These people put up with so much to be with the person they love.
Her Father Spend All Their Money…On Nothing?
“My SO’s father (now father-in-law). The man spent every penny he had on nothing (no idea where it went) and then sold all his assets as spent that too. He had access to my SO’s bank account and would empty it completely every month. When we got married I insisted that she remove his access from her accounts. That caused huge family arguments. During one of the arguments he asked me what I thought that he had allowed (!) me to marry his daughter. The answer was so that I could give him my salary and he would give our family an allowance to live off. He claimed it was cultural (they are Chinese) but if that were so the daughter would be cut off, as the son is supposed to look after the parents (and he has a successful son) but he saw an opportunity to make money for himself. He has mortgaged his house to the hilt and has spent it all (hundreds of thousands with nothing at all to show for it) and now really has no money.
At one point he said ‘I don’t know why I had children if they won’t pay for me to live the way I want’.
I am not unkind and if he was truely hard up through no fault of his own I would, of course, help. But he sold a string of properties that he was getting rental income from and wasted the money, and wasted all his investments. If I gave him any money he would just waste it and then demand more.
I started by giving him money but after seeing what he does with it, no more.
Basically: It is not drugs so gambling is our guess (yes, it is cultural stereotyping but it fits). My wife is fine and very cool with the arms length financial arrangement we now have (he gets nothing). Thanks for the obvious concern too. My wife would have been cut off if it wasn’t that both she and I are doing well financially so he saw an opportunity. I love my wife and how balanced she is.”
Kids He Doesn’t Support, Stealing Cars — Her Brother Is A Wreck
“Her older brother. Annoying 30 year old that lives with his parents. Has multiple children he doesn’t support. Believes I owe him because I’m ‘sleeping with’ his sister. Once Moron was getting pulled over by police for speeding he panics and tries to run from cops. Gets arrested and sent to jail.
When we bought my SO her car a Infiniti coupe he ‘borrowed’ it and went and traded her brand new rims and tires for some cruddy 20″ no name rims with old tires on them.
This was the angriest moment of my life.”
Banned From Birthday Party!
“My old boyfriend had the worst family, his mother and siblings all thought I wasn’t good enough for him even when we had dated for 3 years, he was unemployed and failed the same education twice while I had work and two diplomas.
His younger sister was great though, so once for her 14th birthday she wanted to have a giant sleepover and she invited me, sadly I had to work that weekend so I couldn’t come, the girl moved her party up a week so I could ask for time off from work. So I show up, they lived about an hour from my house, and her mother had decided the sleepover would be at the older sisters house, and she didn’t want me in her home (I have never done anything to her) My boyfriend wasn’t even home that day because I came over for his sister so I spend all night alone in their house excluded from a party I was invited to.”
This Brother Should NEVER Be Allowed In Their House
“My SO’s brother. He’s a junkie we can’t afford to feed and who we can’t emotionally deal with, because we have stress from our bills and kids and an illness in the family. I think he’s trying to sneak move in right now and I can’t live with him again. He reminds me of an abusive ex I had years ago, and him being in the same building makes me anxious. The first time I met him was right after I called the cops on him for laying his hands on his mother. She called me, crying, from the bathroom, because he had abused her because she told him not to bully her dogs. The cops made him leave. A few months later he moved back in with her, after we had moved in with her so she could afford the bills. I called the cops on him again for putting his hands on a girl he had been seeing while he was in our house. The cops didn’t make him leave the second time. He tried to sneak move another girl in. We tried to make things work, but after we got our tax return back, our car failed out, and we started looking for another. He offers to go half and half on a car. I plead with my SO not to trust the brother. He pleads with me to trust him. I relent, and we go half and half on the car. We finally can’t take dealing with the brother after 2 more months and ask him and his girl to leave. They took the car, got a title loan, refinanced the loan to double what they got out of it, and never paid us back. It got repo’ed. We had to scrounge for money to get bikes so we could make it to the nearest grocery store in less than an hour. It was awful. In the 7 months we lived with him, he paid his portion of the rent once, because he stole money from some poor girl he met online. I felt so bad when I found out about it. I love my SO, but his brother is one of the 3 most terrible people I’ve ever met.”
The 19-year-old “Savant At Pushing People’s Buttons”
My ex-girlfriend’s sister is among the worst people I’ve ever met. Going back a few years, she was an utterly self-absorbed 19 year old with very little empathy and even fewer morals.
She was a freaking savant at pushing people’s buttons; she knew exactly what to say and when to say it to thoroughly dismantle your self-confidence. She also had no trouble with doing so at the drop of a hat.
Any time she felt she wasn’t getting her way, she would argue and argue to the ends of the Earth until everyone involved caved and gave her what she wanted. This was one way her nastiest powers served her exceedingly well.
She would also fly off the handle at the whole family with little warning. She was thoroughly convinced that, as a worldly and intelligent 19 year old, she should be afforded every freedom and every measure of respect. Yet she flatly refused to take on any of the responsibilities that come with adulthood, including but not limited to cooking, cleaning or contributing to household finances, despite living with her parents whose budget was already stretched.
The merest suggestion that she should contribute meaningfully in any way was met with an outburst which did not calm down until the suggestion was retracted. When told she could contribute or leave the household, she would rant and rave that her parents still had a responsibility to her and they could not turf her out, despite her previous assertions about being a worldly, intelligent and independent woman.
She would frequently take the opportunity to dine out at the family’s expense, refusing to understand why we thought it poor form to order three of the most expensive drinks on the menu and three courses on top of that. While my ex-girlfriend, myself and the other sibling strained our own budgets to ensure we paid whatever we could, whether we were asked to or not, she would scarcely offer to add so much as a twenty to the total sum and would react poorly if asked.
In the event something went wrong she explain furiously and at length why she was the only one affected. She was the only one who had places to be and things to do. Everyone else was held responsible for ensuring her needs were met, regardless of whether or not the issue was within their control. When someone pointed out that they too were disadvantaged, she would snap, maintaining that they couldn’t possibly understand the position she was in and the pressure she was under.
It’s been a few years since I’ve been in contact with the family. I do hope she’s grown up and done a little introspecting, but in all honesty, I highly doubt it.”
His Wife Lost Her Mother, And He’d Rather Be On The News And Blow All Their Money Than Help Her
“My sister had a husband that was so bad that I had to cut them both out. Even after they divorced I never dealt with her again because clearly I couldn’t trust the judgment of the person who picked him as a spouse.
He was 5’1 (she was 5’8) and was as white looking as they came but I guess somewhere in there was some Hispanic lineage, which he played up hard. He called himself a beaner. He told you at least three time in a five minute conversation that he is Mexican. He already had two kids that his parents were raising. He got a $50,000. settlement for something and blew it in THREE DAYS without even buying diapers or anything for his kids. (But he got a new low rider, gave it a sound system to rattle your house windows, painted it psychadelic colors, etc) My husband was 6’3 had been in the Navy, was very masculine and this little punk is trying to give my husband unsolicited self defense techniques.
But the worst of this little guy came when my mother was murdered. She had been killed about two weeks before we found her, so decomposition was real bad and the smell of death was thick. I’m about 6months pregnant and having trouble with most smells, let alone the smell of death from my own mother, but things has to get done. I’m in there pregnant trying to clean, a news crew shows up and this guy runs outside and for two hours he told the news crew how horrible it is on him, how he can’t even go into the house because of the smell, how her murder was so traumatic to him, yada yada yada. My children were young and didn’t need to know any details. Since he refused to help with cleaning out the house we asked him to watch the kids at a near by house while the rest of us worked. My oldest child was 5 at the time and she came to me crying with her little brother. They had walked half a mile to come find me and ask me what decapitation means because that little guy who was supposed to be watching them was busy on the phone calling news outlets and giving the goriest details in front of the kids, he didn’t even notice the kids were gone.
During the clean out we came across about $100 worth of quarters and he felt it should be split three ways (my sister and I and HIM) The house we stayed at had a spare room with two twin beds. He took one bed, she took the other while my hugely pregnant butt and my two young kids had to sleep on the floor in the living room. I’m woken up at some ungodly hour to him sitting on the chair, stepping on my hair, talking full volume to yet another news outlet trying to get them to come do a story (despite my sister and I only saying no comment every time they came around)!
He did a ton of stupid crap like that but I’m done venting about him. I cut him out, as well as the person who thought he was husband material because clearly they were messed up too.”
Cheating On Taxes, Faking Disability — Anything To Maintain Their Egotistical ‘Perfect’ Family
“Her parents. Both of them. Her brothers and sisters have perfect lives in their eyes. We have been married 15 years. We were the last ones to marry(she is 14 years younger than her oldest sibling) and we are the only ones still married. My ex brother in law would get a citation for busting a person with a bag of weed and they would ask why doesn’t your husband ever get awards for being a firefighter. The brother in law tried to be a firefighter first but failed the exam. It was a family secret because they didn’t want me to look better.
Her parents are big tea party Pentecostal people. My family is Catholic. I am in a union which they hate. Her parents faked a disability to get assistance but they call it their pension. Her dad never had a job for more than a few years. They cheated on taxes because they believe income tax is not constitutional. They weight about 700 pounds combined.
My wife is super liberal which they blame on me. Her siblings homeschooled their kids. Ours are in public school. Yet, my 9th grader is two full years ahead in math. Both kids are in the gifted program. Both are in orchestra and sports. The oldest is one merit badge from his eagle scout (at 13 years old).
I can’t stand my in laws. My kids and wife can’t either. We are going out of town for Christmas just so we have an excuse to be away. We have to explain to our kids every time they visit them how some crazy political conspiracy is not true like Sandy Hook being fake.
My wife doesn’t want to write her parents off. Yet, we don’t understand why he parent think it is appropriate to talk politics with a 11 and 13 year old.
They Started To Make Up Games To Deal With The Mother In Law
“My mother in law is a terrible person. I didn’t have to put up with much because my husband knew how bad she was and limited all contact with her but he ALWAYS checked her when she took her bad attitude to a new level. He never made us endure her for long. We came up with games and codes for dealing with her.
Example: if I asked a kid what score they got on a test, that was code for that kid to inconspicuously turn the AC on full blast so mother in law would get cold and leave.
If we saw her pull into the driveway we all knew to lock the doors and hide. If she made it in we all would take a handful of pennies and be prepared. She contradicted everything anyone said, we made a game of it and would flick pennies at whomever she contradicts. We came up with a sound, a whoop, that we did every time she said ‘no it ain’t’
We had to do these things to keep our sanity because if we had to deal with her like she was a normal reasonable human being? Lord, someone would have killed her by now.
She spoiled all her granddaughters but was mean and rude to the grandsons. She said ‘no it ain’t’ to everything you said. She made fun of her autistic grandson for his handwriting skills, publicly makes fun of anyone she wants to. Is a arm chair preacher, bashes everyone, thinks everyone wants her. She purposely messed with disabled people…
Her Best Friend Was Still In Love With Her, And Wouldn’t Give Up
“Wife’s childhood best friend (a male) who was in love with her since he was a kid. They were best friends and acted very much so. I wasn’t jealous and she very clearly stated as such early on in our relationship. A few weeks into dating I finally meet Tony. Nice guy. Very different than myself. We get to chatting and having a few beers together on our first meeting. My SO ducks out for a minute and he changes like Mr. Hyde! ‘She is my girl and I plan on marrying her. You just need to understand that and I recommend you just get the heck out of here!’ I wasn’t even phased by it really as we were just casually dating at that time. I didn’t mention it to her either. But I stuck around and we became a number. He still treated me nicely in front of her but it was clear he wasn’t happy about the whole thing. He finally got the message on the birth of our daughter that I wasn’t a one hit wonder.”
The 50-Year-Old Baby Mother Still Throws Tantrums
“My ex had the most blisteringly awful mother I could imagine. She was an only child and because she had type 1 diabetes was coddled her entire life. Even in her 40s/50s she behaved like a cross between a spoiled 6 year old and a mean girls high schooler.
She was always sick, and always with something new, she had doctors appointments every week or two. Every time I saw her she had something else, thyroid issues (it’s not my fault I’m fat), low blood pressure (it’s not my fault I’m always on my butt), she declared herself legally blind (it’s not my fault I never leave the house). This was amid countless colds, mystery illnesses, temper tantrums that were somehow a medical issue.
When I first met her I felt bad. Over the years it was exhausting. She was never too sick to go on vacation, her husband would take her four times a year and she’d miraculously recover in time. And then she’d come back and claim ridiculous stuff like the ‘dirty Egyptian banknotes’ made her sick. This is how you know she was real, because who could make something that stupid up?
She also thought that non-Christians shouldn’t get time off work at Christmas because ‘they’re always on vacation when they have their fake Christmases’ and because she’d never worked you could even explain that if somebody did take vacation for Eid or Hanukkah, they’d take it from vacation allowance whereas most places actually shut down over Xmas.
Even though the woman was in her early 50s the last time I saw her, she still regularly had her lunch brought to her by her own mother. She also had her breakfast prepared for her by her husband. Worse still, her daughter was born with an extremely mild physical disability (the biggest impact it had was that she had a limp) and she had gradually been coaching her into the same sort of dependence. She went from a very normal college student to somebody who is too scared to catch a bus and refuses to drive because of her ‘condition’. The daughter is now in her thirties and has her dad give her a rides to and from work each day.
I can’t describe how happy I was when I realized that this woman would no longer be in my life. It was like waking up one morning and realizing I could fly or something.”
She Thought She Could Just ‘Decide’ If He Was Gay Or Not?
“My ex’s mother.
She was a life coach, at risk youth counsellor, and family counsellor. She assumed she could both diagnose peoples problems and tell them what they needed to do on the spot. It was really so condescending and annoying. She also assumed this meant she didn’t need have appropriate boundaries or respect people’s choices.
There was a lot of little things she said, and a lot of her telling me what to do with my life. I would politely say, ‘That’s an interesting perspective’ or ‘Hmm, I guess that’s something to consider’. They few times I said, ‘I’m happy with what I’m doing, thank you’ she took it as a personal affront.
Anyway, the worst of it was when our relationship was winding down (for other reasons) her mom asked me in front of everyone if i was gay. I said, ‘No, I don’t know why you would ask me that’.
She said, ‘Well, you’re not as interested in my daughter lately. Honestly, I’ve seen a lot of gay young men like yourself go from unsuccessfully relationship to unsuccessful relationship. You need to accept who you are! Can you do that today, with us?’
I was pretty pissed. I said, ‘I’ve accepted my sexuality long before I met any of you. I know I’m straight, despite whatever assumptions you are making. My relationship with GF isn’t any of your business, and I won’t be discussing that with you.’
She stormed out of the room and apparently kept trying to convince my GF that I was gay.
Her and I broke up 2 months later and ironically my Ex-GF is now engaged to a woman.”
The 45 Year Old Guy Fell In Love With His 18 Year Old Girlfriend
“My girlfriend and I met when we were in high school and started dating roughly around our senior year. At that same time she had started her first job at a local Starbucks. (one of the ones in a target) Her boss there was, more or less, a loser. 45, the manager of a Starbucks, had lost all his teeth from poor hygene, and didn’t drive. This guy absolutely fell in love with my, then 18 years old girlfriend. She didn’t drive at the time and when I would go to pick her up I would see him staring at her butt, constantly telling her how amazing she was and how beautiful she was, and at one point even came in and told her that she was the only reason he didn’t kill himself. For a while she saw it only as him being nice, but after a few months, and a lot of words from my side, she realized how creepy it was and soon ended up quitting that job. We’re now both 25, and it’s just since the beginning of 2017 that he’s finally stopped trying to contact her! He would send her snapchats, texts, try to contact her on Facebook through her parents or friends! He even sent her a gold plated rose for her birthday. He hasn’t talked to her in nearly 5 months and I’m hoping to God that this creepy additions to our relationship is finally gone because I was at the point where I couldn’t stand it much longer!”