Pregnant Women Share The Most Obnoxious Things People Have Said

Constantly being bombarded with unsolicited advice and annoying questions from family, friends, and strangers can be exhausting. But when a woman is pregnant, it's a whole new level of exhausting. These pregnant women share just how irritating people can get.

People Always Ask About The Father

1) “I’m due in about 4 weeks and have somehow made it through without anything super outrageous said to me, but I do have one particular crazy moment: At my very first OB appointment, the nurse was asking me about my health history and asked me if I wanted to put my husband’s info in the system as well. Since I wanted everything to be accurate, I politely told her I wasn’t married and the guy in the waiting room was my boyfriend. She then gave me the most judgmental look and said: ‘Um, are you AT LEAST engaged?’ So I gave her my biggest smile and said: ‘Nope, and no plans to get married anytime soon.’ Gotta love judgy medical ‘professionals,’ ugh.”–

2) “I’m 35 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. This is what an acquaintance said to me a few weeks ago not jokingly. ‘You’re pregnant? I thought your husband was gay. Because I always see him out with handsome young men.’ ‘Wait are you sure it’s your husband’s?'”–

3) “I was asked if I knew who the father of my child was…Yes, crazy lady! I know who the father is, it’s the only person I’ve been with in the past 5 years! So yes, I’m perfectly aware of the ONE person who could have gotten me pregnant. But thanks for making me feel like garbage”–

4) “I am currently not wearing my wedding ring at 36 weeks. My feet, legs, hands, and fingers are swollen so much I feel like a Macy’s day parade balloon. ‘Oh, is everything okay with you and the daddy?’ No, I ate him, get out of my face or I will eat you too.”–

5) “‘Is it your husband’s?’ Um, no, I’m carrying the second incarnation of Christ.”–

6) “When people ask, ‘Is the father in the picture?’ My sister lost her husband shortly after discovering that she was pregnant, and she got that question all the time. It was absolutely heartbreaking for her. Sometimes people don’t even think about the things they say and it drives me up the wall.”–

Constant Nagging About The Gender

7) “I worked at Walmart, being touched across the counter and also being asked, ‘What it is?’ I would tell them a dog. Or if they found out I wasn’t married, being asked why I was having a kid. I told them because my daddy wouldn’t get me a puppy. And her name will be Bob. I had fun with the dumb questions.”–

8) “Currently preggo with my first. I keep getting people asking me if it’s a girl or a boy. We’re not finding out the gender, and a lot of people are genuinely disappointed or give their opinion based on some random old wives’ tale. I think I’m going to start answering with, ‘It’s a hermaphrodite’ or something along those lines.”–

9) “‘Do you know what you’re having? Cause if you remember what position you were in when you conceived, it’ll determine the gender.’ Thanks, random lady in the grocery store. No, it’s okay, you didn’t have to say hi or introduce yourself. I’m just public property, right? Everyone instantly knows me because I’m cooking something up in my uterus? That’s cool. And by the way, kind of awkward asking about my intimate relationship with my husband!”–

10) “A friend of mine had twins, and when they were babies, lots of people asked if they were ‘natural’ (Meaning did she conceive them the old-fashioned way, or were there infertility treatments involved.) She was always like, ‘No, they’re synthetic’…”–

Some People Just Want To Dwell On The Negative

11) “A female coworker is pregnant with her second child. Her first passed away due to unforeseen circumstances, and another coworker commented on it: ‘Oh, I bet you’re so excited! I bet you won’t ever let THIS ONE out of your sight!’ We were floored.”–

12) “I’ve had a couple wonderful comments, but the most comment unwelcome was: ‘At least if you lose this baby, you can always try for a girl!’ I’m currently expecting my second son.”–

13) My husband and I announced that we were pregnant to the family this Easter. At the time I was 12 weeks along. Last October we lost our first pregnancy at 11 weeks and it was horrible! His grandmother had the nerve to respond, ‘Well, I mean, it’s not as exciting as the first time you were pregnant but at least you’re farther along than the last.’ I cried in the guest room.”–

Due Date Predictions

15) “I was four months pregnant and the, ‘You look like you’re ready to pop. When are you due?’ started As I got farther along people kept asking if I was having twins. One woman worked at my daughters preschool and I had to convince her repeatedly I wasn’t having twins. I am not religious and someone put their hands on my stomach and prayed. We are not public domain! And maybe the hardest. Being asked when I’m due, post birth. My husband and I have decided no matter how far along someone looks we will never ever mention anything about pregnancy ever. We will also never mention anything about their body or touch them.”–

16) “‘How far along are you?’ ‘6 months’ ‘Wow, it doesn’t even show, I thought you were maybe 3 months along! It’s probably because you’re carrying it in your butt and thighs.’ This woman was a co-worker and she almost looked disappointed that I was so far along without having a gigantic stomach yet. The baby is right on track. Eating for 2 is a bad excuse a lot of people use to eat whatever they want while pregnant.”–

17) “My wife is about 15 weeks pregnant, and the other day whilst on the phone to her step-father she got very annoyed and ended up threatening to hang up on him. Apparently, having just seen a recent photo of her that we’d sent to her mother, he said: ‘Jeez, you’re getting fat.’ My wife is a fit, toned person who takes a lot of pride in her health. She isn’t remotely fat, and you’d think a man who has kids of his own would know not to be so insensitive. My wife told him to screw off, it was a baby bump, and he should learn the difference. His reply was that she ‘wasn’t very lady like’. She told him she’d be a lady when he started being a gentleman, then said: ‘Now give the phone back to my mother before I hang up on you.’ When he did, she warned my mother-in-law that she wasn’t to put him back on the phone to her again. I laughed. I don’t like him. He’s lazy, stupid, and childish. Many stories can be told about my step-father-in-law, but that’s it on the insensitive about pregnancy side for now.”–

18) “When people say: ‘You’re really big. Are you sure it isn’t twins? You’re way too big for four months.’ Jerk, I’m eight and a half months and I will end you!”–

19) “When my wife was pregnant, she would have random people come up to her and touch her bump… Like, we’d be shopping and someone would come up without saying hi and just rub her bump and smile. I had a few really shocked faces when I say, ‘What are you doing?!’ Later during pregnancy, she had people say stuff like, ‘Wow, that’s a big bump!’ and ‘You must only be a week away!’ (when she was 6 months along). Although these seem harmless, to a woman who is pregnant and hormonal, that stuff is devastating.”–

20) “When my wife was pregnant last year she was out at a store in South Central Pa. She went to pay for her items when the woman said to her ‘When are you due, honey?’ – ‘October’ my wife replied. The woman then said, ‘Oh good – I wasn’t sure if it was Burger King or baby.’ My wife calmly said ‘Screw you’ and walked out.”–

21) “I had a liver condition and had to be induced a month early for the safety of my baby, and the nurse introduced herself, looked at me and said, ‘Oh, you must be past your due date.’ Thanks for insulting me when I’m terrified of the outcome of my baby!”–

22) “I had just had my daughter and was back to work at my retail job when a little old lady rolled up to me in her cart, touched my belly and sweetly asked when I was due. I gave her my daughter’s birth date. I don’t think she got it as she went on to tell me how amazing motherhood was going to be.”–

23) “I’m currently a week from my due date and two incidences come to mind: In a conversation between two co-workers during lunch I heard one say to the other, ‘[Me] is the size of the sun.’ They were sitting right next to me. When I first started announcing the news at work, an older guy that worked in a different department sat down next to me while I was eating lunch, leaned in and whispered in my ear, ‘Now that you’re pregnant, can I call you fatty?’ Yeah. That one got him fired. Screw you Jim, you creepy jerk!”–

24) “This woman goes, ‘Oh my goodness! Look how big you are! I bet you’re due any day now!’ I respond: ‘Haha. Nope, I still have 3 months to go.’ Her: ‘Are you sure? You’re so big!’ Me: ‘Yep. I still 3 months to go.’ Her: (leans down and grabs my belly with both hands) ‘It’s going to be a boy, I’ve always been able to tell. I’ve never been wrong. You should name him John.’ Me: (steps away and smile politely) ‘Nope, wrong again. She’s a girl and we’re naming her Arya.’ Her: ‘Are you sure? I’ve never been wrong!'”–

Throwing Shade At Teen Pregnancies

25) “I was pregnant with my first at age 24/25. I was shopping at a local pharmacy/convenience store in which two elder ladies started to use that “shocked” sarcastic tone between each other making sure I could hear them. The topic was ‘Oh what a shame it is for all these children to having children. Teenagers should just learn how to keep out of trouble!’ type exchange. I realized they were talking about me, assuming I was a pregnant teenager, and I too was too bloated to wear my wedding ring. So I chimed in, ‘Yes, It’s a shame when teenagers don’t plan their pregnancies or use birth control. I’m just glad I was smart enough and waited until I was married and in my mid-twenties to have my family.’ I then checked out in a very glorious, but awkward silence.”–

26) “When I was pregnant with my first, I worked at a small, local cafe that had apartments for teen moms upstairs. I look young. I regularly get id’ed. More than once someone asked if I lived upstairs. No biggie until this lady followed up the question with, ‘Oh, I assumed you were a teen mom based on your tattoos, you seem like you have made a number of bad choices.'”–

27) “I’m short and look young for my age. This happened at a bookstore chain I ran registers for. I was about 5 months pregnant with twins and was HUGE. A lady started ranting about how it was horrible how many teen mothers there were, unwed pregnancies, blah blah blah. I waited until she was checking out at the register next to mine before asking her if my pregnancy was bothering her. She got all huffy and I cut her off by explaining that 1) I was 27. 2) I was married. 3) It’s none of her business how others reproduce.She turned beet red and slunk out. The girl at the next register was amazed I didn’t get yelled at…”–

28) “When I was pregnant (living in Vienna, Austria) a stranger came up to me and asked if I was a girl from Teen Mom. I was 21 at the time. Another stranger once told me I was a sinner and that no one would marry me because I got pregnant so young. I barely managed to reply (in German) that I was in fact already married and not too young to be having kids. She then proceeded to berate me for being a foreigner and walked away shaking her head. Both of these comments were from adults, somehow.”–

29) “I’m 18 years old and currently pregnant. If anyone is interested me and “the father” are actually engaged and we have been living together for years. He works and I’m a full-time student. I carry very small so most of the comments were made by people who know me in some way or are friends with me on social media. Most of the rude comments people say were: ‘Oh you’re still in school…I thought you quit/dropped out’ -from a few family, friends, acquaintances. ‘I don’t think you’re ready to be a mother, you’re too immature.’ ‘You’re crazy for trying to have a baby,’ from my ex-friend’s boyfriend. I’m choosing to keep the baby because although I’m young, I feel like I have the appropriate resources to raise him. I want him to get to know his father, mother, grandparents, etc.”–

30) “My mom got married at 21, had my brother at 23 and was pregnant with me at 27. She also got braces late and had them while pregnant with me. Basically, she looked about 15. So one day she’s at the grocery store with my brother in the cart, 7 months pregnant, and no wedding ring, since her fingers were swollen. This older woman walks up to her and says, ‘Dang honey can’t keep them shut can ya?'”–

31) “I look a lot younger than I actually am. When I was heavily pregnant with my son I heard a mum and daughter at the supermarket talking about how I must be an addict or sleeping around to be pregnant so young. The daughter even laughed and pointed at me saying I probably don’t even know the father and I ‘couldn’t be older than 14’. I was, in fact, closer to 21 then and had been dating his father for a couple years prior.”–

32) “Walking through the parking lot with my husband heading to our vehicle and the woman beside us with five kids tells her spouse loudly, ‘Oh my gosh, if I have to look at one more pregnant CHILD I’m going to scream!’ I’m 5’2 and was 24 at the time, my husband 27. It took everything in me to not turn, show her my wedding ring, and tell her not only am I married and my age, I also own my car, we own our house, I’m a college grad, and I sure as heck don’t have five kids before hitting 30. But instead, I just stayed quiet and stared at her, look at my husband and started crying and walked faster to the car. People are so hateful.”–

Unplanned Pregnancies VS. Planned Pregnancies

33) “Over and over and over, we were asked some version of ‘Were you trying?’ Or ‘Was it planned?’ Usually by complete strangers. I was 29, married 8 years, gainfully employed, financially comfortable, living in the suburbs, driving a Volvo. What about this situation makes you think this was an accident? More importantly, what on earth makes you think you have the right to ask?!?”–

34) “My Albanian friend/co-worker congratulated a supervisor on being pregnant. The supervisor goes, ‘Thanks, but to be honest, it wasn’t planned.’ My friend and I were totally thrown off by this (I’m Uruguayan; neither of us knew about ‘planning’ for babies), so she goes, ‘Oh…I thought you married?’ The supervisor seemed thrown off by this and said that she was. At this, my friend goes, ‘So what the heck, did you sleep without pants on?! How could it not be planned?'”–

35) “‘Was it a mistake?’ Now, asking if it was planned or unplanned is still a bit rude, but I could forgive that. But I can not forgive people asking if it’s a mistake! It was my ex-father-in-law who asked that.”–

36) “I just recently revealed my second pregnancy to a few close family members (grandma is in for a surprise yet) and they all, except for my mom, were so surprised to learn that this one was planned. As if the only way we want to conceive is by accident. Then my sister proceeded to say, ‘Why didn’t you tell me?!’ All I said was, ‘Tell you what? That we’re going to bang until we get a baby?’ I was giggling to myself on that one.”–

37) “I was 36 when I got pregnant. I had been with my then boyfriend (now husband) since I was 30. It was a perfect time, career wise, etc. This still didn’t stop several people from asking me if it was planned. What the heck?! How is that anyone’s business?”–

38) “I heard a coworker tell my married pregnant coworker, ‘You should tell me what it’s like to actually plan a baby. I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who planned their children. including myself.’ What the…”–

39) “Someone at work who I barely knew asked me if my first pregnancy was planned. She knew I’m married too. I was tempted to say no and run off crying to make that awful woman feel awkward. Like who the heck even asks someone that? Oh and not so much what people say, but do – touching the bump. Don’t do it if you don’t know me or are not invited to touch. I will rub your non-pregnant stomach in response and I don’t care if it offends you.”–

Unsolicited Advice From Family And Strangers

40) “Someone said to me, ‘I have a book you should read’ Me: ‘Oh yeah what book is that?’ Person: ‘Well it’s about weight gain in a pregnancy because you’re gaining too much weight.’ Mind you I had been losing weight because I couldn’t keep anything down and I was all baby! It was horrible!”–

41) “‘Are you sure you should be having that?’ Every time I ate or drank something that wasn’t considered proper healthy food. HATED when people asked me that. I was morning sick all but 2 months of my pregnancy so anything I could keep down was considered a win.”–

42) “All of my children were premature. My mom has said, ‘You need to try to stay pregnant longer so your baby will be healthy.’ As if I had any control over the matter and enjoyed not only leaving the hospital without my baby but running to the NICU four times a day to see my sick child. My sister tried to get me to give my daughter up for adoption and asked if I planned to tell her that her dad was an addict. I had lost my husband about 3 weeks before she said that. Every time someone said, ‘Don’t you know what causes that,’ I wanted to throat punch them.”–

43) “‘You shouldn’t tell people yet in case you have a miscarriage.’ My SO didn’t even know the lady.”–

44) “I’m going to say all the unsolicited advice about what I should and shouldn’t do. When I was only 6 weeks pregnant, my mother-in-law was adamant about me not lifting anything. Everyone gave me a hard time about playing racquetball and kickball well into the second trimester, even though I had my doctor’s blessing. My mother saw me take a pill and was all huffy and mad at me without knowing what it was or that my doctor approved.”–

Judgment From The In-Laws

45) “When my wife was pregnant, the kid loved being as far back as possible. Super chill and relaxed I guess. So while she definitely showed, she was never at that point of, ‘How does she still have a baby in her?’ Around the seven month mark, we were together for Thanksgiving. My wife had purchased a new sweater that was comfortable because that’s the most important thing when you have a baby on your spine. But anyway, the mother-in-law busted out the line: ‘Are you trying to look fat instead of pregnant?’ We have a strained relationship.”–

46) “Step-mother-in-law when she found out we were having a boy, ‘Well, you just ruined my day!’ and then I just smiled. K…cool.”–

47) “My sister-in-law looked at us and said in a bummed out voice, ‘Why?'”–