A mother-to-be got the good news that she was pregnant with her long-term fiance. However, she found herself in a delicate situation regarding the name of her child and is struggling to keep everyone happy.
The 30-year-old woman shared her plight on Reddit, where she details the situation. She explains that she and her fiance have been an item for almost 10 years and are planning to tie the knot. The reason it’s taken a while is her partner’s sister has cancer, which is getting worse. She lives with her parents in another country.
The poster explains that she recently found out she was pregnant. Her fiance gave his parents the good news, but they told them just how bad his sister’s health was. The issue is, since that conversation, the poster’s fiance and his mother have been “dropping hints” that her upcoming baby should be named after the sister. They have allegedly suggested some names, whether for a boy or a girl, and she doesn’t like any of them.
The woman despairs, “I don’t want to be the ***** now and say no while everyone is waiting for her to pass but, I also want this to stop.” She also explains she doesn’t want her child’s name to be a reminder of an aunt they may never meet.
The Mother-To-Be Proposed A Solution
The poster originally asked the subreddit if she would be in the wrong to refuse the names while the family is grieving. However, she revealed a recent conversation with her mother-in-law. She allegedly said they should focus on the sister’s condition more than baby names for the time being. The mother-in-law agreed, but now her fiance is angry. He allegedly asked why they couldn’t just indulge his mother.
Considering the sensitive situation, most commenters believe the mother-to-be is not at fault. Many even suggest helpful ways to approach the issue. One reply, with 12K likes, presents a tactful way to refuse the request. It also says, “Kids shouldn’t be born with jobs or burdens.”
Another says, “If you’ve ever met someone who was named after a dead relative, you may have noticed how it permeates their existence.” They add, “It’s quite sad.” One reply provides a potential way to meet them halfway, reminding them that it’s their partner’s baby, too. They suggest a middle name to honor the sister, explaining they believe it’s a common practice.