Love can be tested in many aspects. Sometimes all it takes are the small things in life, for people to realize that they really do love their partner.
He Validated Her Bitter Opinion!
“For years and years, I have not gotten along with my siblings and I can tell you exactly why. They are rude. Really rude. But only to me, and not when other people are around. They are underhanded but incredibly smart about it – and it makes me feel very crazy that no one else sees it or gets it. After going through 4 boyfriends through college, and none of them seeing it, I decided it was me, that I was going crazy, and decided not to mention it to my awesome S.O.
The first time my fiance ever met my siblings, everything went well. They were kind and smiley like they always are at family get-togethers… and I thought for sure – it’s going to happen again – he’s going to say (like every other bf has always said) ‘I think they’re nice!’
We get in the car, the doors close, and he looks at me, grabs my knee and says, ‘I really don’t like them. I’m sorry. They’re just… ugly people… ya know? Very rude.’
I can recall only a few times I’ve ever been so happy in my life. The validation!!!
But more than that, it solidified what I already knew about us – that we shared the same mind. I’ve felt it since the day we met – and we’ve been (almost literally) inseparable ever since. I have a sleepover with my best friend every night.”
Aw A Guy Who Isn’t Afraid Of Feminine Products!
“We were 17. I was at his house and I started my period (which at the time was very unpredictable in timing and flow). I only had one tampon with me. We had only been dating for a month, so after I bled through my pants I was naturally very embarrassed but told him I was going to have to go home and get some more pants.
There was a heavy coat of snow outside and my cramps were excruciating, so he told me to put on a pair of his boxers (that I also bled through) and that he would go out and get me some more tampons. He comes back about a half hour later with some Midol, ThermaCare heating pads, and Tampax pearls.
As he handed me the plastic bag he says, ‘I figured you would probably prefer the rounded plastic applicator opposed to the thick cardboard ones.’
Needless to say, I immediately knew he was a keeper.
Five years and two children later, we’re married and still going strong.”
The Hardest Thing She’s Ever Had To Do?
“I had been dating my SO for a couple of years, in a long distance relationship. It was at a point in the relationship where I knew I had to make a decision, and soon, whether or not to move across the country to live with her.
Long distance relationships simply can’t last for years, no matter how strong.
It wasn’t going to be an easy decision, though…it meant leaving a job I loved, moving far away from close friends I had grown up with, my family, etc.
Well, one evening we were talking on the phone, and she was telling me about her jury duty that day, where the lawyers asked prospective jurors various questions to determine who they wanted to pick for the case.
One of the questions they asked her was, ‘What is the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do?’ She didn’t want to tell me her answer, tried to change the subject, but I insisted.
Finally, she told me what her answer was: ‘Living apart from the person I’m in love with.’
I knew right then what my decision was, and within a few months, we were living together. Just the mental image I have of her standing up in a courthouse and saying that…that’s like something out of a movie. That’s when I knew.”
That Awkward Moment When You Sit On The Teriyaki Chicken And Rice
“The day I realized I loved my SO was when he sat on food.
I just made teriyaki chicken with rice, I was carrying the drinks to the dining table and he was carrying the two plates with him. The dining table was full of magazines so he placed one of the plates on one of the chairs and cleaned up the mess. He then sat on said chair, and then it took about half a second for him to realize what had just happened. All the while I just stood there in shock and strangely, felt this rush of love for him.
He stood up, teriyaki chicken still stuck on his shorts, with a ‘did I just really do that’ and a little bit of shame look on his face, it was the cutest thing I’ve ever seen. We laughed about it for a few minutes then decided to clean it up.
We managed to salvage some of the chicken and most of the rice and proceeded with our dinner.
It wasn’t until a few months later that I told him that was the defining moment for me.”
Even Though He Cheated On Her, She Still Stayed With Him?
“My story is not about my wife taking care of me… it is a little different.
Let me start by saying my wife is one of the happiest people I have ever met. She did not come from a broken home or have any kind of abandonment/parental issues. She is not emotionally unstable, or have attachment problems. She is not a controlling or angry person. She does not have low self-esteem. She is wonderful and beautiful, and that is what makes what I am about to write even more difficult for me to understand.
Now, I have always had a problem with fidelity in my life. I have consistently cheated in every long term relationship. I have dated 3-4 girls in parallel for 5-7 years multiple times in my life starting from high school and through college and graduate school. I am very good at keeping track of multiple relationships and handling the associated wheeling and dealing, so I was able to lie my way out of any problem. I did not understand why I did this, but I did not really care. I was getting satisfaction out of the validation.
Looking back on it I think I understand since I come from a very chaotic family history filled with all kinds of problems. But this is just the back story and the reasoning for why I did all this is not so important.
Then I met my wife. She was unbelievable, and like all girls before her, I continued to cheat. In fact, my wife was a girl with whom I was cheating at the same time on two my previous long-term relationships.
Everything was starting over in this relationship like clockwork. I was in the relationship and I started utilizing everything to my advantage to further my cheating. But, she is more wily than I first realized. When she first figured out the infidelity, she did get hurt, but she stayed with me. She even secretly suspected I was continuing to cheat, and she was correct. But, she stayed.
Then she did something no girl has ever been able to do before we dated. She systematically destroyed every relationship, each time feigning ignorance throughout the process. She would politely e-mail the correct people seemingly innocent questions that she knew would crush that connection. She posted precise information and planted incriminating data. It is not like she was just sharing all the information she could; she shared only exactly what was necessary to get the job done.
Finally, all the other girls were gone and we were engaged.
Before my wife and I got married, I warned her that I am just not a good person and I would never change. I told her I did not even think that I could change. I did not understand why she would want to marry me since I had cheated and lied so much. I told her that I would probably continue to cheat and lie, and I was sorry for who I was. Even though I loved her, I knew my faults.
That is when she blew my mind.
She asked me: if she thought I would change, then why would she marry me? She wanted to marry me because she loved the person I am. She knew I lied and cheated, and she knew why I did it, even though I did not understand. She did not care what I did, as long as I loved her and stayed by her side forever. She said that even though I had cheated and had other long-term relationships in the past, she was the dominant girl and could take down anything I think I can accomplish.
I cannot explain how I felt at that moment. At the same time, my fiancee said she loved me no matter what and that she was different than the other girls; she was very different. She just accepted my bad behavior. I have never felt such an amazing feeling of acceptance. She loved me in spite of myself… she did not care about how bad I am. Somehow, I made her life better. I know this sounds strange, and every relationship is unique. I knew at that moment this was forever.
That is when everything changed. That simple comment changed my life forever. She literally took the desire to be with other girls away from me. She basically gave me a pass to do whatever I want, but after she said that… all I wanted to do was to make her happy. She taught me what love really is. To be cliche, I thought I knew, but I had no idea.
It has been years now since that conversation. At the time, she did not realize what a big deal it was to me. It was just a quick chat in her mind but turned my thoughts inside out.
To this day I ask her if she did that on purpose…how did she get into my head? I know she meant what she said, but I still suspect she was manipulating me…or maybe not… it is so confusing. She still is ambiguous on whether or not she knew what she was doing. She jokes that she knew, but then says she was just having an innocent conversation. She is the only woman that has ever controlled me, and she does it well.
This was seriously the biggest mind game of my entire life. She still says it does not matter if I cheat because she will extinguish anything I accomplish in that realm. She fascinates me; she is amazing; she is the most beautiful, talented, interesting, caring, woman in the world. She is modest to top it all off. I find myself holding back the tears because she is the missing piece I have always been seeking. She changed my life, and I can never repay her for that.”
The Single Mother Who Found The Man That Treats Her Children So Well
“I was a single mother of two very young children. I started dating a guy I had been friends with for several years, who had never met my children.
The first time he met the kids, we took them on a picnic at a park. He impressed me all day with how natural he was with them, not at all annoyed by them but rather seemed to enjoy their company.
On the way home, a hot day in my car with no A/C, my youngest suddenly gets carsick and pukes all over herself. At this moment I figure it is a deal breaker, because ew.
He pulls into a gas station and goes in while I’m wiping her off with napkins I kept in my car, figuring so much for THAT relationship. He comes back with a bottle of water and helps me finish cleaning up. Helps me clean puke off of my child and the car seat on the very first day they met. I knew I had to keep him!
5 years later, my kids consider him their real dad and the other man, responsible for them being here, they call ‘B dad’ (all a matter of how you act, my husband is way more active in their life than the other guy is).”
He Supported Her Continental And Educational Dreams!
“I realized my husband was perfect for me when I was accepted to a Ph.D. program on a different continent. It was one of the best programs in the world, and it was a big deal that I was accepted.
Sadly, because of immigration laws (and my husband’s profession), he couldn’t go with me.
Without even hesitating he told me to go. I wasn’t sure, I didn’t want to have a long distance marriage, and all the complications that go with it. But he was adamant that I pursue my dreams, so I went.
We’ll be celebrating our 6 year anniversary this weekend (and we’ll be together).”
An Overwhelming Fever Turned A Breakup Into A Renewed Relationship
“A long time ago, my girlfriend and I had a fight and didn’t see each other for almost two weeks. It was one of those fights where you don’t remember exactly what set it off, but it escalated enough to where we just stormed off and didn’t talk to each other.
The two weeks apart was horrible. I missed her immensely, but my idiotic pride prevented me from calling her. That first weekend without her was completely miserable. During the second week, she actually called me to ask how I was doing. I said I was fine (I wasn’t). After some silence, she said that she thought I would call her sometime, and my stupid response was to ask ‘why?’ I could hear her tearing up, and then she hung up on me.
Again, my stupid pride kept getting the better of me.
After a day, I decided to finally call her, and apologize. Only she wouldn’t pick up my calls. This went on for several days. I finally decided to just head over to her place and apologize in person. I was in the mindset that I completely screwed things up, and if she didn’t want to get back together, then that was it.
I hopped on the subway and made my way to her apartment on Friday afternoon. It was raining pretty heavily that day, and I wasn’t feeling too good. It didn’t help that I wasn’t eating too well during that time period. It was about a 3km walk from the subway station to her place, and I didn’t bring an umbrella with me. I told myself that I came this far so I might as well finish what I came to do.
When I got to her doorstep, I was completely soaked, and I knew that I got a fever. Halfway through the walk, I was sneezing and coughing like crazy.
I knocked on her door, not even knowing if she was home. The door opened, and there she was. We just looked at each other for a while. I started my apology, but in between the coughing, sneezing, and heavy rainfall, it wasn’t going too well. I finally just blurted out that I missed her, but she replied with, ‘It didn’t seem that way.’
Well. That was it. It was over. I said that I was sorry, and started to walk away.
Not 10 seconds later, she ran outside and grabbed my arm. She dragged me back into her apartment, saying that I was in no condition to head back in the rain. When I got inside I nearly passed out. The fever had gotten to me, and she put me in her bed to rest. Keep in mind that this was Korea. College students don’t have large living areas, and her apartment was just a tiny one room with a bed, a table for studying, a small gas burner for cooking, and a bathroom to the side.
She gave me her only comfortable space for that entire weekend. Nursing and feeding me from one of the worst fevers I ever had. She slept on the ground with no additional blankets or pillows. She gave them all to me.
On Sunday is when the fever finally broke. I was actually cognitive enough to speak to her and asked why she did this even though I was a complete jerk to her. She said that she couldn’t just let me walk away like that. It would’ve been cruel, and she thought I wouldn’t make it to the train station without passing out in the middle of a rainstorm. She’s probably right. We talked that entire day, and by the evening I was actually feeling well enough to head outside. We went to a local Korean BBQ place and ate as much as the two of us ever could. I went home on Monday feeling completely better and called her that night to talk some more.
Two months later, I proposed to her. 8 years later and we’re still going strong.”
A Violent Encounter With His PTSD Didn’t Turn Her Away
“I’m an Iraq vet and have a case of PTSD. It’s usually unnoticeable, but sometimes when I get really drunk, it can get really bad…
So after Iraq, I was deployed to Korea by the Army. It hadn’t been long since I met my then girlfriend, and we were getting to know each other. In Korea, that means drinking. Yes, in the USA also, but even more so in Korea.
One time, I had one too many, and my mind (not my body, unfortunately) went blank for a second, and when my girlfriend tried to get my attention, I PTSD-jerk reacted, hitting her in the face.
I don’t remember this moment, but apparently, I didn’t black out for very long because I remember her yelling at me that I’d hit her, and me apologizing, saying I don’t remember happening and that I didn’t mean it. We’ve been dating for a week, or and maybe two? What would any girl do? She just upped and walked away, understandably.
I got really upset, at both my condition and myself, and drank some more. But not five minutes later, my girlfriend came back to take care of me. I was GONE by this point (you can drink A LOT in five minutes…) and when she came back, I was ranting and crying about how sorry I was about the things that happened over there.
She, a woman I met one to two weeks ago, stuck with me the entire night, talking me through all my craziness, and got me home. This is item one in a long list of events that made me wife her.
Also, she’s hot!”
He Knew How To Help Her Out With Her OCD
“Well… I have OCD and my fiance doesn’t and even though he doesn’t understand it completely he’s the only guy who didn’t leave me out of the fear of me holding him back (it’s coupled with agoraphobia). I remember sitting down with him and telling him all the crazy obsessions I had on a daily basis and he didn’t think I was insane, he accepted me.
I remember one instance, in particular, I was having a really hard time with the thought of my parents dying and I was in tears. I know he didn’t get it but he sat there and he listened while I babbled away about how I knew it was irrational and how frustrated and sad I was. I guess it’s not like other stories, but I realized he was someone I could trust and be with forever.”
She Helped Him Through His Chemo Treatments
“After two years of long distance dating (West to East Coast), my lovely fiancee (now) flew across the country and a day later we moved into our new apartment together.
Four days later, the searing back pain I thought was a pulled muscle from incorrectly moving boxes sends me to the emergency room.
Turns out I have cancer and a tumor on my spine. I am admitted directly to the oncology ward and don’t get to leave for 3 months while they blast chemo through me.
My wonderful lady unpacks and sets up our apartment, cooks me dinner every night so I don’t have to eat hospital food, sleeps on a cot next to my bed at the hospital and does every other conceivable thing she could possibly do to help me through it all.
You better believe I proposed!”
The Mustard Stain
“Back when my husband and I were still dating we went to a local fair. The true requirement for any fair outing is the giant corn dog which you slather with mustard. So as we’re getting our corn dogs and adding condiments I walk over to the mustard pump. As I press down on the pump nothing happens, so after checking to make sure it’s not clogged I pressed again.
Mustard went everywhere! EVERYWHERE! All over my favorite shirt, my jeans, my shoes, in my hair.
Oddly enough mustard did not end up on the corn dog.
I turned to my boyfriend and was just downtrodden. The stupid mustard pump had ruined my day and I just needed him to tell me it was ok and not to worry. He took one look at me, gave me a little smile and dunked his corn dog into his mustard. He then wiped the mustard across the front of his shirt and said, ‘there, we match now.’
We’ve been happily married for 5 years now, I honestly don’t know what I’d do without him. He’s an absolutely great man and I’m so glad I get to share my life with him.”
She Let Him Cry In Her Arms On The Second Date?
“Right when we started dating I found out my mom was diagnosed with dementia.
She disappeared and no one in my family knew where she was. I decide that my planned second date would still be ok. As I get to her apartment, it hits me that my mom, my intelligent, witty funny mom, was never going to be the same, that change for the worse was coming. Date opens up the door, right away sees that I am troubled, and invites me in.
I freaking lose it. Not like silent tears either. Giant, gasping for air, sort of sobbing. In her arms, on our SECOND date.
I look up, terrified that she will think I’m a chump or crazy, I hadn’t even explained what was bothering me yet. I look up, and she shows me the most beautiful smile I have ever seen. Like an angel smiling at me as I’m sobbing like a freaking baby.
Right then I knew. I knew it would somehow all be ok. My mom, life, everything.
I knew in my heart that this was the one. No surprise, no wow moment…just simple fact.
I am very lucky!”
Don’t Ever Take This Type Of Girl For Granted!
“When I woke up one morning, I was just being a total jerk. No reason really, just woke up in one of those moods ya know?
Anyhow, I’m griping, whining, generally making my SO miserable, and she looks up at me as I get ready to leave for work and says ‘I love you (me)’ Of course I didn’t want to hear it and walked out in a huff, I may have grunted some guttural reply, but nothing good.
At work, I got this sick feeling, like I was a terrible person, so I called her to apologize. She answers the phone and before I can say anything, ‘Hey Mr. Grouch! you forgot your lunch, but don’t worry, I’m at your work now and I brought it!’
I love that girl so much.”
She Just Knew That Something Happened To Him
“Okay so December 19th, 2011, I am on my way home from work. It is a chilly night and I’m on my motorbike. Then an accident happens, someone changes lane without checking and takes me out.
So as I lie there on the freeway I pull out my phone, text my girlfriend and I lied to her. I told her goodnight and that I love her acting as if nothing happened.
The ambulance arrived shortly after and I was taken to the hospital, when I woke up from surgery the nurse told me ‘your family is here so is your girlfriend.’ ‘Oh no,’ was all I said.
I asked her how she knew. She said she couldn’t sleep that night and had a feeling something had happened, so she started calling all of the hospitals in my city of anyone by my name had been admitted. She called my Mom and yeah…
I got out of the hospital on Christmas Eve and my girlfriend was there the whole time, every day by my side making sure that I was looked after.
I didn’t tell her or anyone about the accident yet they just knew.”