The first date with anyone can either go smooth-sailing or slightly horrifying. That being said, these people didn't get the best of first impressions from their dates, and quickly ended things.
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Maybe You Should Not Complain And Act Negative On A Date
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“The dude complained the whole time about how his friends were all jerks who got hot girls and he was just a nice guy that got shorthanded because he wasn’t a jerk.
He also dragged me around the mall arm-in-arm, went to Spencers and bought a hat with rhinestones on it, while currently wearing a hat, still complaining about how his nice-guyness made girls not like him, and then told me if we were going to be together that I would have to shave my body hair because it was gross if I didn’t.
I faked fainting and got my mom to drive me home, but not before he gave me his old hat.
Months later, I got a Facebook message from him asking for his hat back.”
Their Date Ended Up In The Hospital?
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“A while after my parents split, my mom joined a dating site. She met up halfway with a guy who lived far away, and he was late.
Around 45 minutes after the date was set to begin, he stumbles into the restaurant, completely hammered. Starts towards my mom’s table, trips, and smacks his head on the corner of the table where she was sitting. He then fell unconscious and began bleeding profusely from the forehead. Everyone in the restaurant is frozen in awe staring at him passed out.
For whatever RIDICULOUS reason, instead of just calling an ambulance and leaving, my mom decides to drive the unconscious man to the hospital and spends all night there to talk to him when he wakes up. Essentially, just to say there won’t be a second date and officially reject him in person. I can’t remember if she drove him home or not but it’s a possibility. So insane.”
These Guys Do Not Understand How To Act On A Date!
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“He pulled out his phone to calculate, down to the penny, how much each of our meals cost. I have no issue paying for myself, I prefer it especially for a first date, but I just find that tacky.
A different guy spent the whole date asking me questions then interrupting me within the first few words of my response to answer his own question. He told me midway through the date (drinks at a bar) that he was a drinker and he ‘just liked to get that out there.’ Like, had lost a professional job due to his drinking but had no intentions of changing. It just made me sad.
But I stopped feeling bad about it when he texted me the next day to tell me that after the date he did stuff to himself, twice, while thinking about me.”
The Downward Spiral Of ‘Netflix And Chill’
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“I went over to a guy’s house to watch a movie. It was my first date after a long-term relationship, so I know it was stupid to go to his place, but we hit it off on a dating app. I’ve also never gone on a ‘date’ with someone I don’t already know or have mutual friends with, so it was new territory for me.
He’d mentioned before that sometimes he likes to paint his toenails. I thought he meant like a goth/punk dude paints their nails sometimes, you know like a solid black or dark blue or something. Nope, he showed me, silver with swirls of red and black and white which would have been cool except his toenails were long, and that was a little off-putting. Okay, whatever, feet are normally covered, so no big deal.
He starts talking about all the psychedelic substances he wants to try. That’s cool, not my thing, but not a deal breaker. He says he can only do them if he’s in his ‘safe-safe,’ which is any place he feels ‘completely safe and comfortable and there are no bad vibes.’ The safe-safe thing was a bit weird, toddler speak. He offers me a drink, so I ask for water, but he grabs a drink instead. Then he starts pressuring me to smoke. I do a little but don’t want to get blitzed because I was just getting a weird feeling from him. He won’t stop pressuring me.
Then, hooray! Pizza delivery arrives, saving the day. Except oh no, the delivery lady had the wrong soda – she had regular Coke and he’d ordered Cherry. He completely tears into her, treating her like she’s an idiot and demanding she brings the right one. She says she just takes what they hand her, she doesn’t put the orders together, but she’ll bring the right one when she’s done with her other deliveries. As he shuts the door, he laughs and tells me that he would have taken the regular Coke, he just wanted to make her feel like crap. And that’s where all interest ended.
Before he took me home, he did pull the move where while finishing watching the movie, he mumbled something so I’d turn to face him only to have his tongue immediately jammed in my mouth. For anyone who does that, no. Work up to the tongue, don’t make it the appetizer.”
Probably Should Avoid Talking About Exes
“We were set up by mutual friends. I told him bluntly at the start of the date I was just out of my first serious relationship.
I was 18 years old, feeling shy, and wanted to take things slowly. I told him I was happy to be on a date with someone genuinely interested and tried to make it about ‘us’ not my insecurities. He then asked loads of questions about my ex and compared himself to my ex and latched onto similarities. I even said: ‘I’d rather talk about you than someone I didn’t want in my life anymore.’ He kept complimenting everything I said, and every opinion I had, at first it was nice but then it became way too much. He spent five minutes talking about how clever I was when I said out loud that I had found an easier way to handle the chopsticks (I was trying to use them properly, and had never used chopsticks before).
By the end of the dinner date, I was ready to go home. We had arranged an early dinner date so I could get the bus home safely (before there were crazy people on them). He said he was having such a wonderful time he didn’t want it to end, and wanted to take me to see a film. I was reluctant but then figured he was trying to be nice and maybe by getting to know him better in a less formal setting we might click better. He wanted to watch a soppy love film and DID NOT seem the type to watch those movies. I know I’m not a soppy movie gal. He wanted to set the mood for our date. I told him I wasn’t fond of soppy movies and would rather something to talk about after. I chose ‘Gran Torino.’ It was a great film; I got sucked into it so much I forgot I was on a date until he said: ‘Sorry, I’m a bit boney.’ Yup. I mean I get that it can just happen to men but who of just mentions it and looks at you with puppy dog eyes on a first date?! I just went, ‘OH! Okay,’ and went back to watching the film, screaming internally.
After the movie, he didn’t even want to talk about the movie, just how amazing I was and every opinion I had was perfect. He wanted to take me out for drinks; I refused and said my buses didn’t run late. He checked all the bus routes as he waited at the stop with me and found the late night buses. I then said that actually I’d just been embarrassed because I had a curfew and had to get home. He gently pulled me close when my bus arrived, and I figured it would be more stressful to pull away than to give him a peck which is what I did and immediately got on the bus straight after it. My bus ride home had wasted people who were unusually the soppy nice kind who guessed I’d had a bad date and tried comforting me by saying I was gorgeous and ought to be a naked model in magazines, and I had a lovely personality just like their daughters. The whole date was a hot mess but at least the journey home bemused me.”
His Admitted Dreams About Their Future Together
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“I went on one date with a guy I met on Facebook (mutual friends).
Now that I think back on it, he may have had some serious mental problems. He was sweet and handsome, but towards the end of the date, he said something like, ‘I think this is destiny, like we are meant to be.’ And I just laughed along with it and said ‘cool’ or something. He then said, ‘I had a dream we got married, and I think it’s going to come true.’ And then looked at me like it was the most romantic thing a guy could say. After a long silence, I burst out laughing and he was visibly upset. He then begins to shake and start sobbing. I say something along the lines of: ‘I’m so sorry. I just like to take things slow! You caught me off guard with that comment!’ He shouted (actually shouted in a crowded restaurant), through hot tears, ‘You caught my heart off guard!’
I sat with him for a while longer, the only sound between us was his quiet sobbing. Then he suddenly stops and I smell the most potent, disgusting smell I think I’ve ever smelled. He looks at me accusingly and says through his tears, ‘I just crapped myself.’
After stifling a laugh, trying to comfort him and sitting next to a wailing, soiled 26-year-old man for a few more minutes, the smell became too much, so I mumbled an excuse and left him there.
A few days later I received a Facebook message from him apologizing for his ‘little accident’ and informing me that I ‘still drive him crazy.’ I blocked him.”
She Wanted Them To Spend Christmas Together?
“Throughout the date, she kept telling me about Christmas at her families house and how she wanted me to go with her because she couldn’t wait for me to meet them. Seemed kind of strange, but not a dealbreaker.
At the end of the date though, she found out I was going on leave after Christmas to go home for a couple of weeks. Once I told her this, she started asking me flight plans because she wanted to buy herself tickets. I tried to push her off by telling her it was a packed flight and there was no way she could get tickets (may have been true, I didn’t know), and she said it wasn’t an issue and she would just drive and meet me up there. Nope. I didn’t just drop her though, I explained why her behavior was an issue and she wouldn’t leave me alone. Ended up having to have a guy I worked with, convince her that my number was his new number.
She did find me at a club a year or so later, and apologized for being so clingy.”
No More Blind Dates For This Guy!
“Blind date.
She lied about how she looked. At the time, I was moderately into fitness, I was doing two hours a day of aerobics plus cycling to and from work. I don’t smoke or drink and requested a non-smoker.
She turned out to be 210 pounds. However, she had dressed up nice and was pleasant, so off we drove. When we got to the restaurant, she started smoking. During the course of the evening, she told me a lot of things about herself, including that she was schizophrenic and had problems dieting (I could see that). She also said some racist stuff about aboriginals (I’m an Aussie). Apart from that, her other conversation was just generally boring.
On the way home (we went to restaurant, had dinner, then I drove her back) I think she could tell it wasn’t going well so she started telling me about her ex-boyfriend ‘who was a policeman’ and ‘If anyone hurts me or upsets me, he will get them,’ and stared at me and I realized she was now trying to threaten me.
So we got home, she asked if I wanted to come in, I said no thanks, she asked if we were going to meet again, I said I don’t think we’re compatible, she burst into tears and ran inside.”
The Egotistical Guy That ‘Rated’ Her On Their First Date
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“The dude I went on a date with did SEVERAL things wrong.
First, he was late, and when he finally arrived at the agreed meeting point, his excuse was that his other date had run late.
He proceeded to toy with his phone throughout the date, telling me he kept receiving messages from this girl that was ‘kind of stalking’ him. He kept hitting my shin under the table when we stopped for something to eat, probably trying to rub his foot against me, I guess? It gave me a small bruise.
He then rated me (a 7, so hurrah?), leaving me too perplexed to find a good reply until, finally, when he kept bragging about what a catch he was, I couldn’t take it anymore and told him he was too full of himself. Why he hadn’t prepared for such a remark still puzzles me, because he had prepared his cocky one-liners and his ‘pick-up artistry.’ In hindsight, I think he was trying to insult me all the time, but he clearly hadn’t considered that a girl might say something negative to him in return. He did not get a second date. I left somewhat wiser. Have a lovely non-negging boyfriend now!”
The Longest Date With The Most Red Flags!
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“Highlights from a date that unfortunately lasted 12 hours because I relied on him to take me home (decided to get a smartphone shortly after the date).
We planned for lunch. The restaurant he wanted to get lunch at was closed, and he was visibly angry. I chose a random restaurant in the area – the menu was outside, and I mentioned it was expensive and asked him if it was okay. He said it was okay, but complained about the prices the moment we sat down.
He insulted my company’s tech stack for no reason other than bragging about his start up’s tech stack.
He insulted my high school because I said it was a good one, and he thought his high school was the best, so mine had to be awful? We grew up in different states and his school was private and mine was public.
I got bored of listening to him talk about tech stacks for the fifth time and told him I wasn’t interested in that sort of thing. He looks at me and says, ‘Oh, now you look like the average female programmer to me!’
We met on OK Cupid. He told me I was the highest match he’d ever had aside from some random person in Russia. He then asked if I had ever been in a relationship before, because ‘you seem like the type who has never been in a relationship.'”
He Kept Making Her Feel Uncomfortable!
“The date spanned over a day, so there was killing time around town going into shops to browse, a meal, and then a movie and drinks after. He refused to let me pay for anything.
Now, I know that doesn’t sound like a bad thing, except I made it clear that I was uncomfortable with this and continually insisted I pay for my half.
This stuff got wild. At one point, he GRABBED a bag of chocolate out of my hand, ran to the cashier and paid for it. The chocolate wasn’t even for me, I was buying it as a present for my little sister.
Sorry dudes, no matter how nice you think you’re being, if you are making someone uncomfortable, you are being a jerk.”
Incredibly Intrusive Questions On Their First Date
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“Recently, I went on a first date, and we were having a decent conversation, and then he says, ‘Well, tell me what are all of your faults.’ My response is that I felt it was a strange question for a first date to have someone list off their faults instead of just having a good conversation and seeing if things flow. Also strange to put someone on the spot to start thinking about all the things that are wrong with them on a first date (especially when you struggle with depression and anxiety).
Then he starts asking random questions, ‘Have you ever been married? Do you have any kids? Do you have an STD?’ I’m assuming he read my face because he tried to save himself and asks ‘Are you ticklish’ and then proceeds to start to tickle me. Did I mention that we were at a restaurant and sitting on the bar side at one of those communal tables? Because we were, and we were surrounded by people. I tell him to please not touch me because it makes me uncomfortable. We continue to talk, and then he asks me if I had a Facebook. My response is that the majority of people do. He asks to see it and I pull out my phone thinking that maybe he just wants to get the spelling of my name right. Wrong.
He starts scrolling through my own page on my phone. I ask for my phone back. He asks me to find him and add him on FB, so I feel slightly obligated at this point, and I do. We finally eat and then leave. As we are walking, he begins to tickle me AGAIN! I stop walking and look at him and tell him to please not touch me or tickle me because it makes me uncomfortable, and his response is TO PLACE HIS HANDS ON MY SHOULDERS! ‘This makes you uncomfortable?’ he asks. Of course, it does, you idiot. I tell him that I am uncomfortable being touched by a stranger and that it is also strange to tickle people you’ve just met. He then asks about how it affects me with being a cuddler. I tell him that cuddling is a different situation which I am not doing with a complete stranger and that if he tried to tickle me again I would murder him. He laughed at my response. I would have told him how terrible the date went but during our date, he spoke about how he preferred to be ghosted instead of being told what went wrong in the date so he wouldn’t be hurt and could live in ignorance. He called me the next day, I ignored it. He commented on my Facebook status and he has now blocked me on Facebook. I call that ending a win.”
His Idea Of ‘Taking Her Somewhere Fun’
“I ran into a guy from high school at a club right after graduation. He was older than me by a few years, but we recognized each other and starting talking and dancing. We exchanged numbers and he asked me out.
He picks me up and takes me to In N Out. Not just In N Out. The drive-thru at In N Out. I think ok, maybe we’re going to have a picnic. At night. Weirder things have happened, so flags don’t start waiving yet. Our city has lots of romantic parks to choose from, so he takes me to the smallest, out-of-way-in-the-corner-of-the-city one that’s right next to a drainage ditch. It’s also frequented by local vagrants because of its discreteness. I pick a bench that’s well-lit and in an area I can quickly escape from and we eat and talk. Nothing groundbreaking.
We finish eating and get back in the car. He tells he wants to take me somewhere fun. We pull up to an apartment building and he says there’s a hot tub waiting if I’m interested. I ask him if this is where he lives. He says no but a friend does. He’s not home, so we’d have to jump the fence, but it’s cool. He does it all the time. I politely decline. He says, ‘Ok. I want to take you somewhere else.’
We drive to the fancy park in the town, where he stops in front of a big, log cabin house. He points to it and says his grandma lives there. Without another word, he leans in and starts making out with me. I’m caught off guard but otherwise get on board with it. He starts wanting to sleep with me. I was inexperienced at this point, so I tell him I’m not ready so he just fondles a bit, before taking me home. Needless to say, no second date.
Just an all around strange experience.”
Comparing Her To Other Girls?
“I was on a date with someone I went to high school with.
We’d been out of school for several years and bumped into each other and he asked me out. We went out for drinks and it wasn’t long before he asked: ‘Do you remember so-and-so?’ So-and-so was a girl he had graduated with; two years before I graduated. I said that I knew of her, but I wasn’t friends with her. He responded with: ‘She’s so hot. But she’d never go out with me.’ It was lost on him that he was basically saying I wasn’t hot enough to dismiss him. That was the first of many stupid comments that lead to us not hanging out much longer.”