantly put me down. Whether it be harshly talking down to me about what I do for fun or getting mad at me and calling me names for wanting to sleep and being with friends. She is in Canada and I’m in the US, that’s a three hour time difference with me being the later time. A lot of what she said I took to heart and it always hurt, but nothing was worse than what she said to me one night.

We were talking as normal and I was sharing a couple of songs that I had made. I knew that I wasn’t that good of a producer by any means, but what I had made did make me proud and I enjoyed sharing it with others for that reason. Well, she told me that I’m never going to get anywhere in life. She said that the music I made wasn’t good by any standards and that I have no future in it, that no matter how hard I tried, nothing good would come from it. She destroyed me with how badly she was talking about it. I knew that she didn’t take too much of a liking to what I made, but these couple of songs that I had made I thought she would like, even though they weren’t fully done and still aren’t. She put down any good thought I had about making music that I didn’t want to do it for a period of time. In her words, ‘If you don’t come to live with me, I know you’ll be on the street because you won’t have any other future otherwise. You can’t make anything good. Why even try when you know you’ll fail? You do nothing good at all.’

I broke up with her the following month for semi-related reasons, but I didn’t fully realize how bad she was for me until early this year. What she said to me then still has an effect on me. I don’t really share any music with anyone now, I can’t think of anything to make at that (mostly due to writer’s block), and I have no motivation to do anything with music now because of her.”

When The Ones You’re Closest To Hurt You The Most

>>> “My now ex-wife: ‘I’m tired being a wife, I’m tired of being a mother, I’m tired of playing house. I never loved you, I just wanted out of my parent’s house.’ That was after 16 years of marriage. Was a really good 16 years, or so I thought. So I raised my kids from that point by myself, because I love my kids.”

>>> “I have never met my father, and do not wish to. My mom divorced him when I was very young because of his abuse specifically towards me, and because he threatened to kill me. During an argument with a girlfriend she said to me, ‘Sorry daddy didn’t love you enough,’ and then slammed the door and left. That hurt. I’d never been stopped in my tracks from something that was said to me. I think about it at least once a week.”

>>> “After we broke up, my ex took to Facebook to tell everyone about how I abused her, manipulated her, beat her, and cheated on her. None of it was true. I loved her. I still do. These are those words: ‘You are so pathetic. I can’t stand you. You’re a piece of crap. Monster. Abuser. You don’t know how to love. You should just go trick some stupid 16-year-old girl into sleeping with you because no real woman ever will. Manipulative and a compulsive liar. Sociopathic. I hate you. No one deserves to be burdened with someone like you. Idiot. Don’t ever say you love me ever again. You will never change. All you do is hurt people. I wish I never met you. You messed everything up. Kill yourself. You deserve this.'”

They Convinced Him She Liked Him Back

>>> “When I was 13 I went on a school trip to Wales. Long story short, the bullies made me believe that the sweetest girl in our year wanted to be my girlfriend. They went to some extreme lengths and even convinced most of the school. They made me feel proud, like I belonged, I was finally accepted. One night, they picked me up and carried me to the toilets where they had promised she was there, it was so tribal. She was in there. Locked in a toilet. She was mortified by me. ‘I never wanted to be with you! They made it up!’

As I opened the door to leave, they were all there, laughing, howling, throwing eggs at me, screaming horrible things that would determine that I was a fool for ever believing that someone like her could like someone like me.

The teachers had constantly threatened us with being moved to sleep on the floor by their rooms, so that night, I asked the teachers if I could accept that punishment just to get away from the bullies. They said it was just an idea of a punishment, that they couldn’t actually separate me. I lost all faith in people that night.”

It Was Like Their Friendship Had Meant Nothing To Her

>>> “There was a girl I hung out with a lot during college and especially senior year of college. We had become really good friends without ever really being an item. Towards the end of senior year, she started pulling away and becoming extremely distant and cold, almost to the point of being mean and kind of hurtful. Come to find out, she started dating a guy that I didn’t even know about, and we had hung out a LOT.

So, I graduated college, and she still had a semester left. She continued to pull away to the point where she started becoming kind of a jerk. Finally, I got tired of it and called her out on it. I asked her, ‘Have I done something to make you mad at me?’ Her answer, over the next two texts:

‘No, I just think we’re different people.’ The heck does that mean? This was followed by, ‘I don’t think we have anything to talk about, and I don’t really want to either.’

So, after four years of friendship, I suddenly became not worth her time to even talk to over text. This was a little over a year ago now, and I’m still ticked about it.”

The Whole Time, He Still Had Hope

>>> “I was in love with this woman, but I had to go back home after a while overseas, promising that I’d be back soon. We both were trying hard with school and work so that in the next year, I would be able to return and we could be together again.

Now, she had made plans in February to visit her friends in Australia and was planning on staying with one of her old friends there who, right before she was set to leave, said he would date her if he could. This set off red flags for me, so I told her that she shouldn’t go, as she was also uncomfortable with this new situation as well. She told me things about the guy, and I didn’t feel comfortable with her being around him – what happens if he tries to get her to go to bed with him and she refuses? Right?

Well, one month passed as she was in Australia and it was my birthday. I got the present that she made for me, a necklace and a sweet letter. This was the first time I’d ever cried from mail, the first time I was ever that happy from a birthday gift in my life. So what happened when I sent a message to her, telling her how much I loved her gift?

I got a, ‘Oh, you like it?’ And then the calls stopped, the messages stopped, and I was just left wondering what happened. The rest of the month that she was there, I tried sending messages, but she didn’t reply.

I sent one last letter a month later and she called to tell me how much she missed me and all that, but we still hadn’t called or messaged each other really in a few months. Every time we did, she would be very short and unresponsive, so I’d always cut the calls short, very short – less than a minute.

At this point and every point in between, I was constantly thinking that it’s over and she’d moved on, but then she kept on messaging me back telling me she missed me. Months went by and I kept sending more messages, but now was getting no response at all. I finally told her that I was done, this was goodbye and to have a good life and that I still loved her.

So I moved on. I did my own thing, I tried my best to get over her.

A little under a month later, I get a message from her wanting to call me and that she had something to apologize about. I was so confused – happy and ticked off at the same time that I had to stop everything and call her.

She told me over the next two days that she’d been dating that crazy guy from Australia ever since she went there, and that he’d been visiting her and her family, but recently they’ve been having bad problems with him and his anxiety and bipolar. He sent her pictures of him cutting himself, etc. He said they couldn’t date anymore because he wasn’t stable, but he wanted her to visit him.

I asked why in the heck she was calling me about this. She called me asking me what advice I had about what she should do, should she visit him? Would it work out? Would he be able to date her again after he gets better? Asking me for dating advice essentially. As if everything up until she left for Australia meant absolutely nothing to her. She told me to be there for her, to be her friend and to help her.

I told her that I still loved her and that I still wanted to help, but if she went back to Australia, I would not be able to help her anymore. She still claimed that she loved him, and this hurt more than anything, so I told her I couldn’t talk to her about this anymore. And after gritting my teeth and trying to understand why I’d been so heartbroken over the last half a year or so, I asked her why was she doing this to me, why was she toying with me and my emotions, asking me for advice with another relationship because she loved another man and not me, she said, ‘Because I trust you.’

The last thing I said to her was, ‘If you trust me so much, after all that we’ve been through, how could you do this to me?’

She didn’t have a response.”

He Thought She Just Didn’t Want To Get Tagged, Then He Saw The Tears

>>> “I’ve had many girls say ‘Ew,’ to my face.

But there is one time that has scarred me for life: I was playing ‘kiss and catch’ tiggy with my friends (tiggy is tag, but in an overly pommy way) and my friend and I were ‘it.’ He went off one way and I had my targets on my crush, so I gave chase. As I got closer and closer she started screaming and wailing. When I was within arm’s reach, I noticed she wasn’t screaming because she didn’t want to get tagged, she was screaming because it was me chasing her. She ran off, yelling ‘Ew!’ and ‘Gross!’ and such as that. I retreated to the toilets to cry and eat my entire supply of food for the day.

Funny thing is: by some godly force, things have pulled a complete 180 and now I am in a part of my life where girls will call me ‘gorgeous,’ ‘cute,’ and other compliments on a near-daily basis. I’m still not used to it and it’s always funny considering my past, but it makes me feel glad that I haven’t offed myself.”

His Sickly Appearance Was A Huge Sore Spot

>>> “I’m generally quite average looking, but two incidents girls being completely hurtful spring to mind:

a) Early in my first year of college, I was hanging out with these two girls, sharing pictures of our families. Both my sisters are really pretty, and upon seeing them, both girls react, ‘Wow. What happened to you?’ They later said they were joking and apologized.

b) The second one is from a couple of years ago. I was recovering from a fourth bout with leukemia had finally gotten well enough to start hanging out with a few people. My body was destroyed, I was bald, thin, scarred, and extremely self-conscious about my looks. This girl (let’s call her A), a family friend who I had developed a thing for, took me to hang with two of her friends, a couple. We had a nice dinner.

A and I were later talking about the meet and A mentioned that the boyfriend in that couple was really jealous and wouldn’t allow any guy to even talk with his girlfriend. Being considerate, I mentioned that if A had told me earlier, I would’ve avoided interacting much with the guy’s girlfriend, since he gets jealous easily. She responded by saying, ‘Oh, he wouldn’t be jealous of you.’

I was genuinely stunned at the heartlessness of the comment. She apologized by text, saying she meant it as a joke, which she probably did. We stay cordial because our families are close, but despite being civil with her, I hate her from the very middle of my being, despite the fact that it was meant as a joke. It really, really messed me up in many ways.”

Even For A Small Town Bully, She Took Things Too Far

>>> “I grew up in a small town that I was not originally from, but moved there when I was 6. There were roughly 350 people altogether and the school was K-12. Since I was an outsider, I was bullied regularly, but there were three girls in particular who were total bimbos. Before I’d never say anything to them but after one incident in high school, I had enough.

I quite literally was two words into a totally harmless sentence when the dumb blonde of the three looked at me and said:

‘Shut the eff up. We have no time for a waste of space like you. Nobody will love you, nobody will ever want to be with you, you’re going to die alone because you’re weird and we all hate you. Every last one of us hates you and we couldn’t care if you dropped off the face of the earth.’

I remember why I never spoke in school at all for the duration of grade 10. It was a big newsflash for me because I knew she was right. It had some negative long-term effects but after that moment I didn’t waste any time calling them out on their bull.

Oh and she’s knocked up by some skeet who’s like almost 20 years older than her, lives with his parents, and does nothing but loiter and endlessly party. Karma does come full circle.”

As Cruel As School Children

>>> “I usually never have problems with people. The only people that talk crap are my best friends and I talk crap back. But one time, I was having a party at my house and I felt obligated to make sure everyone was doing okay. I went over to my steps that lead to my house because two girls were there. I asked if everything was okay and the girl I kind of liked at the time said, ‘What are you doing? Why do you keep coming over here?’ Another girl sitting next to her said, ‘Can’t you see she doesn’t like you!?’ It was my house, my party, my party supplies I GAVE them for free. I was literally just walking to everyone at that party and making sure everyone was having a good time. Screw her. I wasn’t even making a move.”

>>> “I am a 16-year-old boy and over the past year, I have really been struggling with how I look. About nine months ago, I decided to lose a lot of weight. Over a period of five months, I lost over 50 pounds and went from being 6’1 and 208lbs to 150lbs. At that point, I recognized that I was getting too skinny and was starting to struggle with that. On a particularly bad day, a girl in my science class decided it would be a good idea to turn to me and say, ‘You look like an addict because of all the weight loss.’ Having my insecurities validated by someone I thought was a friend really screwed me up.”

>>> “In 3rd grade, I was bullied by my entire class. The school administration had done nothing about it. One particular kid convinced everyone that I was weird. Everyone would ignore me and tell me to go away if I tried to talk to them. My only friend was a Somali girl who helped me with the bullying. One day, I was sitting with her in lunch when she turned to me and said, ‘People would actually like you if you weren’t so weird.’ I was so crushed by this betrayal that I burst into tears and ran out of the room. My mom was called and I never went back to that school.”

>>> “I was a fat kid in seventh grade and had just transferred to a new middle school in our new city. The first response I got from a girl after I said hi and introduced myself was a snarky laugh and her asking, ‘What size bra do you wear?’ I’m not very proud of this, but my response was, ‘I could ask you the same thing, but we can all see you’re still in a training bra.’ Now I’m a nice, considerate person but unprovoked aggression and bullying really ticks me off.”

He Thought They Were Friends As Well As Coworkers

>>> “My ex-wife told me she wanted our kids to look like her and be white, not Asian like me. That’s the moment I realized how big of a mistake I had made marrying her. She said it like it was not a big deal and said it was unfair for me to be upset and hurt about what she had just told me.”

>>> “A long time ago, a woman forced herself on me and I’m the kind of guy who could easily hurt someone, being more burly. It was an ‘in the moment’ kind of thing where I didn’t know what to do and if she got hurt from me, she’d use it against me and I’d be the horrible person. This messed with me for a long time. Years later, I told the story to someone I was seeing and she was very baffled about how that would happen to a male. She acted like I was either making it up or trying to play a victim. The conversation ended with her saying ‘As a feminist, I find this very offensive.'”

>>> “‘I will always love you with all my heart, but I can’t keep fighting…I just want to sleep and rest…Please forgive me.’ My girlfriend in the hospital few days before losing her fight with cancer. I hope she found peace.”

>>> “I worked with a girl for a year or so, she had the desk next to mine and though we weren’t best friends, we got on well, I thought. Neither of us are single, so the relationship wasn’t like that, but yeah, I thought we were friends. One time, we were talking and I decided I’d tell her about being part of an alpha testing group for a game I was really looking forward to, so I said I was under an NDA so she can’t tell anyone but I was part of this group. She looked me dead in the eye and said, ‘I don’t care,’ and turned back to her work like it was nothing. It seems really simple and perhaps I’m being too sensitive but it knocked me for six. I genuinely don’t think anyone has ever said that to me so sincerely. Particularly in Britain, where we’ll go out of our way to remain polite and inoffensive, just hearing someone completely dismiss me left me devastated and I don’t think she thought about it for even a second.”