Some people go a little too extreme with what they want after a divorce. But these demands are just plain savage and incredibly selfish!
Tax Return Drama!
It said he was over $20,000 in arrears for child support and she said she took care of his kids. I told her his tax return got intercepted and that was the first she heard of that. She asked what was going to happen to it, and I said it would be transferred to her. But, she could just come in and fill out an affidavit and we could waive his arrears. She said she’d call me back. When she did, she asked how much the return was, and I told her I didn’t know. She said she’d call back again.
I talked to the guy about a week later, and he faxed me copies of canceled checks that he provided to the ex-wife on a weekly basis for slightly above the child support order amount. That was his problem. For child support, you submit the payments to the clerk of the court, not to the other spouse directly (it prevents this issue). He requested a hearing and got one granted.
I wanted to help this guy, but I couldn’t. I kept advising that he get a lawyer, but he didn’t listen. He showed up at the hearing with check duplicates and the wife said she got those checks from him for another child and that’s why she paid him directly. The judge ruled against him.
His tax return was around $6,200.”
He Never Helped Out!
“Mom and dad split when I was ten years old, but they haven’t officially divorced.
I had brain cancer growing up, so times were tough. My dad is the most irresponsible person you’ll ever meet, especially with money. So he moves out and my mom becomes a single mother. She asks for help but he can never afford it, so after about five years of not paying much child support, my mom decides to go to court to get him to pay.
He was ordered to pay by a court order, and he still doesn’t, so they start garnishing his wages off his paychecks. He was working up north on oil rigs making $100,000 a year. And he still couldn’t come up with payments. So they suspend his license and at this point, he’s paying $900 a month in child support. So this goes on for a few years while my mom keeps paying off the house she owns so we don’t become homeless, and supporting me, sometimes working three jobs at a time.
After all the medical stuff is settled with me, my dad decides he shouldn’t have to pay child support anymore, even though at this point I’m attending college and he’s behind on child support payments from the years that he didn’t pay. But he gets a good lawyer. Real good. He hasn’t filed his taxes in six years at this point, but the waive, and somehow come up with a budget that says he needs $5,000 a month for clothes. The judge goes along with it and is like ok, you don’t have to pay anymore and we’ll drop the $15,000 you owe in back pay as well.
So my mom is sitting there crying. What is she going to do now without that extra money each month? She had me when she was 19 years old and never went to college, so she doesn’t make much money. She’s managed to pay off the house by herself. It’s been a few years now since that happened and I still live in her house. I rent it from her with my boyfriend and we’re talking about buying it, and my dad, who’s lived in a different province for five years now hears about it, and his girlfriend decides, ‘Hey, let’s get you officially divorced from your ex and then she legally has to pay you 50 percent of what the house is worth.’
So now, not only do I have to up and move from this house I live in, but my mom is getting completely played, once again, and has to sell this place to pay my dad 50 percent of a house that she paid for with her own hard earned cash.
This guy has never given me support; the times when he had to drive me to the children’s hospital for my brain scans, he couldn’t afford gas, so my mom had to pay everything. Never paid a dime for my college; I had to work my butt off to afford that. He’s a piece of trash; he’s now ruining my partner’s and my life too. I hope my mom is able to get a good lawyer because she has paperwork proving that my dad only contributed $2,500 to this house. He doesn’t deserve that.”
Dumping Him After His Diagnosis?
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“My father was a plastic surgeon. He actually worked his way up from a janitor at a hospital that didn’t graduate high school, to getting through med school when he was in his mid-30s. He then went on to marry my mom, in his 40s (she was 20 years younger). They always had a strained relationship. He was a workaholic and had a drinking issue. My mother, on the other hand, was controlling and manipulative. I could see both of their issues at a young age.
I always knew they needed to be separated but it didn’t happen until my early 20s, which couldn’t have been a worse time. My dad lost a considerable amount of money during the recession, came down two types of cancer (prostate and colon), almost died and stopped practicing medicine. My mother decided this was the perfect time to divorce him and, in the process, take everything she could from him including my younger siblings. He fell into a depression, and still to this day thinks he loves this woman while she continues to take advantage of him.
I managed to help him win back his house in court but he lost every bit of cash and property.
It was a nightmare. He’s still dealing with it three years later. And I know it’s my mother, and I shouldn’t take sides, but she did some horrible things to my family. It’s taken years to recover from, and while it wasn’t all her fault she was the primary catalyst in the situation and didn’t have to be spiteful and take everything from a man who gave her everything.”