We’ve all said or done things we regret after drinking too much. However, one husband said something so severe that his wife is now considering a divorce.
The woman shared her story on Reddit and explained that she and her husband have unsuccessfully tried to have children. She explains that tests revealed her husband is sterile, which he took badly as he wanted a large family. After reviewing their options, the couple decided to use a sperm donor, and they picked someone who resembled the husband.
They have a child now, and the woman says that her partner was excited during the pregnancy, but notes he became more distant when the son was born. The wife claims that her husband came back drunk from a bachelor party one night. She had no problem with him drinking, but he said something that shocked her when she was helping him upstairs to their room as the baby was crying. He allegedly said, “Every time he cries, I just think about you having another man’s baby.” Stunned by this omission, she spent the night in her son’s room.
The Husband Apologized The Following Morning
The poster explains that her husband apologized the following morning, but she wasn’t satisfied with his response. She claims he told her he “didn’t mean it like that,” but also can’t explain how he did mean it. The wife asked him if he felt like the child was his. She said he just stared at her.
The woman explains that she’s staying with her parents for now and is considering divorce. She turned to social media to see if her feelings were justified or if she was overreacting.
The post has garnered hundreds of replies, and while most of the comments support the poster’s feelings, many believe the husband is also suffering in his own way. One poster claims they are in the same situation as their son would be. “Your husband needs therapy. He’s grieving and doesn’t know it,” they say. Torturing himself over something that ultimately would never happen is not going to help himself, you, or your child,” the poster adds.
Another blasts the man’s behavior, saying, “I truly doubt that this resentment towards the baby or, in general, the situation is new. He should’ve been more honest with himself and with you from the beginning.”
One commenter says, “Having a baby is hard. Although the baby isn’t biologically his, he agreed to have a child with you. This is how you both decided to go about it. What is more important than passing down genetics is passing down love and character values.”
Many other people appreciate that the wife is hurting, but suggest divorce is the final straw if the couple can’t work through it.