People share how they learned their friends were terrible people.
He Was Terrible To Her
“The girl who loved him filled a small notebook with poems and letters and thoughts about how much she loved him. They had their issues, but she was a nice girl pouring her heart out to him through this cute little book.
The bad part is where he pretended to appreciate her gift, and while a group of our friends were at his house, he started telling us about how crazy she is for writing this book, laughing at the things she’d written and read some of the pages aloud.
This was only intended for him, and such a cruel betrayal of trust made us all see what a terrible person he is.”
Serious Creep Factor
“I have a good group of four or five girl friends and we’re all in the same sorority. I guess you could call one of these girls the ‘Queen Bee,’ the one who had to constantly remind us she was more successful in life, smarter, prettier, all in these snarky little comments I never really picked up on until a few months ago. I started noticing how loud and rude she was when drinking. Things hit the fan when I realized during one of her wasted rants that she was sharing secrets and confidential stories of our friend group to practically anyone who would listen.
I called her out and tried to cut off contact with her. When another girl in the group did the same thing, she finds out Queen Bee had gotten on everyone’s phone (but mine) and turned on the location share feature so she could track us. One girl said that Queen Bee also apparently had ‘notes’ on her phone detailing when everyone usually went to work, what stores they typically went to, etc. Insane, huh?”
“I’ve Had A Hard Time Talking To Her Since”
“I have a friend whose dog got out of their fenced-in yard and was picked up and taken to the pound. It cost $40 to get him out, but they didn’t do it because it was ‘too expensive.’
They had had this dog for years, and he’s not worth $40 to you? He’s part pit bull, so he was euthanized because they didn’t come get him. He was only four years old and was a super friendly happy dog. It bothers me.
I didn’t know about it until afterwards. If she had told me, I would have paid for him to get out! I don’t get it, and I’ve had a hard time even talking to her since I found this out. I loved that dog and he did not deserve to die. They KNEW he could get out of the yard, yet kept rolling the dice and leaving him out there.”
He Found Out His Friend Was A Monster
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“Last year I got divorced, and because of that, I started reconnecting with old friends. I went to my friend’s house and we were talking, and I asked how his brothers were doing. He informed me that his one brother started dating a girl I knew from high school (we were absolute best friends, the girl and I, in high school). He said that it was causing a rift in the family because she was causing all kinds of problems with him.
Fast forward a bit, and I reconnect with this girl. As I said, this girl and I were best friends in high school, so we quickly picked right up from where we had left off and through our conversations she was telling me about how the guy she was dating, who I was also great friends with, was actually off his rockers and both mentally and physically abusive. Hearing her side of it brought a lot of other stuff I had heard over the years into the light as truth. But what really sealed the deal was her video evidence of him physically assaulting her and talking about how he wanted her to call the cops because he wanted them to kill him.
So yeah, I found out that someone I considered to be a good friend was truly a piece of trash with severe mental issues that he refuses to get help for.”
The Ultimate Betrayal
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“In college, I was dating a guy. We had known each other for a while but had only been dating about a month. My ‘best friend’ literally fooled around with him while we were all sleeping in the same room on a trip. Like, I woke up and turned over and saw them screwing each other. His excuse was, ‘well we had just found out she might be my best friend’s half-sister and I always said I wish he had a sister so I could marry her and we could be brothers.’
This trip was a trip back to my boyfriend’s and my hometown for the funeral of my close young relative who died under tragic circumstances. I had driven all of us. They asked me to drop them off at a fun place in town for a date, because neither of them really wanted to go to the funeral (that they had come along for as moral support).
I stopped talking to both of them. No accusations or dramatics, just, ‘hey, yeah, we aren’t friends anymore.’ Some of our mutual friends told me how terrible I was for cutting them out of my life because ‘they are soul mates and couldn’t help that you were dating him.’ I happily lost a bunch of friends from that. No regrets.”
Her Friend Bailed In Her Time Of Need
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“She started ignoring me and hanging out with our friends without me, and posting pictures all over social media with them. All while I was in a depressive state dealing with my dad’s terminal cancer. She took advantage of that situation and manipulated all my friends.
My dad passed away a few months later, and she didn’t even show up for support at his funeral. Not even a text. We were best friends for 17 years, hung out on a daily basis, and the only person who I could trust with my life. I have no idea what made her spark like that. My other friends did show up to the funeral, which was nice. But yeah, she is a huge piece of human garbage.”
He Crossed The Line
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“When I realized he had a very fuzzy definition of ‘consent’ and ‘age of consent,’ I confronted him about it, and I told him that if he so much as looked crosswise at my daughter, there would be consequences.
He looked me dead in the eye and said, ‘Bring it.'”
He Was A Man-Child
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“I told him about being assaulted by a mutual friend, and his response was to pout and say, ‘well if you’d let him do that, why wouldn’t you let me?’
Looking back, he was one of the most spoiled, awful man-babies I’d ever met. He considered himself beyond reproach because he had Asperger’s and his parents had let him get away with everything because of it because he ‘didn’t know any better.’
He was also from a crazy wealthy family, where he’d had maids to do everything for him. He had never even used a vacuum or done a load of laundry before going to college, let alone had a job, and he refused to learn to do any of these things for himself. If he didn’t get his way, he would legitimately pout like an angry child, wobbly lower lip and all.”
She Didn’t Keep Her Secrets
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“She told everyone my struggles with depression after she told me that I could talk to her without worrying about people finding out.
Then she made me a villain in the friend group and also stole hundreds of dollars worth of stuff from me and backed out of a lease a week before moving in.”
He Didn’t Care At All
“I had this friend during freshman year of college who was also my blockmate. We had the same classes and stuff, and we got along because he was a funny dude.
Then one day, he borrowed my phone because his phone is broken, and he needs to message someone important. So I lent him my phone, but I forgot about it, and only realized a few hours later. He told me he left it in the cafeteria, and sure enough, it was gone. It was a cheap phone, but he showed no care at all, and gave off a vibe of ‘meh, sucks to be you, I guess.’
I should’ve realized it that time, but it kept piling up. He started smoking heavily, stopped coming to classes, so we had to make up for his part of the group project in order for us to pass. Then, he lost touch with us after that. One day, he came to our apartment because he said he blew all his money on treating his new friends for dinner every time then his wallet/ATM card was stolen by one of those friends.
We were surprised because he was one of the cheapest people we have ever met and never treated us to anything, yet we are here to help and we never took advantage of him. We still took pity, and he stayed with us for a week. Then he disappeared. Last I heard, he dropped out and went back to his parents.”
“He Turned Into A Jerk”
“I run gaming tournaments, and I once helped a guy start his own league the next city over. I was an official in his league, helped get the word out and brought food to share each league night. Things were great for a couple seasons.
The league took off and was a huge success. After that, he turned into a jerk. He scheduled his league right on top of mine, even though we shared a lot of players because we were located close together. I tried reasoning with him, but he wouldn’t budge. He thought I was dictating when he was ‘allowed’ to run his league nights. His own players even thought he was terrible.
So I told him, ‘It would never even occur to me to schedule an event on top of yours because I respect the time and effort we both put into this. No friend of mine would do that to me. Do what you’re going to do, and I hope the loss of our friendship was worth it.'”
Joke’s On Him
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“When he asked me to grab a coffee with him, and then he spent two hours berating me because he thought I was trying to steal his girlfriend (another mutual friend). She had been confiding in me about his emotionally manipulative habits and wanted to know my opinion, and I was frank with her.
After she broke up with him, he and his family blamed me, and after a brief period of harassment he hasn’t spoken or acknowledged me since. Good riddance. But the joke is on him because his ex and I are still very good friends.”
She Was So Immature
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“A former coworker was watching my dog in exchange for me letting her use my car for a couple of weeks over Christmas break back in 2008.
Well, she was apparently mad that I hadn’t called every day to have her put my dog’s ear up to the phone so that I could talk to it. She said nothing of this to me but instead texted me late on New Year’s Eve with some bullcrap story that my dog had escaped by digging under the fence and that she had no idea where my dog was. I kept calling her and texting her trying to figure it out, but she went silent until nearly two days later when she just texted to say, ‘never mind, she came back.’
I was suspicious and asked her to send me a picture of the hole my dog made, but she refused. I got back, went to her, got my dog and my keys, stood there while she told me what I terrible dog owner I was, and then never talked to her again. For context, she was in her late-20s or early-30s at the time, so no ‘young and immature’ excuses.”
He Blamed His Friend
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“Was at a pool party at my friend’s house who supposedly used to do illegal substances, but is a clean cut professional. His older brother is a completely straight, by-the-books conservative republican. The Mitt Romney type, not the redneck type. They own a beautiful house together, neither one is married.
Anyway, after the party, the older brother found a bag of illegal substances in the bathroom. My friend said it was mine. It was not mine, and he knew if his brother knew it was his he’d call the cops. I didn’t find out at first, but was never invited over there again and wondered why.
A few month later, another friend told me what happened. Now a few years later I still get texts and calls inviting me over, but I ignore them. Who needs friends like that.”
She Showed Up And Learned The Truth
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“When she made plans with me to an amusement park for a girl’s day out and when I showed up at her house that morning I learned she’d left a few hours earlier to go away for the weekend with my boyfriend.”
Her Friend Betrayed Her Trust
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“I let her stay at my house when my son was very young (I was a single mom). I told her, ‘no men and no illegal substances; I have a little kid.’ That obviously didn’t work, because I woke up two days later to a scummy looking guy in his underwear going through my refrigerator. And then it was a different guy after that. And a different guy. If you wanna sleep around, that’s cool — just don’t bring people who are strangers to me into my house to scope the place and potentially endanger my kid.
Then the illegal substance use started. ‘It’s harmless!’ she says. I’m like, ‘hey, I would like to sit around and smoke, but not at my house around my kid.’ Then it escalated to more hardcore substances. Then it was ‘I’m at the hospital because I overdosed.'”
She Couldn’t Believe Her Friend Did Such A Terrible Thing
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“She wrote a horrifically homophobic and straight up mean word on a sticky note and left it for her roommate to find (they were college dorm roommates and they didn’t get along all year, it’s a long story). When I learned her roommate’s side of the story and heard how upset that made her, I brought that up to my friend and her response was basically ‘good, I’m glad I made her feel like a pile of trash.’
I haven’t spoken to her since. I also have a whole new respect for her roommate who she made me believe was a total creep, but who is actually a really cool chick.”
He Abandoned Them Completely
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“My friend group used to be kind of a trio (we’ll call them Al and Bob). We met because of our mutual friend, Al, whom I’ve known my whole life and had no issues with. After Al died in a car accident, we would hang around his parents and be supportive and just try to make things feel normal.
Well, Bob got into an argument with Al’s parents because they voted for a president that Bob didn’t like. He stopped responding to Al’s mom’s text messages completely. We get together on Al’s birthday and death day, and Al’s mom is always nice about reaching out to Bob saying, ‘hey if you feel like it, you should stop by,’ very inviting. He doesn’t respond, and he stopped responding to me.
He posts pictures all over social media on those days of him partying or going to some weird event.
I don’t care how Bob feels, it’s Al’s mom. We were 24 when he died. It kills me every time I go there. But I don’t care because it’s his mom. It’s his freaking mom, and she’s barely holding it together. And every time she asks me if I’ve spoken with Bob and all I can say is ‘no.’
But it hurts because it’s like I lost my two friends at once.”
“I Guess I Was Just Entertainment”
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“I grew up in an abusive household, and I was sent to a foster home. A few months later, I found out I was being sent to some relatives in another city after winter exams were over. My school offered to let me skip exams, but I wanted to stay in the city a bit longer, so I declined.
I messaged my friend and told her this and I guess she just snapped. She starting ranting on and on about how I’m not special, such-and-such percent of the population has an anxiety disorder and depression, such-and-such amount of people have been abused, etc.
What does my anxiety disorder and these statistics have to do with anything? I just told her I was offered to skip the exams but chose not to, that’s all. She acted like I said I was the only struggling person in the world or something.
I’d been through a lot and I thought I could count on her. I don’t know why she lost it. Well, I told her exactly what I thought of her little rant and she blocked me on all social media. We had been ‘best’ friends for YEARS. I thought I could count on her. Looking back, I notice little things that show she didn’t really care about me. I guess I was just entertainment.”
She’s So Awful
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“Well, she knew my 14-year-old stepdaughter was having an issue with emotional dependence on illegal substances, and being so young and smoking SO MUCH of it was starting to have serious effects on her mental and cognitive acuity.
So not even a week after this conversation where I talked about this, she, my friend, almost 40 years old, smoked with my stepdaughter. The kid came home, and I knew what she had been doing, but I figured she had gotten it from somewhere else.
A week later, I confiscated my stepdaughter’s phone because the deal was she couldn’t keep it if she didn’t maintain at least a high C average with no F’s. While backing it up so she could have her pictures and videos and stuff, I caught sight of selfies they took while smoking together.
I never pressed charges but she’s also now fooling around with my other friend’s long-time unemployed boyfriend, and no one likes her. Karma?”