While first dates are quite awkward and uncomfortable, second dates come with more pressure and commitment. These guys share why they didn't want to take that step with these girls.
While opposites do attract, there was nothing we could agree on.
“She wanted to talk about The Bachelorette the whole night, while I just wanted to talk to her about Game of Thrones. There was nothing both of us enjoyed doing together, absolutely nothing.”
The chase wasn’t there at all.
“We hooked up on the first date. There wasn’t any chase after and I didn’t find myself eager to want to see her again. Sounds like a jerk move, but it happens.”
She was getting way too serious too fast. I wanted a non-commitment summer.
“She was gorgeous and I loved talking to her and getting to know her but we started dating in the middle of the summer and there was just a point I realized she was more serious about it than I was. I wanted to be able to date other people, she didn’t.”
She was a serial texter.
“A few years ago I met a girl at a bar and we had great conversation and exchanged numbers really quickly. The next morning she sent me a flood of messages in the span of 2 hours. So by the time I woke up I already had 4 messages from her.”
To put it bluntly, my calendar was plain booked.
“I had just become single again and had four different dating apps. I was finding a different girl to go out with every night. If a girl didn’t blow me away on date one, there wasn’t a date two.”
I couldn’t say no to my mom.
“She was super cute and we had made plans via AIM to go see the Jackass movie. Unfortunately, when I told my mom she was a senior (I was a freshman), she said ‘I don’t know how I feel about that.’ So we never went on another date.”
She didn’t even offer to pay for dinner.
“Not saying I would have made her pay, but the offer would have been the right thing to do. We went to an expensive place for dinner and the bill was really high. She could have pulled our her wallet. Instead she just sat there and didn’t even say thanks.”
She got way too handsy.
“She stuck her fingers in my nostrils in the middle of the bar. She claimed it was a joke. She wouldn’t let me get a word in edgewise and I could just tell we were on two different pages in terms of our interests.”
I felt like I was on an episode of “Catfish.”
“She didn’t look like her pics and she didn’t have the same personality she did when we chatted online. I felt like I got ‘Catfished.’ I wasn’t interested in the girl that showed up to the date; I liked her online persona way better.”
All she really wanted was my money.
“It was clear she was looking for a guy to support her and push money into her bank account. She kept asking questions to find out how much I paid for rent and how much I made at my job. It was funny, but also gross.”
My kiss got stood up by a handshake.
“I thought the first date went really well and I wanted a second, but she didn’t seem interested. I went in for a kiss and hug when we said goodnight and she gave me a handshake instead. I didn’t bother chasing her or asking her for date two.”
She just talked too damn much.
While we love a girl who can hold a conversation, talking too much is just a major turn off. If you talk so much we can barely get a word out, chances are there won’t be a second date. We like two way conversations!
Speaking of talking, she talked too much about her ex.
Guys and drama just don’t go hand in hand. Instead of spilling all the ex boyfriend drama to me, tell it to your gal pals. I don’t care about your ex boyfriend and the more you talk about him, the more I think you’re still hung up on him.
She wasn’t very lady-like.
All she managed to do the whole date was stare at her phone. If you want to check in with a girlfriend, okay, but there’s no need to be on your phone the whole date. We’d rather you put your phone away and pay attention to us for once!
We got into an argument about politics.
“It doesn’t matter which one of us was a Trump supporter and which wasn’t, but let’s just say the date took a turn for the worse when she brought up politics first. It turned into an ugly debate and I was over it AND her after that moment.”