First dates can be a lot of different things—decent, mind-blowing, boring, above average, and sometimes, the date is just straight up terrible. Some dates are so bad you can't handle being with the other person for a single moment longer.
Reddit users shared the time they went on a date so bad they left right in the middle of it. All stories were edited for clarity.
He Was Captivated By Her Feet
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“A guy from the gym asked me out for coffee.
We hit it off and walked to the beach afterward. We were sitting on a wall watching the ocean and he told me he gives amazing foot rubs and insisted on giving me one. He took off my flip-flop and was REALLY into my feet. Then, my toes went into his mouth and I noped out.
To top it off, I was somehow ridiculed for it. Somehow I was the chick that liked getting her toes sucked.”
She Should Have Just Swiped Left
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“Back when I was on Tinder, I was chatting with a guy who suggested we meet at a local pub. Something seemed off about him from the beginning but I couldn’t put my finger on it.
We sat at the bar to order drinks, and there was a simple misunderstanding between him and the bartender about our order. My date reacted by telling the bartender off and saying the bartender could kiss his butt. Then, he proceeded to lecture me about my career field as if I’m an idiot. Meanwhile, I got a text from a previous creepy Tinder date who I had ghosted saying he was in the bar watching me.
That was the final straw. I said I had to go to the bathroom and actually ran out of the pub as fast as I could.”
She Complained About Their First Date, While On Their Second Date
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“I don’t do anything expensive for first dates. My go-to is walking around a public lily pad garden, then playing mini golf around the corner. Sometimes, based on the interests in her profile, I’ll do something different like going to a museum or the planetarium.
I met this great girl and we really hit it off. Based on her profile, I thought she would love the South American exhibit at the local museum so we went there for our first date. We got banana splits afterward and I thought it was a pretty good date. I was looking forward to seeing her again.
She had some work stuff then I had some work stuff, but after like three weeks we made it happen. We were going to see a movie and eat at a little restaurant, but she was 30 minutes late so we just went to go eat.
She spent the first 10 minutes talking trash about the last guy she dated that took her to a stupid museum then out for a banana split. She complained that her last date was too cheap to buy her dinner, ‘like a real man.’ She kept talking and talking and talking…about me.
I excused myself from the table, paid for my drink and half the appetizer, and left. Blocked her on the app and my phone.”
Keeping Her Options Open
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“It was the third date with a girl. We had had our second date earlier that morning, brunch and watching European soccer at an Irish pub. She invited me to go out drinking with some of her friends that night, and I agreed.
When I got there, I saw her and one of her male friends at the bar. This guy kind of had his hand halfway on her back, which I thought was weird, but maybe they were just close friends. I was behind them so I sat at a table, thinking they’d see me and turn around once they got their drinks. Instead, they slid off to the right and headed through the doors next to the bar to the outdoor area. I went up to the bar, got a drink, and followed them.
When I got to their friend circle, the girl barely even acknowledged me when she saw me, which I thought was both strange and quite rude. Eventually, the conversation got going and I was meeting her friends. I looked over and this dude had his arm around her shoulders. At this point, I pretty much realized what was going on, but I rolled with it just in case I’m wrong. We moved inside and she talked to me a little bit more. She was basically alternating between me and this other guy, and she was visibly quite wasted.
Eventually, we were sitting at the bar. She was talking to me and casually getting close enough that our arms were rubbing together. I thought I might have misjudged the situation and that we were back on track. Pretty much as soon as there was a break in our conversation she turned to her other side and started talking to the guy while I was watching some hockey game on TV. A few moments later, I turned back and saw her full on making out with this guy at the bar, and he had his hand down the back of her pants, groping her right in the middle of the bar. Incredulous at what I was seeing, I sort of laughed it off, updated my friends I’d been live texting this trainwreck of a date to, finished my drink, and walked out without a word to anyone.
The next morning, she texted me and apologized for her behavior, but I didn’t respond back.”
His Musical Tastes Didn’t Meet Her Standards
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“This was the only time I’ve ever let a friend set me up with someone I had never met. My friend knows someone ‘perfect’ for me: smart, funny, ‘really pretty,’ similar likes. She’d gotten out of an abusive marriage about 8 or 9 months prior and was ready to meet some new people. I was a bit hesitant about meeting new people, but figured we’d both be nervous, so why not?
The girl and I sent a few brief texts before deciding to meet at a chain bar/grill. The night came and we met. We ordered drinks, started small talk… She was exactly how my friend said she was. The conversation was really good, better than expected. We were hitting it off, so we decided to stay and grab dinner.
While ordering/waiting for food to arrive, we started chatting about music, which was something we’re evidently both super passionate about. I told her that I’m really big on seeing live music and that I’m excited because I’m seeing two shows the next week. She then said going to Dave Matthews concerts is her favorite activity and asked if I’ve seen them. I said that I have, as part of festivals and while I don’t really consider myself a big fan, they were good both times. Her eyes got huge and she said, ‘I just told you they were my favorite band, and you tell me they suck?’ I calmly restated what I had said and she quickly apologizes. But, a warning alarm had gone off in my mind. She asked about the bands I’m going to see the following week. I tell her who I’m seeing (Drive-by truckers one night and the next Dälek), and she’d never heard of either, but as long as it isn’t Country or Rap (she clearly pronounced both with capital letters), it sounded like fun. She then went on a full-blown tirade about how country and rap were all her ex-boyfriends listened to, and that’s ‘the reason why he was such a bad person,’ and that people that listen to ‘that garbage’ are mostly worthless idiots who beat women…
I interrupted her by opening my wallet and put enough money for both of our dinners on the table. She just stared, wide-eyed.
I said, ‘In the space of five minutes, you’ve put words I didn’t say into my mouth, insulted me for my choice of concerts, and compared me to your abusive ex. Perhaps you aren’t ready to meet new people quite yet.’
I then went to my local watering hole, got trashed and listened to a bunch of music she probably would’ve hated. I ended up having a pretty good time, post-date.”
A Guy And His “Busy Hands”
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“We were sitting in a movie and he put his hand on my thigh.
I didn’t want him to put his hand on my thigh, so I very gently took his hand and removed it. He moved it back. I moved it away. He moved it back. I told him to stop touching my leg. He laughed and put his hand even higher on my thigh.
I grabbed my stuff and left. He followed me into the lobby of the theater acting like he had NO CLUE why I was upset. I had to raise my voice and cause a slight scene to get him to stop following me.”
Stage 5 Clinger, Run!
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“Oh man. My friend wanted me to have a date to homecoming so she set up a blind date with her brother’s friend. We decided to go to the movies first to test the waters.
This guy showed up wearing a Canadian tuxedo and leather wristbands. I was like, ‘Oh no, this won’t be good.’ I gave him the benefit of the doubt, though.
We got into his car and I asked him where he was planning on going to college. He said that he was planning to go out of state, but now that we were ‘together’ he would stay home. Oh no, I’m stuck in the car with a crazy.
We got to the movie theater and he said he would wear his nice black jeans to homecoming and I said I was just going to go with friends. He got visibly angry but once we were in the theater, he would not stop talking the whole time about how amazing I am.
I said I felt ill, got up and left and walked the two miles home. He called me for months and a couple times I saw his car outside my place. I later found out that he had a shrine in his house with barbies (thought they looked like me) and the movie ‘Sweet Home Alabama’ (the movie we went to).
So creepy.”
That Was A Less Than Optimal Car Trip
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“The guy I had been seeing for a while and I spent an afternoon at a festival about two hours away from home. We had a great time and had a wonderful day. Until we headed home.
I don’t remember how our fight started in the car, but he threatened to break my nose. I pulled the car over and made him get out. He thought I was just joking around by leaving him there and assumed I’d be back in a few minutes to pick him up.
NOPE! I left him there on the side of the road, in the middle of nowhere, with no money and no cell phone (this was before everyone owned one)
I drove to his place, taped his apartment key to his door, and lived happily ever after.”
The Boldest Move?
“On a first date, Starbucks was super crowded so we sat in his car and chatted.
He asked if I wanted to watch a movie in the car, I said sure, but I wasn’t really paying attention. We talked some more and suddenly I started hearing moaning. Yep, he put on adult movies. I was shocked and asked him what he was thinking! He then whipped out his junk and asked me to suck it. Nope, done.
He called me two weeks later and asked why he hadn’t heard back from me.”
His Dad, The Cop, Instantly Recognized Her
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“I met her online and she wanted to go fishing. While we were on the way to my dad’s place where I kept my boat, we started talking and we started to hit it off. We arrive at my dad’s to pick up my boat. My dad was there to help me hook up the trailer.
When the girl and I got out, my dad’s eyes went wide but he acted normal and I introduced him to her. He immediately took out his phone and started typing something. After a few minutes, I received a text from my dad. He has been a cop for almost 25 years and he said to take her home, fake that I’m sick and he is going to meet me there. He would explain later.
So, trusting him, I started faking terrible stomach cramps and asked her if we could reschedule because I wasn’t feeling well. We drove back to her place with my dad following to make sure we made it since I was ‘sick.’ After I dropped her off, my dad walked over to my truck and explained that this girl has faked three different cases of guys trying to kidnap her after meeting them online in the past six months. They found out because she admitted to her dad, who was also a cop. She only did this because she thought it was fun.”
This Guy Expected Too Much
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“We were on our second date. He bought me two drinks. A slow song was playing and he wanted to slow dance. As soon as we hit the floor, he wanted to shove his tongue down my throat. I said I just wanted to dance and talk, get to know each other. His response? ‘Well I just bought you two drinks!’ I walked off the dance floor, put cash on the table to cover my drinks and walked out the door. Yuck.
It was disgusting. Honestly, I was shocked. Not to sound superficial, but my friend set us up because he was a writer and she knew I liked ‘smart’ guys. I dated enough regular good guys to know this guy was a creep. I went straight to my local bar because I was so mad! When I complained about the incident to the locals there, every guy in the place said, ‘I’ll buy you a drink, no strings attached!’ I forgot how good it felt to have that kind of back up.”
A Criminal Act On A Hike
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“He took out his junk, randomly without warning, while we were hiking at 2 pm, on a Sunday, on a busy trail, with lots of families around.
I was just like, ‘I gotta go,’ and he was genuinely curious why, so I had to explain to him as we were hiking back up the trail towards the parking lot, about how indecent exposure is against the law. I cringe so hard thinking that this is a real person out in the world.”
Her Level Of Entitlement Was On A Different Level!
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“I didn’t even get as far as the date.
I met a girl over the weekend at a quiz in a pub. She was a friend of my cousin who I was there to fill out a team with. We swapped numbers and got to talking during the week and I asked her on a date for coffee, scheduled for the Saturday. On the Friday before, she told me that if I loved her and wanted this relationship to work, I should bring her on vacations and to hotels and stuff.
I told her I wasn’t going to be meeting her for coffee the following day and haven’t seen her since.”
This Guy Moves Fast!
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“Mine didn’t even turn into a date.
I bowled on a team once a week and chatted with a guy that came in the same nights with his family. We finally made a date and as soon as I got in his car, he asked me to marry him! He even pulled a ring out of the glove compartment and said he was in the Navy and he was scheduled to be relocated to Germany in two weeks.
I was shocked and scared, told him he was nice and I would write to him but it was just weird, I never heard from him again.”
She Gave Him Chance After Chance And He Still Failed
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“This happened to me just the other week. I had plans to meet up Friday night with this guy, everything seemed good. We had been chatting and there was mutual chemistry.
We decided to go on Thursday instead since we were both just sitting at home doing nothing. Thursday we went out, grabbed some drinks, flirted, kissed, etc… It was a lot of fun. I really enjoyed myself. We decided to keep our plans for the next night.
I worked until 8:30 the next night, but I left as soon as I could, rushed home, quickly changed, threw some makeup on, and headed over to the bar where we were meeting. I got there on time and headed in to use the restroom. In the meantime, he called me to tell me he’ll be a few minutes late because he couldn’t find the restaurant and he was yelling about how I picked this place and we should have gone to another establishment. First warning.
After asking him where he was and realizing he was right across the street, I instructed him on how to find the bar. He finally pulled into the parking lot and got out of his car. He was wearing sweatpants! It looked like he just rolled out of bed. Second warning.
He started walking over to me and was stumbling. The first thing he said to me was that he’s wasted. Third warning.
At this point, I was annoyed and didn’t want to be there. I took a deep breath and we entered the restaurant. We sat down and he ordered a drink and cheese fries while I ordered a water. We got to chatting, I made a comment and he leaned over, acting like he was going to smack me in the face. I looked at him shocked, like, don’t touch me! I told him that it made me uncomfortable and feel weird. My ex-husband hit me and that was one of the reasons we weren’t together anymore. He made a comment about me getting on his level. I said I couldn’t drink a lot because I had to drive home. He looked at me and said, ‘What do you mean, drive home?’ I laughed it off and said I couldn’t get trashed, I have to drive home.
This is when everything turned from terrible to even more terrible. He got angry with me that I wasn’t coming back to his place with him and he said to me, ‘But I charged my other controller for you!’ Uh, cool? I told him that I didn’t know where he got the impression I would be coming back to his place but I didn’t even know him. It’s not happening.
He then called me boring for ordering water and told me if I wasn’t drinking then, -he points to the door– I looked at him and said, ‘You don’t have to tell me twice!’ I put my jacket on and left.
He was a real peach. Ugh. The entire encounter lasted maybe 15 minutes. Maybe.”
She Gave Him A Peek Into Her Past And He Did NOT Approve
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“I ditched the date at the bar we were at after she told me she got mad at her ex over nothing and then proceeded to ruin his classic car.
She also casually mentioned being arrested over something else related to aggressive behavior – I would have remembered what it was she did had I not checked out right then and there. I faked going to the restroom, then promptly paid my tab and left.
Why would you think that that’s even a thing to tell someone on a first date?”
He Couldn’t Have Planned A Worse Date If He Tried
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“We talked for a few days before going on a date and I told him that: one, I’m pretty low key and don’t like being the center of attention, and two, I hate karaoke with every fiber of my being. So what did he do? He decided to surprise me by taking me to a karaoke bar. He said that he wanted to push me out of my comfort zone and expand my horizons. Then he signed me up to sing.
I walked out as soon as the DJ called my name. I’ll expand my own horizons, thanks.”
She Didn’t Care About Time
“I had tickets to see the musical ‘Cats’ in Louisville. I stressed to her that I’ll be at her place at 7 pm that evening, sharp, and we need to be on the road by 7:15 due to traffic, parking, lines, et cetera.
I arrived on time. She answered the door in bra and panties, holding a shirt in front of her for additional cover (second date, no hookup yet). I reminded her about leaving on time and she swore she would be ready.
At 7:15, she came out in a bra and skirt, saying she needed just five more minutes. At 7:30, she came out in a dress and asked how she looked. I said it’s fine, so she decided to change clothes. At 7:45, I walked out and headed to the theater. The next day, she called me and screamed into the phone, ‘I WAS READY AT JUST TEN MINUTES PAST EIGHT! YOU COULD HAVE WAITED!’
Needless to say, there was no third date.”
She Should Have Waited Til Date #2 Before Revealing That
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“It was toward the end of the date. She decided to confess she was a convicted offender who had two months earlier been released from prison after two years. She got busted giving hummers to teenage boys in a group home. All of a sudden, I had to go and noped the heck out of the coffee shop.”