There are countless stories online about how some people don’t contribute as much to wedding preparations as they should. However, it’s more unusual when the complaint is about a groom who is doing too much. One bride-to-be is upset that she feels like a third wheel in her upcoming wedding, and asks if this is normal.
The woman shared her story on Reddit’s r/weddingdrama section. She opens her post, saying, “I never thought I’d feel like a third wheel at my own wedding… but here we are.” The bride explains that her fiancé’s best friend is planning everything with him while she just “signs off” on their choices.
She explains that her partner’s best friend is a woman, and they are close as they’ve known each other for over a decade. However, the bride says they have planned almost everything without her input, including color schemes and drinks. The poster despairs, “He says she ‘has great taste’ and that she’s just trying to help. But it honestly feels like he’s more comfortable planning with her than with me.”
To make matters worse, the bride claims her partner shared her wedding dress inspiration pictures without telling her. She admits she “feels small” and says, “Like I’m being sidelined in something that’s supposed to be one of the most meaningful moments of my life.”
The Bride Feels Like Bringing Up Her Wedding Woes Will Cause Drama
The bride says her partner thinks she is overreacting. She also says she’s scared that the situation may escalate if she brings it up again and asks, “How do I talk to him without making it worse?”
The post has garnered almost 900 comments, with many finding the situation concerning. The top comment, with 2.4k likes, says, “Your heart is already telling you something is wrong. If you can’t have a conversation about this, you aren’t ready for marriage. You are being sidelined in your own relationship now. It won’t get better unless you can work this out now.”
The poster responded to this reply, admitting, “Deep down, I know this isn’t just about the wedding. It’s about how easily I’ve been pushed aside and how okay he seems with it.”
One reply puts the blame on both parties. The groom for his behavior, but also the bride for “being a complete pushover.” They warn them, “Grow a spine or she will control your whole life. Ask him who is the bride because this is inappropriate at best.”