People Share The Heartbreaking Reason Why They No Longer Trust Someone Who Used To Be Close To Them

There is no lower feeling than being let down by the people you trust the most. These people have the stories that broke their hearts.

A Mom Lies, Then Forces Her Son To Commit Fraud

“My mom really messed with my undying trust I had in her as a child. She would tell us we were going to Disney World, all up to the point of having us pack, just for dad to come home and say, ‘We barely have money for food, we’re not ever going to Disney.’ She knew she couldn’t afford to go but she wanted me to be excited. She’d show me all the plans and everything. My dad would have to go in and cancel hotel reservations all the time, and she’d blame it on him, saying, ‘He’s just a dream killer, he never lets you have any fun.’ I grew up thinking he was awful.

But the mega big papa trust screwjob was when I got in a car accident at about 12-13 years old. I wasn’t hurt terribly bad but my mom made a huge claim to get a bunch of money. I had to go to physical therapy and fake injuries. She took the $2,500 and went on a vacation…without me.”

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He Didn’t Really Mean What He Said

“I got cancer and my colleague at work (who I thought was a good friend) responded with ‘if there’s anything I can do to help, let me know’ and then proceeded to refuse every request I asked for (get a drink after work to vent, come to doctor appointment so I wasn’t alone in waiting room, get together on the weekend, etc), and then accused me of being ungrateful and trying to take advantage of him. Apparently, I was supposed to know that the offer wasn’t real, just ‘what you’re supposed to say.’ It really is true that you find out who your true friends are when something bad happens to you…”

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An Entire Family Enables Distrust

“Well, my mother, sister and I went to live with my mother’s brother after my father died, for financial help I guess. When I was 9, my mom got leukemia and the first time she ended up staying in the hospital overnight, my uncle laid naked on his bed and asked me to come in and sit next to him. By some luck, I didn’t just do it, I ran. My older sister (13 yr old) was at a friend’s house 2 blocks away. I ran there, didn’t even put shoes on or anything. I was bawling and told her. She called the hospital and we got connected to our mom’s room. We stayed at that friend’s house that night, but due to financial reasons, we stayed with my uncle and we never talked about it after that. That obviously cemented that I couldn’t trust him. Then, his mom (my grandma) came to live with us to help since my mom was sick. But the whole thing was ignored and we still lived there with my uncle, with my grandma treating him like her favored child the whole time, nothing wrong. So that also confirmed I couldn’t trust her to put me first.”

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A Deadbeat Roommate Stops Paying All The Bills

“Roommate who stopped paying bills while his name was on the lease was using my rent money for whatever and not paying rent, then all of our utilities got shut off because he didn’t pay that either even though he told me he was constantly. Then after the utilities went out I went to work and came home and half of his stuff was gone and I didn’t hear from him again.

It really sucks especially when you think that person is your friend. I found out about the rent because of an eviction notice on the door. I couldn’t stay there anyways because it was January and there was no heat or water or power so I stayed with my girlfriend at the time. I went back a few days later to get all of my stuff and I literally could not even step foot in the kitchen because it was so rancid and they didn’t clean anything ( I forgot to mention it wasn’t just one guy, but brothers). I’ve only messaged him once basically just to say screw you and he just acted like he did nothing wrong and didn’t know what I was talking about. What a prick.”

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Betrayed By His Girlfriend And His Best Friend

“One of my best friends of about 20 years slept with my girlfriend/mother of my son. This brought about the lowest point in my life that I don’t think I’ve ever really recovered from.

Most of my relationships with friends and family were strained and no one really got along with my girlfriend. My mom passed away suddenly a few months prior. My girlfriend and friend were pretty much the only people I had.

I always looked up to my friend as far as relationships went, he was always so over the top monogamous. I think that was a big connection we had, cause our other best friend was a player. So my friend, girlfriend, and I got really close and hung out a lot. Really I saw it coming but was just in denial.

One night girlfriend goes out with her friends and my friend happens to be at the bar. She gets really wasted and ends up staying at his place for ‘safety’ purposes. Fast forward a couple weeks, my girlfriend is in the hospital with a blood clot. After we get home from the hospital she breaks down and tells me the blood clot was a side effect from the morning after pill that she had to take after sleeping with my friend.

I broke up with her that day.”

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She Denied His Only Request, At His Father’s Funeral No Less

“After my dad died I asked to speak at the funeral. The only request I’ve ever made of my mom. I’d spent years taking care of him and was there when he passed. She said no. Instead, this guy spoke who barely knew him. Dude actually said that in his speech too!

It was quite possibly the meanest thing my mom ever did to me. Although there are plenty more examples. The minister (as well as many friends) were horrified my mom pulled this. She’s a very sick and controlling person and relished in infantilizing me. I’ll never trust her again.”

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A Pathologically Lying Ex-Boyfriend Even Alienates His Mother

“There were a lot of things with one ex I had. He lied about having a job, even after he moved in with me. He would just leave the house and go somewhere for a few hours to say he was ‘at work.’ I was in college full time and working part-time, so I wasn’t home enough to catch him at this (though one of our roommates eventually did).

He apparently was able to pay for his part of the rent for a while by borrowing money from a whole lot of people on a rotating basis, but eventually, that dried up.

He invented people as well. Especially people he ‘worked with.’ And he always had new and more outlandish reasons for why you couldn’t meet them. It was surreal.

The craziest part was that after I kicked him out, he started telling his mom he had stomach cancer. I emailed her and told her it was definitely false, but she wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. When she flew down for his surgery to help take care of him, he said he had the date wrong. He did that to her twice, then I think she cut contact.”

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With “Best Friends” Like This, Who Needs Enemies?

“After years of trying to pull myself back together after my sister’s suicide, I started seeing this guy and was really freaking out because I have serious commitment issues. My then best friend wouldn’t hear of meeting the guy, he wasn’t allowed to our group gatherings (she said stuff like ‘I don’t want to share you’). I had finally had enough and asked her if she could just support me with this dating thing because her negativity was too much. She told me, ‘you’re too messed up from your sister’s death to have a relationship with anyone.’ I told her never to speak to me again and I haven’t.”

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A Child Is Traumatized By Their Parents Lack Of Action

“My mom bought a diary for me to write down my dreams and thoughts. And then proceeded to read it and made fun of me. I was 7 years old.

Worse, my parents also swept the fact that I was taken advantage of by my year 7 math teacher under the rug. They never confronted the guy, never mentioned it, generally, pretend it didn’t happen.

We live in a third world country that had just recovered from 2 devastating wars and another civil war. Police work is a joke here. I do get that my mom was doing the best she could since she had no idea how to deal with the situation. Her childhood and teenage years were spent working for food and general survival. Things like mental well-being, childen being abused, or that teachers are not all morally upstanding are all western ‘fancy’ ideas to her. So shutting down and sending me away was her way of dealing with it. Yeah, she sent me away to go to school in another city, living with an aunt I’d never spoken more than one sentence to before. And then a few year abroad on my own, during which I was severely depressed yet didn’t even have a clue what depression was.

I was fine with her action until I talked to someone and they pointed out how not ‘fine’ it was at all. Then suddenly it felt like I can feel all the feelings I suppressed before. And I can’t help but feel so disappointed and resentful. If your idea of extraordinarily successful parenting is feeding them and properly dressing them, then please get a dog.”

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A Friend Fakes Wanting To Commit Suicide

“She told me she was committing suicide. I talked her through it, cried with her, got a nearby friend to call the police to go help her, etc.

Maybe after 15 minutes of this, she seems to be better and says, ‘I’m glad I can trust you to be there if I ever actually think of committing suicide.’

It was a test. She was very confused as to why I refused to talk to her ever again.”

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A Liar Finally Lies Too Much

“My best friend was routinely living at my house, hanging out, etc. I defended this kid (we were teenagers at the time) with words and fists more than once. He always had these outlandish stories that, I’ll admit, were slightly unbelievable but I accepted them due to the way they were told. Gradually these stories got worse. Either way, he started stealing stuff from everybody, including myself and generally tried his darndest to screw over all his friends. His last name became synonymous with ‘being ripped off.’ I told him to kick rocks when I was about 19.

10 years later, I run into him at a festival. I was working on a farm and mentioned it. I find out a while later from the farmer that he showed up there one night, uninvited, and started name dropping me and basically making everybody real uneasy. I called him out and he pretty much just accused me of all the awful stuff HE did when we were younger. I didn’t threaten him, but he might get punched next time I see him. Lord knows he deserves it.

This guy screwed over so many of his friends and lied and lied and lied.”

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A Mother Steals Money

“After our wedding reception, my new husband and I left the money we got as gifts with his mother while we went to enjoy our honeymoon. A week later we came back and gave her a call saying we were on our way to pick it up, we needed it to do some stuff on our house. Well, she confessed that she spent it all while we were gone. She never asked permission and lied about needing it for bills. In the past, we had loaned her a couple hundred dollars here and there that she never paid us back, but we never thought she would steal money from us. Looking back we were stupid to trust her with it. We told her we’re never giving her money again and she had a week to pay us back.

She did get the money back to us, but when she handed it over she hugged my husband and thanked him for helping her and letting her use it. I’ll never forget the look on his face when she did that. Now, 4 years later, we avoid ever seeing her because every time she asks to borrow money, and every time we say no. Most recently, she showed off a piece of art she bought from a neighbor for $150 the week before, and the next day she asked us to borrow $200. When we suggested she sell the art, she said she’d just call her siblings for the money. I’ll never trust her again.”

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A Mother Crushes A Girl’s Trust

“Beginning when I was 9, I kept a diary where I would intermittently write random stuff. I was aware even as a kid that my mother would snoop every now and then in it, but it didn’t bother me because she’s my mom and I trusted her. One day in sixth grade, after introducing her to a boy from my class, she goes and blurts out, ‘Oh so you’re my daughter’s crush!’ I was a fat, bespectacled, insecure 12-year-old, and couldn’t possibly need anything else to bring my confidence down. I’d already graduated from university and had gotten married before I confided any serious news/secret to her again.”

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A Selfish Woman Can’t Be A Friend

“When I started working in juvenile corrections, I had a co-worker I started with. She seemed professional and sweet. We all went to pre-service together and it made us all pretty tight-knit. She was very personable and helped a lot of the female staff adjust to our new careers. When we began duty, she was assigned a unit full of horrible inmates that were really disrespectful and their unit manager didn’t do anything about it. Operations didn’t want to do her job for her, so it turned into the officers being on their own with getting those guys in line. I was in the relief pool, so when her unit was available, I decided to go help her out. Even if the inmates are rough, I figured we’d be a team and get through it. So here’s the thing. I’m the minority in that building. The inmates aren’t white, the staff isn’t white, so it could get awkward sometimes. I’m goofy and it gets a lot of laughs, but it was literally a tough crowd. So, this kid starts tearing into me disrespectfully, saying I’m ugly, I’m weird, and I’m poorly dressed. Whatever. I knew this was coming. Then, my partner, she chimes in with him and goes ‘I KNOW. He was soooo weird during our training!’ I expected it from the inmates, but my partner joined in with them to be disrespectful and insulting. I acted like I didn’t care, but it hurt me a lot that I trusted her and she would just burn me like that to ‘be cool’ to some criminal teen. I avoided her after that. Siding with inmates when you’re staff is the worst thing you can do. She started sleeping with a lot of staff and buddying up with the superiors and it became common that she’d kill time sitting in Operations and leaving her partners alone on the unit. She always talks about her church and being a Christian. Right. Whatever. No wonder nobody wants to see what the bible has to offer with people like her holding it out to them.”

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Dungeons And Dragons Is Serious Business

“Mysteriously my D&D characters would always die once I reached level ten and, oh sorry, healing and resurrection just won’t work. It took me months of watching their characters have glorious adventures before I realized they had planned to kill me off regularly for fun. I couldn’t figure out how their characters would show up with fabulous new and powerful weapons and defenses that I didn’t remember them acquiring in previous adventures. ‘Oh, I played a side adventure at home, rolling and DMimg for myself.’ Eventually, one of the guys told me the DM was just buying the books and picking ultra-powerful items for himself and writing them onto his character sheet, and that I probably shouldn’t play because it had been decided I would always die.

Rejected, even by the D&D players at my school. Lucky me.”

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Social Media Addiction Ruins A Big Announcement

“My girlfriend and I held a moving-away/college graduation party in a river cabin with our closest friends and family. It was a remote cabin outside of cell phone reception. I proposed to my girlfriend that weekend. It was so wonderful. We specifically mentioned that we were SO excited to tell friends that couldn’t make it.

One of our friend’s boyfriends left the day before we did. When we got back into cell reception we had like 100 Facebook notifications. The boyfriend had posted it on Facebook including pictures. Totally stole our thunder.

After confronting him, he apologized and said he has a social media addiction. Turns out he’s outed TWO people’s pregnancies before they even told their families. He has a problem. We don’t tell him anything until we’ve told everyone important to us.”

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A Mean Best Friend Just Can’t Stop Being Mean

“My best friend as a teenager started mocking me and listing things she didn’t like about me to a romantic interest I was introducing her to through AIM. Apparently, she was mad about something, but instead of coming to me directly she opted to wait for an opportunity to paint me in the worst light possible to someone I wanted to think well of me.

It was so bad and out of the blue that the guy thought she was joking and kind of awkwardly laughed along. I was in tears and angrier than I’d ever been. I left the chat and told her she’d no longer be part of my life, and she hasn’t been since.

3 months later, she sent me an insincere non-apology in an email saying she was sorry but didn’t regret it because I totally deserved it because of reasons. I didn’t respond.

6 YEARS later, she hunted down one of my accounts on a journaling website and left a snide comment mocking me about a video game I never finished playing. 6 YEARS. And she popped up just to be rude to me about a stupid video game.

I never responded to that either, but it felt amazing knowing I made the right choice in getting rid of her. 10 years free of that person and I have no regrets.”

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Hard To Trust A Family That Steals

“Pretty sure my family stole $40k in stocks from my wife and I, not sure what to do about it or how to prove it. They were paper stock certificates that we had stored in my mother’s garage along with some other stuff. We called the number on the certificate and were told they had been cashed out, but we never did.”

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A Deadbeat Roommate Causes A Bounced Check

“I bounced a rent check. I was sharing an apartment with my best friend. The apartment and utilities were in my name, so he paid his half of the bills and rent to me. I usually had to nag him for the rent money, and one month he was particularly late. I told him I needed the money asap to pay rent, so he gave me a check. I deposited it, paid the rent check, and all seemed well.

A short while later, I find out his check bounced, which then made the rent check bounce. When I confronted him he said ‘Why’d you deposit that check? It was no good.’ I was dumbfounded and asked him why he’d give me a check for rent he knew I needed to pay if it was no good. He said, ‘You kept bugging me about it.’

No way I’d ever be able to trust someone like that. I kicked him out of the apartment and never talked to him again.

Also, my fiancée in college cheated on me, so I immediately broke it off and never spoke to her again.”

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A Friend Lies About Everything To Get Free Movie Tickets

“I used to manage a movie theater, I came across an application from this kid who was friends with my ex. It said he left his position at another theater because his mom died. I was really sad because we used to hang out at his house and I met his mom several times.

Fast forward a couple years this kid starts coming in every now and then asking for free tickets for him and his friends. I didn’t care, free tickets were one of the few perks of the job (and help our weekly numbers in concession sales) so I’d give him all the tickets he wanted. Then it was his birthday, can I get tickets? Yeah, sure, no problem, happy birthday! A few months later it was his birthday again! I didn’t realize he had 2 birthdays this year until after I gave him the tickets and sent him on his way so I just cut my loss and moved on.

A couple months later he comes in again and asks for free tickets and says his mom just died. I told him to hold on and I get the application. I ask him what is this, he said his mom died a couple years before that. He said he didn’t submit that application and that wasn’t even his address. I said ‘Dude, I’ve BEEN to your house! Don’t ask me for tickets ever again.’ And I left. Never saw him again.”

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A Lazy Guy Turns On His Friend

“This happened during my military service. Conscription was mandatory for all males, so naturally, some individuals tend to slack off whenever they can.

I was newly posted to a new unit and got along well with this guy. Similar interests and friendly personality. Just one month later during a pre-exercise setup, everyone was sweating hard to get the work done. Walked into an air-conditioned room to find him sleeping in the dark. As I needed to do official work, I turned on the lights.

He then went full aggressive on how I was being absolutely selfish for not letting him rest when he was sick. What he basically suggested was that I do a slip-shot job so that he could continue sleeping. Of course, I ignored him and just did my part.

Apparently one week later, I was still sympathetic to him, thinking it was quite terrible he had to be there even when he was sick as it was a ‘national duty.’ I then found out he told others I was selfish and inconsiderate, blah blah blah, blocked me on social media. Geez, we were 20 already. This blocking thing was like 14 years old.

Everyone sided me and I only then realized his social skills were that of a 12 years old.”

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