Lots of people have some small secrets they keep to themselves. Usually, they end up telling their SO and those closest to them. But, what if their boyfriend or girlfriend finds out a secret they didn't want them to know?
Here are stories from Reddit about people who found out the secret their SO didn't want them to know. Content has been edited for clarity.
Adding Insult To Injury
“She’s always insulting me behind my back. I caught her doing it twice. Both times I acted like I didn’t hear her. She made it a point to be extra nice to me after I pretended it didn’t happen. The thing is she insults everyone she knows, from her family to her friends. I actually always expected she was insulting me, only because those she loves most sometimes get the worst of it. I feel like it’s just something she does without thinking, and there’s no turning it off.
Even worse, I think she thinks I do the same to her. But I don’t. And it hurts.
“My girlfriend went to Hawaii with her mom over Father’s Day weekend. I had no phone during that time so our only communication was through email. She was being so lovey-dovey and telling me how much she missed me, how badly she wanted me to be there with her there, and how terrible she felt about being out of town during Father’s Day.
Fast forward two months. I was taking the recycle out one day and saw a torn up sheet of paper. I grabbed it out due to curiosity. It was a sheet from her journal talking about how she cheated on me. I tried to erase it from my memory but this one part that stuck with me: ‘I cheated in Hawaii. This is what I get for not being honest.’
What does that even mean? It sits in the back of my head sometimes. It’s really messing with me
What makes it more exciting is that she just gave me a four-week notice about her moving to Costa Rica for four months with her best friend. If she cheated on me while on vacation with her mom, imagine what she’ll do with her friend.”
Bills, Bills, Bills
“My significant other has some substantial debt from a couple poor decisions right after high school that she thinks I don’t know about. She racked up about $25K after graduation between getting herself a car, not paying attention to her credit card, and student loans. She’s not the best with money, and she doesn’t know how much our apartment or any of the bills related to it are. We’re evenly splitting the bill across all our roommates, but she hasn’t paid her full share in about a year and a half. She thinks she has because I’ve been the one telling her how much she owes each month. I’ve been paying about $300 for her on top of my portion and the portion for my siblings.
But she’s too proud to ask for help with her debt. I don’t want to make her feel insecure by drawing her attention to it, so I’ve been doing things behind the scenes to help her out. I’ve been teaching her some about budgeting. She’s getting close to paying it all off. Once she’s done, I’m going to explain to her what I did.”
“Forgiving Not Stupid”
“About 10 years ago, my wife made out with a guy friend of hers while she was wasted at a birthday party. I only knew because she left her messaging client open where she confessed it to her best friend. I let it slide because she seemed genuinely upset that she did it and vowed to her friend that it would never happen again. We’ve been married for over 20 years now so it hasn’t dampened the relationship at all.
Now mind you, I never left the two of them together alone again. I’m forgiving, not stupid.”
At The Gym Or With Jim?
“After my car was almost stolen, I installed a tracker on my car and my ex-wife’s car for safety reasons. She saw me working on her car and I mentioned a bunch of times that I was putting it in my car as well. I kinda figured she knew what I was doing. But, that’s how I found out that when she would go to the ‘gym,’ she was actually at her ex’s house.
I confronted her about it. She lied through her teeth every time.”
She Was 16!
“He’s my ex now, obviously, but we were together for 9 years. He cheated on me for over a year with a coworker. He kept her a secret because she was underage. He was 26, she was 16. Once she turned 18, they made it public. He used to mention her in work stories here and there and I never thought of it as being anything. Then, he started driving me to work and keeping the car then picking me up. He wanted me nowhere near his workplace. He put a password on his phone. He got texts at odd hours, like at 6 am while she was waiting on the bus. I left work early and a friend took me to his workplace to meet him instead of him coming to mine to pick me up. Surprise! They left together, hand in hand, several minutes after everyone else exited the building.
I had already figured it out at this point, but I stupidly waited for him to come clean instead of calling him out. He wouldn’t. He worked as a retail manager and had a keeper box and magnet in our house. I locked his phone inside while he was in the shower and hid the magnetic key. I made him tell me everything, which he knew I already knew, before I would unlock his phone. Then I kicked him out.”
“We broke up a few days ago. She would send lewd snaps of herself before or after showering to her guy friend. One time, I was just laying in bed and she went to shower. She turned the water on and I heard her clothes fall to the floor. Then, I heard the iPhone camera sound. I didn’t think anything of it but weeks later there was a similar situation. I walked in to use the restroom and see her camera right as she took a Snapchat.
It was a picture of her posing suggestively and biting her lip. I couldn’t read the name of the recipient, but the name had unmistakable emojis on it. I knew who it for. I just said, ‘Oookay’ and did my business. She kind of fumbled some sort of excuse but I just didn’t say anything. We broke up the following week for a multitude of reasons, but that definitely didn’t help any.”
He Texts His Ex But It’s Not What You Think
“He talks poorly about my son and me behind our back to his daughter’s mother. I’m a no-nonsense parent who doesn’t allow children to run the house. His daughter’s mother loves to text him complaining about us. He has complaining sessions about how awful we are every time she does it. I don’t know if he really thinks we are awful or just likes to complain.
I found this out about seven years ago. I think it is a combination of thinking his child can do no wrong and his ignorance of children on the spectrum, like my son. I could have confronted him. I knew if I was confrontational, he would be defensive and shut down. I took the approach of having our family do in-home therapy. My husband has come a long way through in-home therapy. He obviously still struggles with being a jerk. I haven’t checked in recently to see if he still does it. I would say he still does because he did it so often for so long. I hope not though. I try not to think about it always bothers me.”
Covert College Application
“I’m a high school senior in California. My girlfriend and I are applying for college.
Her family is mostly in Colorado and she considered college there before dating me. However, we understand that we will stay here now and not move out of state. We’ve been dating for almost a year now and she’s applied to two universities there in Colorado.
I know the real reason is to have those colleges as backups in case we break up. Obviously, it’s a reasonable thing to do, but I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t sting.”