A simple ‘would you rather’ question is threatening to split up a couple after a young man gives his girlfriend an answer she doesn’t want to hear. He has allegedly not heard from her since.
The bewildered man, 21, shared his story on the r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC subreddit, sparking a heated debate among commenters. He explains that he and his girlfriend, 22, were chatting when a random “would you rather” question came up. The question was, “Would you rather cheat on me or snitch on your homeboys?”
He allegedly asked her to clarify what snitching meant and who his “homeboys” were. She named some of his closest friends and said the theoretical snitching would be so bad it would ruin friendships. After pondering what to say, the man allegedly admitted he would rather cheat. He tried to backpedal, explaining he wouldn’t want to cheat, nor would he ever do it. However, he thought ruining long-lasting friendships with multiple people was worse than cheating.
That answer went down about as well as you’d expect.
The Poster Hasn’t Heard Back Since
The poster says that she stopped responding after he gave her the answer. It’s been a while, and he still hasn’t heard back. He also says that he wasn’t trying to be mean and is annoyed that he was asked the question, as this was the potential outcome. The man asks the subreddit if he is an ******* for choosing cheating over snitching in a fake scenario.
In many topics like this on social media, commenters are either mixed or squarely in the poster’s court, although that’s quite the opposite here. One reply simply reads, “Well, you told your girlfriend your priorities and she isn’t very high in the list.” Another points out, “YTA For thinking cheating is ever the correct answer. You’ve probably just made her realize that cheating isn’t a big deal to you, and now she’s probably going to have that thought in the back of her mind.”
One thoughtful response points out that while the situation was hypothetical, “You literally said you’d rather cheat. Even if your homeboys deserve to go to jail you still rather cheat.” The commenter clarified that there was nothing wrong with his answer, as it was the truth, but there’s also nothing wrong with her leaving now that she knows where she stands.