Nineteen men and women reveal all their best dating tips when it comes to impressing a lady. We just wish someone had given us this advice earlier!
Constant kindness
“Kindness. My mum always said you can tell a lot about a man by how he treats animals. I extend this also to how he treats waitstaff at restaurants, curious children at the mall, crying babies in enclosed spaces. It’s kindness to others that I feel impresses me the most; I know you can be kind to me, you want in my pants. Being kind to those around him is more impressive in my book.”
A clean living space
“Having a house or apartment that the guy independently maintains and keeps clean. As a guy, I’m always self-conscious about my apartment. I have old ugly furniture, I can’t afford a lot of decor, and I hate deep cleaning. But at the same time, most girls I’ve had over seem mildly impressed that I don’t live in total squalor, so I guess it’s all relative.”
Apologize and forgive
“As a girl, I’m always impressed when a guy can apologize when they’ve made a mistake. I’m even more impressed when they can also accept apologies when I’ve made a mistake. To add to this, I have a little story. You have to apologize and actually mean it when you make a mistake. I was out of town once for business, and the guy I’d been seeing for a few weeks grew furious at me for not answering my phone (I was in meetings). After sending a lot of passive-aggressive texts (I guess you fell for some scumbag down there, I can’t believe you’re doing this to me), I finally got a chance to call and I gave him an earful before hanging up. Later that night, when I spoke with him again, he was just doing that (sigh) ‘I’m sorry, of course you’re right’ and I could practically feel his eyes rolling as he said it. I broke it off with him before the conversation was over.”
Don’t linger
“Probably depends on the gal, but my wife always talks about how great it is that I don’t just kind of shadow her at parties, but go have my own conversations and meet new people while still checking in every once in awhile.”
Make her smile
“Make her smile. Now listen, my mom’s only advice about women to me when I was a teen was ‘always find out what makes the woman you like smile.’ I know it sounds dumb as a teen, but now, as a 40-year-old man, that advice is solid AF and has not wavered. What’s great is that the formula works! See, if you have a shallow woman who just likes material things, then money and sh_t like that will make her smile. If you have a woman that enjoys a simple hug and a kiss, that will make her smile. If a you have a woman that enjoys lots of sex, then that will make her smile. So what better way to impress a woman than to get to know her and find out what makes her smile. Also, it is the test to see if you are compatible. Then you do your best to always put that smile on her face and if you do that better than any other man, she’s yours forever. Remember most of the time you forget a person’s actions, but you never forget how they made you feel (this concludes today’s PSA).”
Can he water a plant?
“Someone told this to me once, and it really resonated with me: having a plant that he can not smoke and is not dead.”
An omelet chef
“I always do stupid stuff to pretend to impress my girlfriend and make a big deal about it and she just playfully rolls her eyes but last week I flipped an omelette perfectly while in mid-conversation and it’s the first time I’ve seen her look genuinely impressed in our 4 years together.”
Keeping your word
“When we were dating, my wife was impressed that I would always call when I said I would call. I generally do the things I say I am going to do. That alone put me leagues ahead of a lot of other guys.”
Smelling nice
“Smelling nice! It shows that a guy cares, and also girls always smell nice so why shouldn’t guys? Just don’t overdo it on the cologne.”
Story time
“Let a woman finish her story.”
Help the elderly
“Help little old ladies. No joke. I was dating this guy and still kinda on the fence about him as it was just about a few weeks into our relationship. Well, during our first big snowstorm we pulled into his driveway and noticed a little old lady trying to fix her wiper that had broken off. Without batting an eye, he gets out, walks over, fixes it and comes back. Sealed the deal. Such a hunk.”
Take interest
“Fellow dudes, you’ve gotta take an interest in them and try to learn more about their areas of interest. Too often, people try to impress others with the brag-a-thon method, but in reality, it’s much better to make others feel like they are interesting, too.”
A love of learning
“Personally, I find it really attractive when a guy can stay curious, love to learn and have an open mind.”
Genuine listening
“Girl here. When a guy remembers something I said in passing, it never ceases to amaze me and make me feel all giddy inside. It shows me they were genuinely listening.”
Treating the ladies well
“Treating his mother or sister or close female relative well and with respect gives a really good impression, in my opinion.”
Be a regular
“Shoot the sh_t with the staff. I always take my dates to places where I’m a regular. When everyone knows your name, it makes you look like a later-day Sinatra.”
No pedestals
“Tease them, be playful, don’t seem overly concerned with being ‘nice.’ Be respectful, obviously, but women tend to be turned off when they feel they are being placed on a pedestal.”
Don’t fix, listen
“Not a woman but this took me years to learn: When your significant comes to you with a problem, LISTEN. Do not try to solve their problem as 9/10 they want someone to listen, not to fix. Always was tough for me as I like fixing [things][1].”
[1]: http://Not a woman but this took me years to learn: When your SO comes to you with a problem, LISTEN. Do not try to solve their problem as 9/10 they want someone to listen not to fix. Always was tough for me as I like fixing things.
It can’t hurt to be a handyman
“I have an old junk truck and it sometimes doesn’t start when I hit the key. Well, I had a woman in the truck and it wouldn’t start so I grabbed my screw driver, popped the hood and jumped the terminals on the starter solenoid and the truck fired right up. She acted like I just discovered fire. Definitely wasn’t trying to impress her. But she was definitely impressed.”