Weddings are arguably the most important day of any couple’s life, so it makes sense that most want it to be perfect. However, that’s rarely an easy task, and you have to consider everything from catering to guests, plus ones, and their children. The latter has become a sticking point for one woman, who fears she may be a bridezilla for banning kids from her special day.
A poster shared their story on the popular r/AmItheAsshole Subreddit to see if her stance was justified. They explain they have a small wedding event planned in summer for roughly 25 people. She also says that she and her partner are child-free and would like their wedding to be the same. “Just a quick dinner and cake with family and friends, nothing special,” they state.
The poster explains that she has a sister with two children, and she is leaving them with family for the event without issue. However, her sister-in-law isn’t as accommodating. She was allegedly fine to leave her child with an on-site babysitter but has since changed her mind. The sister-in-law later explained that she isn’t comfortable leaving her kid with a stranger.
The Woman Tried Her Best To Meet Her Sister-In-Law Halfway
In an attempt to solve the issue, the poster offered to pay someone the sister-in-law knows to look after her child.
The sister-in-law allegedly said, “It’s difficult for her 1-year-old to miss out on their aunt getting married.” This statement raised some eyebrows as the poster points out, “One-year-olds run around and throw food and scream.” They don’t understand what they would be missing out on at that age.
The poster despairs, “If the friend can’t come to babysit or doesn’t agree to our pay, am I a horrible bridezilla if I refuse to make an exception for a one-year-old on our “no kids” policy?” The story has garnered over 100 replies on social media, with the vast majority firmly in the bride-to-be’s court. Many say it’s her day and her rules, and she’s already more accommodating than most would be with childcare arrangements.
Another points out that making an exception risks upsetting families who already made childcare plans. “You’ve already told other family members not to bring their kids. It’ll be worse if you give SiL an exception.”