These go far beyond a kid being late for a date or not being polite at the dinner table. There are some really good reasons to dislike your kid's boyfriend or girlfriend and these people have some real doozies!
He Stole Everything From The VCR to the Dog!
“He tried to steal my car, dog, and VCR at about three in the morning. When I caught him about to pull out of the driveway, his excuse was:
‘I have to run to my place really quick to grab a bite to eat. Would you like anything?’
When I asked about Sasha [my dog], and my VCR, he said he was worried someone would steal them while he was gone, so he was bringing them with him to keep them safe.
My little girl dumped him, and I let him keep the VCR…”
A Slimy Jerk
“Step-dad of a 16 year-old girl here. I tried to like the little schmuck she is dating, I really did. However, after just a couple of months together he got caught in enough lies trying to get into her pants that I didn’t like the kid much. The latest shenanigan was threatening to break up with her unless she gave her virginity to him on short notice after calling her nasty names over her Halloween costume. When we had his mother confront him, he admitted it and the smug little jerk ‘grounded himself’ because he felt so badly about it. She has turned her back on her family for him and he is so beyond not worth it. When we had to move three hours away for work, she refused to go because of him and is now living with my wife’s mother. Thankfully she is about as fond of the boy as I am so my daughter’s contact with him remains minimal.”
A Lazy Girlfriend Drives A Mother Nuts
“My son and his ex-girlfriend had been dating for about three years. We needed help with our rent due to my husband’s health problems and not being able to work, so they decided to build and apartment in our basement for them and her two young children. He had JUST finished the framing when she showed up, unannounced, with a U-Haul full of her stuff, ready to move in.
She quit her job when she moved (we lived 2 states away) so she was ‘looking’ for a new one. My son would leave in the morning to go to his job, and she wouldn’t get out of bed until at LEAST 2 in the afternoon. Meanwhile, I would go downstairs and get her two young boys out of bed, get them dressed, feed them breakfast and lunch, do their laundry, bring them outside to play and make them dinner. When she finally got her as out of bed all she would do was sit in front of the tv and play around on her phone. My son was working double shifts to make up for her lack of a job, so he would get home around 9 p.m., right as my husband and I would be going to bed.
He would help her put the boys to bed, watch a little tv while he ate dinner (which I cooked) and then they would go to bed around 10. I overheard her one night talking lying about how she filled out sooo many applications and even how she got a couple of calls back to set up interviews.
After a month of this my husband and I had had enough, and we told my son everything. He couldn’t believe it. That weekend he asked her about it and she denied everything. I told her I told him what she had been doing and how she had been acting and she started screaming and got in my face, calling me nasty names and threatening to kill me. The kids were crying, she was crying, I was crying and my son was obviously very upset. He ended up calling her mother to come get her and bring her back to live with her and then rented a U-Haul and drove all of her belongings to her..Turns out she had a drug problem when they started dating and had told my son that she had quit a year prior to her moving in with us, when in fact she was using even more while she was in our house. Obviously, they broke up, which didn’t bother my son too much when he found out exactly how she had been acting towards us all and how she wouldn’t even offer to do the dishes or the laundry, never mind how much she neglected her children. The only thing that bothered my son, and still does to this day (they broke up about 2 years ago and he practically raised her children since their father never saw them) is that she won’t let him to talk to her two boys, even a quick call to say happy birthday or merry Christmas. She even returns the gifts and cards he sends in the mail/”
A Daughter’s Boyfriend’s Father is a Political Rival
“I might have one of the strangest reasons for dislike my daughter’s boyfriend, it’s actually not even his fault. My daughter is dating the son of a rival politician.
With most political rivals, I don’t hate them on a personal level, but with this guy, my dislike for him is personal, he dislikes me on a personal level too. I think he’s a treasonous jerk who’d sell out his country for the sake of his ideology, but that’s not relevant here. Before anyone asks, I’m not American.
Anyway, they both go to the same school. The children of a lot of politicians go to that school, and she tells me they met in drama class. They’re both completely enamored with each other. I can guarantee you, every time my daughter sighs it’s because she’s thinking about her boyfriend, he’s all she ever thinks about anymore. I think ‘puppy love’ is what most people call it.
Anyway, I hate the kid because of who his dad is. I know it’s ridiculously unfair to him, but I can’t help it. He does well in school, is well behaved and keeps in shape.
The only think he’s done that’s caused me to dislike him is that balcony conversation nonsense they pulled a few days ago. He snuck into my yard, and he talked to my daughter while she was on her balcony. Like in Romeo and Juliet or some nonsense. I chased him off and my daughter insists it wasn’t him.
I should probably have a face to face conversation with him one day. See how close to his dad he really is. Screw his dad though. I’m told he said my daughter was ‘easy’ and told his son not to date her.”
A Woman’s Daughter-in-Law Causes Total Chaos
“My son’s relationship with his wife has been nothing but chaos for him and our family. They’ve been married four years this year.
Son and wife are the conspirators behind why my son was less than honorably discharged from the military a few weeks after graduating basic. I blame them both to some extent, but I think she caused him a lot of heartbreak and encouraged him to attempt to leave the military. Coming from a long line of those who served in the military, it makes me extraordinarily angry when she goes out of her way to ‘thank him for his service in the military.’
Then during their third year of marriage, while they were trying to get pregnant, she goes totally crazy. Cheats on my son with her ex-boyfriend, tells my son she’s been cheating for a month on Valentines Day and moves out. Gets pregnant by this guy, sells (or he stole) her wedding ring, maxes her credit card, and tanks her credit score. On the day they go to sign their divorce papers, she tells my son she’s pregnant, lies to him and says it might be his, and asks that he take her back. He did.
To say the least, I’m angry. It’s a lot of anger directed at her, some anger directed at him for being such a pathetic person with her, but also admiration for him for choosing to raise the child with her. There’s a lot more going on in their relationship, and their behavior towards the rest of the family makes it very difficult to help or give advice in any meaningful way.”
A Mother Doesn’t Have Just One Reason, She Has Many Reasons To Hate Her Daughter’s BF
“He met her in a chat room. Then they were on the phone all the time. If she wasn’t on the phone then she was on the computer. She even slept with him on the line. I couldn’t take the phone out because l needed it for work or l would have. She stopped going to school because she was awake all night on the phone. As soon as she turned 17 she dropped out of school and left home to be with him. He lives hundreds of miles away.
She left a size 13. The next l saw her she was a size 3. There was little food, parents sold the food stamps for drugs. I called numerous times but they would not get her to the phone. They moved with no forwarding address. I found them.
There was a five-year-old in the house. He did not know his numbers or colors and was not potty trained. She became his pseudo parent. He used that kid against her do she wouldn’t leave. He was emotionally physically and verbally abusive to her.
The father threw them out of the house so they moved to a big city where a brother was. He couldn’t keep a job. She was pregnant and food was scarce. She by now was emotionally dependent on him. She got a job scooping ice cream over one mile from their apartment. Thankfully her boss let her eat all the ice cream she wanted, which was a blessing for the pregnancy. She walked to work, worked all day and walked home. When she got home he would send her for cigarettes, etc.
She could not get in to see a doctor and she got scared and fed up with him. The next time they fought she called me and l got her a hotel room for the night, paid for a cab and train ticket home.
She had the baby here. He wanted to name it something ridiculous. The doctors and nurses laughed and she came to her senses and gave him a normal name. He is still angry. He wanted to change the name. Oops … seems l can’t find the birth certificate …
When the baby was a couple months old he came here. Said he wanted to live here. Within weeks they were back with his family miles away. She called me after they were there.
She married him. Just had the second child. Hates her life. Said she is not allowed to spend any money because she does not bring any money into the house. It is his money. The man is the boss of the family mentality.
Oh and he just cheated on her. With a drug addict. Did drugs too. Spent the money needed to buy the baby stuff. She does without. So do the kids. I do what I can. I can honestly say if he was choking and l was the only one in the room l would turn and walk out and not feel bad about it. Not one bit.”
A Thief, a Really Low, Dirty Thief
“Stole my wife’s credit card and bought himself shoes and an iPhone. Also took $150 to go party. Charges pending.
What made me not like/tolerate him anymore was stealing $10 from his little brother’s wallet. Steal from me all you want, I’m an adult. Stealing from your little brother just shows that you are a low life.”
Her Daughter is Attracted To Losers
“Convinced her to sneak out of our house in the middle of night. Then cut work. Then cut school. Then drop out of high school and run away.
Eventually she left that SO. Found a new person and got married in a month. Now mostly she sits around collecting food stamps and smoking (Drugs).
My daughter’s life is ruined.”
A Girlfriend Leaves A Path Of Distruction
“She was 20, my daughter was 16. My ex thought it would be a good idea for the girlfriend to move in with them. So she was living with her girlfriend. When they broke up, and the gf moved out, she spread lies about why they broke up, screwing with my daughter’s reputation. Then she damaged my daughter’s car and threatened her friends. Now they’re back together, and the gf can’t understand why I wouldn’t have her over for Thanksgiving.”
A Filthy Girl Repeatedly Infects A Son With Lice
“Repeatedly infected my teenage son with lice. Every time he came home with them, he’d say they broke up, we’d go through the whole delousing process, then they’d be back together the next week. Repeat.
I’ve spent a fortune this year on pesticides, shampoos, and combs. I wanted to report her parents to the CDC, but my wife didn’t want to make waves.
This isn’t the only thing she’s done that makes me angry (encouraging him to skip school and breaking his phone also come to mind). Frankly, he’s not much better being a surly teenager with a constant attitude. Also, we’re divorcing, he’s my stepson (so no child support), I’m moving out this week and it won’t be my problem anymore.”
Nodding Off At Thanksgiving
“Thanksgiving day… Daughter brings her new boyfriend over and they are dozing off at the table (clearly high). I offer to take them home saying ‘If you’re so tired maybe you should go home.’ The new boyfriend gets angry and swearing at me. I had to shove him out the door and as he tries to get back in I kick him in the chest…. Then cops come and take him away…. I hate that guy.”
A Woman is a Terrible Influence on a Son
“They got together when he was 15, she was 19 at the time, every time they broke up she would sleep with one of his friends. My son is no saint, but she brought out the worst in him with drugs and booze all the time, they would fist fight non-stop. When he was 17 he moved out and got a place with her, a very nice place in the suburbs that she pays for with her ‘dancing’ and drug dealing. She also got pregnant when he was 18, continued to ‘dance’ and take drugs. Had a miscarriage at 5 months, well not exactly, she actually gave birth and the baby lived for a few hours, then the baby died. I just hate her, and I hate that we all have to pretend we like her or he doesn’t come around the family at all.”
Football is Serious Business
“Son-in-law checking in. What I did to make my wife’s parents not like me was to marry her. To this day they cringe at the fact that their southern belle daughter married a Yankee. We’ve been together 15 years, have two beautiful daughters together, and my in-laws still will not respond to me when I call them mom and dad. Fortunately, their hatred for me doesn’t extend to my daughters, they’re very loving grandparents and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I actually have a lot of fun with it. Whenever I’m around them I do my best to accentuate my New Jersey accent and love going over on game day and cheering on the Eagles. The Thanksgiving day game last week was so awesome. Sitting with them as their beloved Cowboys got decimated by my Eagles.”
A Mom Regrets Missing A Lot of Clues
“Starting when my son just turned 15 he would be persuaded to sneak out at night by a girl who was 18. What made me angry was that I caught him sneaking out one night and he alluded to having done things with her and never went into more detail. From that day forward I did not like her, but I wasn’t mad at my son because she got him to sneak out possibly have sex and at the time I thought he was a boy and his hormones were raging so told him never sneak out again. However, being biased and not the greatest parent when he got older he explained that she forced him into having sex with her one of those nights, then persuaded him that this meant that they were in a relationship and continued on ‘dating’ for a couple years. Ever since then, I’ve been upset and do not take things for granted.
My son is a great kid and he’s pretty open with me now, but as he got older he realized his story was an outlier and his guy friends and especially some girls he dated later down the road made fun of him for his experience. They would say things like, ‘You’re a boy, of course you liked it,’ ‘She forced you? That’s kinky, well sounds like your dreams came true,’ and ‘So you like when and older girl dominates you?’ All of these remarks made me absolutely livid. However, I learned that when I brushed off my son’s situation with his past SO as just ‘raging hormones’ I was no better than his friends and latest girlfriends mocking him and have tried my best to make it up to him.”
Enabling Her Boyfriend Does Her No Favors
“Decided that renting a house with her and two other friends was a great idea when he has no job and isn’t going to school. Meanwhile, my daughter is going to school full-time, busting her butt working, and living off minute rice so he can sit around on xbox live (my son sees him on all the time).
Yes, I know my daughter made the decision herself, but he’s taking advantage and it isn’t right.
I suppose I am angrier with myself because I thought I taught her to be smarter and stronger than that. And more grateful for the home I got with a full finished suite downstairs with her in mind, so she would have her own space while going to school.
I miss her and I’m afraid she’s going to drop out of school.”
The Worst Kind Of Influence
“Introduced her to drugs, which resulted in her becoming a full blown drug addict. She’s clean now and they are no longer together, but he still wants her back.”
A Woman Lies About Being Pregnant To Her Husband for 9 Months
“Did nothing but lie the entire time they were together. Lied about everything. She lied about being pregnant for the full nine months.
My step-son was in the Army stationed in Kuwait after the Gulf War. He was sent to Germany for medical treatment and while there met this girl. They fell instantly in love. When he returned stateside, he brought her over to the U.S. so they could get married. Supposedly she had a huge trust fund that she would soon be able to access and they lived like they already had the month running up tens of thousands of dollars of debt. They would laugh at how the other soldiers lived paycheck to paycheck. They got married after a couple of months….(paid for my stepson’s Mom and my husband and I). She quickly became ‘pregnant’ and milked it for everything it was worth. She created tons of problems within the family by carrying lies back and forth. They are having problems, but stick together though from this point forward they are continually on the brink of splitting. Fast forward to a month before ‘the baby’ was to be born….my step-son is discharged from the Army and moves close to his mother in Kentucky. His wife decides to stay in Texas with friends until the baby is born. Against her wishes, he flies back to Texas to be there when the baby is born. Well, surprise, surprise…there isn’t a baby. She and her friends laughed in step-son’s face when he showed up at their apartment.”
A Mom Can’t Break The Cycle Of Abuse
“He has manipulated and emotionally abused my youngest -17-year-old girl – into moving across the country to live with him to sell drugs for him and his crummy cousin, and treats me like I have no right to parent her because she doesn’t live with me. I moved to Europe, she was meant to finish high school while staying with her Bio Dad and then take a gap year with me in EU until College. Lil Jerk had other plans. My daughter used to be very strong willed and focused on her future. At first, when Jerk didn’t get his own way with her he would throw a tantrum and punch, kick and throw stuff around. She has since stopped disagreeing with him and now complies with his wishes. When I intercede he yells at her. When I come to Canada to visit she is only permitted to stay with me for 1 night at a time and then he whines that he misses her and she goes back home to him.
Sorry, this could go on for another 3 pages so I’ll just say this and then shut up – She has a history with emotional abuse, she saw my ex do it to me for 4 years. She was always the first to try and calm him down.
I feel powerless to help her, I feel like I’ve lost my baby in some kind of crummy vortex and I’ll never be able to pull her back.”