Some people just don't know how to respectfully end a relationship... Finding out that someone you truly care about is cheating on you, is devastating! Never put up with someone who is willing to hurt you and doesn't show you the love and respect that you deserve!
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“My ex-fiancee had both an iPhone and a MacBook. If you know anything about iMessage, this means that he can send and receive texts from his laptop. I was using his laptop for homework (with his permission) while he was at work.
He got a text message from his ex, who he talked with on a regular basis. I was uncomfortable with her since she was ‘the one that got away’, but she was married and he insisted he just thought of her as a good friend and I chose to believe and trust my then-fiancee. But the text she sent him that day seemed strange, just randomly saying: ‘Just texting to say I love you’ or something like that, and it just popped up in the corner for me to read. I opened the messages.
Found hours of sexting messages. Hours. He’d been sexting her that morning even when I had slept next to him all night and we’d cuddled and kissed goodbye when he went to work.
I wasn’t home when he returned.”
Where Her Trust Issues With Men Stem From…
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“The actual discovery occurred when I looked at his texts and discovered their messages to one another. The following day I confronted him and although he initially tried to deny it he eventually spilled the truth. What’s perhaps more interesting was the lead-up to my checking his phone:
A month or so previous, he told me that he was going out with a lady friend for a drive. I trusted it was platonic at the time. Later, there was a hair in our bathroom that didn’t belong to me, so I made a passing remark about her having to come in to use the washroom at some point. What was strange is that he denied she had done so, even though that would have been a perfectly plausible and totally not suspicious reason for it to have been there. I rationalized that it had fallen off his clothes at some point.
Following that event, he called me one day in a panic that this lady friend’s ex had seen them together and immediately flew into a jealous rage. Since the ex threatened to get in touch with me, my then-bf rushed home to warn me about the incoming message and that it was a lie. I believed him, and since the other man made me uncomfortable when I met him before, I blocked his message.
Before leaving for a trip I was going on without him, he started crying and said that this was the end, even though we had been working on improving our relationship and things had been okay lately, I thought.
Upon my return, he acted strangely. The first thing I noticed was that he would start leaving the room to take calls on his phone, despite never having done that before, ever. He also took his phone with him into the bathroom while he showered which, again, was unlike him. I even came home to find him mid-conversation and heard him say ‘I’ll call you back,’ in a hushed tone before immediately ending the call and dodging through the kitchen to avoid me.
When cleaning up his dirty laundry, I found a ring in his pocket. Don’t know if it was hers; it wasn’t fancy by any means, but it certainly belonged to a woman.
The culmination of these events made me paranoid, torn between being a good, non-snooping girlfriend and wanting to get to the bottom of things. He had a strong personality and a heck of a temper, so I didn’t think to ask him would have yielded honest results. I was able to get ahold of his phone and leaf through his texts, and that provided tangible proof. Had I not found those though, I would have broken up with him anyway.
And that, friends, is the story of how I went from trusting men in a romantic context to not being able to trust myself as a judge of character.”
Screen-Sharing On Skype?
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“I was in a Skype group call with him, two friends, and some mutual girl they all knew (except me) call her W.
He was screen-sharing with us, showing us playbacks of our league match and what not and I said on the mic, ‘Babe, can you replay that? I didn’t see.’
Everyone in the call saw W message him and he opens it up WHILE SCREEN-SHARING with us, she messages saying, ‘You told me you two weren’t together, why does she keep calling you babe/baby?’ He typed out: ‘I don’t know, I can’t just leave her like that you know?’ Then one of our friends in the call just said, ‘Uh…Dude…’ I just said, ‘Wow, are you freaking serious?’ And we all watched him backspace what he typed and type out: ‘No? lol.’ He ended the call right away.
I ended the relationship shortly after.”
He Was Just Starting To Trust Her…
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“I remember I was brushing my teeth and looking myself in the mirror, and I thought to myself, ‘I finally feel like I can trust her! I don’t think she has been unfaithful at all to me. That’s a good feeling!’ I went back to the computer where we had a skype session going, and I told her my mirror thoughts. I was so proud of myself because I can have trust issues. She immediately went silent and started biting her lip. I was like ‘Of course…’
She ended up telling me that things got rekindled with her ex, and they started hooking up again. It was just the worst because we were in a long distance stint of our relationship.
We broke up, and she got back together with him, and then wanted me back, and then wanted him back. I’m not even sure where it all stands now, but we don’t communicate. A great victory for Rome.”
She Drove By His House!
“I drove by his house on my way to work (it’s on my way to work, wasn’t a checking up on him thing), saw them making out. Got through my day (barely) and called him. Asked him how his night was, got an ‘Okay me and T (male best friend) got a lot done.’ (His excuse for not being with me the night before) ‘Oh who was the girl this morning?’ ‘That was J, she stopped by to pick something up, she’s just a friend.’ ‘Really? Weird, I don’t kiss my friends like that.’ ‘It’s not what you think…’ This went on for a while. I really just wanted him to admit he’d cheated. He never did…
Even better, a few days later J called me and was calling me all sorts of lovely mean names because she thought she was the only one in his life.
A couple hours later (after I’d hung up on her) she called with the intent of having a threesome. I started laughing, ‘and I’m the girl sleeping around?’ click Got a few calls from her (thanks ex for giving her my phone number, that was sweet of you!) over the next month or so threatening me.”
‘Find My Phone’ App Found His Wife With Her Boss!
“It was the night of her company Christmas party. I had to stay home and babysit our five-year-old son (Grandma was supposed to, but she fell and was in the hospital with a broken hip.)
I figured wife would go and then come home early. Turns out, she was planning to stay the night at a hotel so ‘she could drink and not worry about driving.’
I woke up about 3 am just knowing something was wrong (never happened before) and checked ‘Find My Phone’ to see where she was. She was with her boss at his apartment.
Pretty much sucked.”
The Phone Bill Kept Record
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“When he was going on deployment, I got that horrible feeling that something was going on. I looked at the phone bill details and found many calls to a phone number that wasn’t our friends. So with dread, I called that number. The woman who answered was aghast because he told her he was single. (Funny thing about that call – this was not the first time she had been seeing a man that she didn’t know was married. She told me that during our conversation. It was surreal).
He filed for divorce during the deployment and was trying to get it pushed through as quickly as possible. He must have told that new one that he was divorced. Our kids were 3 years old and 1-year-old (twins) at the time. It was devastating to me and I was so clueless back then.
Looking back, I realized that the cheating had been going on for a couple of years. I don’t know why he didn’t break it off with me earlier or why he agreed to try for another child when he was seeing other people.
It took a while to get beyond the pain and betrayal. I’m a much happier person now than I was then – and more well-rested now that the kids are older.”
Dating The Cheating Model…
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“I was dating a girl who was a model and used to fly to different parts of the country for photo shoots (typically LA and NYC). One trip she said that the director of the shoot won’t allow phones on his set and then she ignored me for 4 days. When I asked her about it and confronted her she somehow convinced me I was the crazy one.
Fast forward a month and her and I are back to normal, Christmas rolls around and I get her a really expensive diamond necklace. Fast forward about three months after that and she gives me my birthday gift… A picture album of her (professional pictures) and says: ‘Remember that photo shoot I couldn’t answer the phone? These are the pictures from that photo shoot! Don’t you feel like a jerk?’
For a split second, I kind of did feel like a jerk, until I looked at a couple of the photos closer and realized that the necklace I bought her was dangling around her neck.
I pointed it out to her and she couldn’t come up with anything, so I left her place. She called me the next day and admitted she was getting dicked In New York that one week, and that was all I needed to never speak to her again.”
Abandoning Her At A Far Away Restaurant?
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“I had been going through a rough patch with my girlfriend at the time. We both worked at the same large chain grocery store and a lot of co-workers knew we were dating.
One of the girls comes up to me when I’m closing and asks, ‘Are you still dating so-and-so? Because I just saw her in a coffee shop parking lot making out with some guy.’
I trusted this source and she was very upset when she found out she provided very hurtful news. Being an evil man, I began to plan my revenge. So I planned a romantic getaway an hour and a half from home. So we went to a nice restaurant and it was actually a good time.
At the end of the meal I excused myself to use the bathroom, I have a long drive ahead of me. I go up to our waiter and ask him to tell her that I know. Give him a $20 as a tip (she was dead broke because she just paid for school, which I helped her pay). After the bathroom, stuck out of the place got in my car and drove home.
Her friend had to drive up, pay for the meal and drive her home. We haven’t talked since. Her friend told me I went a bit too far.”
She Was ‘Just Talking’ To The Other Guy…
“I went to her 18th birthday party. I wandered around mingling with all her friends and then I realized I hadn’t seen her anywhere in like 45 minutes. I thought nothing of it at first, but then I went downstairs to use the basement bathroom. It was locked. I knocked and I heard a very breathy female voice say, ‘Occupied! Go Away!’ Since I really had to go, I decided to wait.
My girlfriend came stumbling out of the bathroom with some guy about ten minutes later, looking all flustered and stinking of really cheap weed. Apparently, the guy bought himself a bathroom quickie with a few hits of a bad joke.
She made some excuse about how they were ‘just talking’ and he was an old friend. I shrugged, actually wanting to believe her. But when I went in to finally pee, the stupid girl had forgotten her panties on the bathroom floor.
I handed them to her in front of all her friends upstairs and walked out. ‘Here. You forgot these in the bathroom downstairs.’ It was one of those classic zinger moments when you really burned someone, but at the time, I just felt sick and brokenhearted.”
“Staying At Her Dad’s House”
“She was staying at her dad’s house after going clubbing. I had been to a lock in at a pub just down the road and decided to surprise her when she got back.
When she didn’t turn up after 4 am, I rang her up. She told me she had just got in and didn’t want to talk for long so she didn’t wake her dad.
I said; ‘That’s funny. I’m outside your dad’s house now and nobody has been around here for hours.’
Turns out she picked up some random guy in a club and went back to his house.
The worst part was that she had been doing this for over 6 months using the ‘I’m staying at my dad’s,’ as an excuse.”
He Wasted A Lot Of Money On Prom…
“Back when I was a junior in high school, I was dating this girl (let’s call her Melissa) we had been dating for a good 4 months and I was planning to take her to junior prom. I had saved a bunch of money from recycling and mowing yards in my neighborhood to buy a new dirt bike but decided junior prom would be better. Melissa and I always went to baseball games so we could watch my friend play and when I couldn’t go she would still go the games. I didn’t think anything of it.
So prom comes around and I did the whole 9 yards. I rented a limo, made reservations at a nice restaurant, got my tuxedo and paid for her ticket. So we get to the venue and then she straight up left right when we got there to hang out with her friends. So I went and sat with my friends and we talked, then finally she came up to me saying she wanted to go on this carriage ride and there was a line. So we go over to the line and wait, then she left again. She told me to text her when I got to the front. So I waited for 2 freaking hours. Finally got to the front to ride a 30-second carriage ride that she just sat quietly through. After that, prom was over. I didn’t slow dance with her or anything.
So after prom weekend my 2 best friends came up to me and asked if I still like Melissa. I said ‘Yes of course,’ and they told me I need to break up with her. I again asked ‘Why?’ and they then told me that Melissa has been sleeping with a kid on the baseball team and was going to the games to see him. Everything was right in front of me and I didn’t even see it. They found out because they saw Melissa and the other kid making out behind the C-train by the baseball field the day before prom. They told me they didn’t want to tell me before prom so it wouldn’t ruin it and waste my money, but it was too late.
I wasted $600 on a night that could have gone towards a new dirt bike.”
Waiting Around For Her Man To Return Home?
“I was living with a guy, he goes home for Thanksgiving and said he would be back the following Monday. Well, he didn’t come back until after New Years, kept making excuses as to why he was staying longer. Finally, returns, we spend 3 days together then he breaks up with me and tells me he’s moving to another state. I was pretty upset but overall was honestly calm about the situation and knew it wouldn’t work out long term with him that far away.
He leaves to go get something from the store and my cousin calls (they are from the same town, I met him through her). She asked why I sounded upset. I told her he was in town and that we had just broken up. She says, ‘Uhhh…what is he doing there? He told everyone here that you broke up before Thanksgiving. He’s been sleeping around with at least 2 girls that I know of.’
He came back happy as a clam having no clue I had found out. Kicked him out in the rain at 10 pm at night. Left his TV out on the curb.”
His Girl Was In Complete Denial…
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“I was dating a co-worker. I was a network administrator and she worked in accounts.
Anyway, a few months into our relationship she went to China for a week to visit a friend. No big deal, but when Skyping her a few days later I just got a really bad vibe. Shook it off.
Few months after that I was moving a suitcase of hers for some reason and it had a couple airline tickets stuffed into it, which fell out. Went to throw them away only to see that they were from her trip, the first was to a city that actually flew to China (ours does not), but actual one to China was the day AFTER she got, which I found really odd. Her flight was late in the day so she could have flown in that morning and it was strange she’d never mentioned it.
Oh did I mention a guy who’d been trying to get in her pants lived in that city? This did not sit well with me. But at this point, there was no definitive reason for me to suspect anything I didn’t say anything. Plus this was a trip she’d planned right as we were starting to become a couple so I wasn’t there for all the planning and I figured it was reasonable that she’d forgotten to mention the stop.
But, I couldn’t shake the feeling that things were off. I’m a pretty perceptive guy and normally not at all the jealous type, so eventually, I gave in and I did a very bad thing…I abused my power and started logging everything she did on her computer, then went through all her emails. You don’t need to tell me how wrong that was, I’m well aware.
As it turns out she’d cheated on me two weeks after we started dating. Then when she’d gone on her trip she’d stayed with and slept with the guy on the way to China, followed by sleeping with the friend she stayed with IN China.
So now I had proof, which I absolutely couldn’t use because she could very well have gotten me fired for collecting it in the way I did. So I just broke up with her. She insisted on a reason and as I had to work with her I needed to give one. In the end, I just said told her to ask around to three different people. The look on her face was one of complete shock, that then turned quickly into denial. After the denial, she then demanding to know why I thought any of that. I just told her it didn’t matter, I knew and nothing she said was going to change that; Queue apologies/excuses/the works.
What really hurt the most was just how CONVINCING she was in her denials. If I hadn’t known with absolute certainty I’d have found myself questioning if I was right myself.
Anyway. Got out, with someone else now, much happier.”
Game Night Gone Wrong!
“A few years ago I was dating a girl for about a year… Things were going really well, with no issues on the surface that I was aware of. Of course, she had a few ex’s and other male friends that she would see occasionally, but I am generally not the jealous type. Anyways, one of her ex’s gives her a call and invites her over to his place for a ‘casual game night.’ We arrive, and everyone is drinking heavily and playing a few board games. I leave to go to the bathroom and come back to find that the two of them sitting very close to each other and whispering. When she sees me come back, she instantly changes the subject, and I am pretty sure that she blushed.
At this point, I am starting to feel a little weird about the situation, but again I am not the jealous type. They continue to share awkward glances to each other until eventually, he excuses himself to check on something in the kitchen. Not 15 seconds later, my ex leaves for the kitchen to ‘refill her drink’. At this point, they were holding up the game, and I knew something was up. I walk towards the side door for the kitchen, and slowly open the door.
I couldn’t really process what I was seeing…Even now it’s difficult to think about. I look into the room to see my girlfriend with her ex, and he’s handing her several hundred dollars, and she’s thanking him. I confront her, and she immediately starts apologizing and begging me not to make a scene. I storm back out into the main room, and in front of the entire party, I let everyone know that I just caught her cheating. I haven’t played Monopoly since. I don’t care if she can’t afford rent on a property she landed on… that’s no excuse for cheating.”